Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

[QUOTE=Pinaypounder;1610664]Higgins.

I am presently planning to bring a lady here to the West it may not happen but allot of energy and time is being invested. She is an employed single, Engineer and learned, no kids, bright and articulate just way to religious but I am hoping that she prefers Sunday Morning sex to church and we have discussed that bluntly and at length. She is attractive and kind very kind.

I told her frankly I need her help, my life is hard work I have several businesses, a home, 2 kids etc so I said 3 days a week she will work in one of my businesses in a legitimate role (she is bright after all) and 4 days a week she takes care of me she can volunteer, contribute tot he community, help the church I don't care as long as the house is clean, dinner is on the table and she stay fit!

All of this has truly been discussed.

The gifts of a filipina is their kindness if your lady is perhaps not as capable as mine then start a small day home and she can actually contribute to the family finances and it keeps her busy, they can clean and do things for people for money in a Western setting. I think that is a win win.

I think the key and I may be completely wrong is to be blunt and discuss your expectations and reasons why. I want this lady to help me make more money so I can do more great things with her on the weekends. She says that she gets that and agrees.

The girls we pick up and fuck in 30 minutes are not of the class and stature of this woman as it has been said, you can take the tiger out of the jungle. Very few men (but some) have had successful relationships with loose asian ladies. I have not even seen this lady naked yet, I will be unwrapping that package in about 16 days!

Finally if it proves to be a solid success I would adopt with her a child that needs us from here or from the phils. But it would be an older child! Creates good karma I think.

The key is to simply put forward honestly what works for you, in my opinion. And fuck have I invested allot of time and energy to this end.

PP.[/QUOTE]I never thought I'd ask others to not "over intellectualize" because I'm a very cerebral type. But please reading on ISG is only 20% of what you could ever understand "on the ground" from spending good amount of time in PH!

Understand the common threads w / PH girls, but know that there's too much on her that just creates stereotypes.

My best PH GF was working in a bar. She was smart as a whip, and going back and finishing college. I also dated college grads from good middle class families but she was truly the most fun to be with, in and out of bed. Yes there are TYPES in the PH but don't focus on that too much!

[QUOTE=Slippery;1612034]Does this question warrant an answer or an admonition?[/QUOTE]

I was assuming it was being asked humorously. I chuckled, anyway.

[QUOTE=RollAides;1611226]Gentlemen, I would like to point out that, on the other hand, having a woman in the position of not having anything to do all day represents an unprecedented opportunity to upgrade her into whatever the fuck you want. Perhaps, rather than approaching it from the angle of "how is she going to stay entertained", one might prefer the approach of, "what can I make her into. " Any chick I am interested for more than an overnight or so, gets sent to yoga (or TRX, or a personal trainer if I think she's worth it.) Not expensive here. Three nights a week for a month at my local aerobics studio, is less than a decent dinner for two. Personal services and education are like all labor costs, vastly less expensive in comparison to solid goods here. But even if you are living in your home country, if you can afford to live there, then you can probably afford to keep your chick out from in front of the fucking TV.

And there's generally very little resistance. For a women brought up in developing country, it's something exotic, a total luxury, something she can brag to her friends about. Maybe she wants to finish school. Fantastic. Isn't an educated woman more fun to talk to (and to fuck) than an ignorant peasant? Then again, maybe she likes to sing, sew, dance, sculpt, whatever. Who gives a shit which as long as she's into it and she's improving her life and yours. What I am trying to point out is, that with a dependent GF or wife or whatever, there is an opportunity to help them form themselves into something that you are going to enjoy even more, and you're a fool if you don't take it. A lot of these girls would like to improve themselves, they would like it a lot, but they've never had the opportunity. Give it to them, in fact force them into it if you have to. It's your opportunity too. The majority will not have to be forced, they genuinely would love it, whether it's to make their friends jealous with their figure, look better and feel better, or just because they actually enjoy being a smarter, more developed person. And you . . . get the chance to have a female of a caliber that you could never hope for in a developed country. Tailored to your likes. If you will take the minimal effort, and moderate expense, to craft the raw material into something more refined and pleasing.

So don't set your Filipina down in front of the goddamned cable set or Wii or Facebook. Send her to the gym, to school, give her projects and opportunities. Find out what she likes to do and make a way for her to do more of it, to her and your benefit. Set some fucking rules. If you want to be with me you will keep yourself in shape and improve yourself. And I will pay for it and we will both win. If a girl says no to that, then she's too stupid to consider for long-term anyway.[/QUOTE]Excellent, I sent my chick back to school and she is learning to cook also. Much better than telenovelas.

[QUOTE=WanderLuster;1612073]I never thought I'd ask others to not "over intellectualize" because I'm a very cerebral type. But please reading on ISG is only 20% of what you could ever understand "on the ground" from spending good amount of time in PH!

Understand the common threads w / PH girls, but know that there's too much on her that just creates stereotypes.

My best PH GF was working in a bar. She was smart as a whip, and going back and finishing college. I also dated college grads from good middle class families but she was truly the most fun to be with, in and out of bed. Yes there are TYPES in the PH but don't focus on that too much![/QUOTE]I am not sure what your point was. I am on the ground 8 - 10 week s a year here!

PP.

[QUOTE=Dirtdog;1612548]Excellent, I sent my chick back to school and she is learning to cook also. Much better than telenovelas.[/QUOTE]I certainly agree will Rolaides point about keeping them busy and who does not prefer a tighter fitter partner. I can only assume that is is for men that pay their women to be at their beck and call and that do not want them to work. WHY??

Here in the West we Work, exercise clean our homes, raise our kids and do all. Why do some of you feel compelled to not make them work?

Every trouble maker I have encountered is an Internet Fisher lady. The women I date more than 4 hours have jobs, some have kids and some know how ot be contributing members of society.

You wan tot keep them out of trouble make them work, I am not the Red Cross, If they don't work or don't want to work that is not the type of woman I am interested beyond fucking!

Idle hands are the Devils workshop!

PP.

I am married to a filipina I live in the US My wife lives in the Phils We had a big fight with her parents. Her parents wanted more money from me even though I was sending significant amounts We refused and they threw my wife out of their home and threatened to kill her. I came to my wifes defense and had a very heated arguement with her father. I m planning on going to phils next month but I'm concerned her parents have filed a complaint with BI. I want to slip into the country for a little action prior to meeting my wife. I don't want any surprises getting into or worse out of the country with immigration.

Advice any one?

[QUOTE=W20415;1631372]I am married to a filipina I live in the US My wife lives in the Phils We had a big fight with her parents. Her parents wanted more money from me even though I was sending significant amounts We refused and they threw my wife out of their home and threatened to kill her. I came to my wifes defense and had a very heated arguement with her father. I m planning on going to phils next month but I'm concerned her parents have filed a complaint with BI. I want to slip into the country for a little action prior to meeting my wife. I don't want any surprises getting into or worse out of the country with immigration. Advise any one?[/QUOTE]You want side action before you meet your wife. No wonder the parents are mad at you you have no morels and don; t respect your wife much. Maybe if you was a better husband all this would not be happening. Might has well divorce her and let her heal from all the abuse you given her.

[QUOTE=Mongerer69;1611345]I was thinking of adopting an older child also. A 19 year old Filipina and bringing her back to the States. Does anybody know how I should start the paperwork?[/QUOTE]If she's 19 she's is not a child I assume she is a she cause you wrote filipina. Whats the purpose of doing this? If its a adoption then the relationship between you 2 has to be a father daughter relationship period IMO. WHAT IS YOUR PURPOSE FOR DOING THIS THINK ABOUT IT?

[QUOTE=Streetlooker;1631510]If she's 19 she's is not a child I assume she is a she cause you wrote filipina. Whats the purpose of doing this? If its a adoption then the relationship between you 2 has to be a father daughter relationship period IMO. WHAT IS YOUR PURPOSE FOR DOING THIS THINK ABOUT IT?[/QUOTE]I think some courts in the states allow adoption of an adult for valid reasons. M69 should consult a family law attorney in his state for proper determination and possibly if HE is serious.

[QUOTE=W20415;1631372]I am married to a filipina I live in the US My wife lives in the Phils We had a big fight with her parents. Her parents wanted more money from me even though I was sending significant amounts We refused and they threw my wife out of their home and threatened to kill her. I came to my wifes defense and had a very heated arguement with her father. I m planning on going to phils next month but I'm concerned her parents have filed a complaint with BI. I want to slip into the country for a little action prior to meeting my wife. I don't want any surprises getting into or worse out of the country with immigration. Advise any one?[/QUOTE]Its a corrupt third world country. Never challenge any of them on their home turf. Ever.

The poor families use fists, sticks, stones, knives & are not unknown to run to PNP / NBI / BI etc with concocted stories that will land you in very uncomfortable circumstances. Deportation if you are lucky or worse.

The rich families are well connected & can put you in a world of hurt easily or discreetly dead with little effort.

If they have thrown your 'wife' out of the family home & made death threats I would take them seriously. Do not go to the Phil's, monger someplace else. I would try to pour oil on the waters (bribe them) to placate them then cut off contact when things calm down. In time you can return to the PI but obviously not contact with them ever again.

By the way have you spared a thought for your 'wife'? What are you doing about her plight?

AV.

[QUOTE=Dg8787;1631525]I think some courts in the states allow adoption of an adult for valid reasons. M69 should consult a family law attorney in his state for proper determination and possibly if HE is serious.[/QUOTE]The fertile octogenarian rule.

[QUOTE=Streetlooker;1631503]You want side action before you meet your wife. No wonder the parents are mad at you you have no morels and don; t respect your wife much. Maybe if you was a better husband all this would not be happening. Might has well divorce her and let her heal from all the abuse you given her.[/QUOTE]I think you missed the point or are confused, the issue the OP is having is with his in-laws over $$. And if the bro wants to screw around behind his wife's back that's his business, who are you to judge?

[QUOTE=Amavida;1631631]Its a corrupt third world country. Never challenge any of them on their home turf. Ever.

The poor families use fists, sticks, stones, knives & are not unknown to run to PNP / NBI / BI etc with concocted stories that will land you in very uncomfortable circumstances. Deportation if you are lucky or worse.

The rich families are well connected & can put you in a world of hurt easily or discreetly dead with little effort.
[/QUOTE]Good points AV, and even many of them who are not rich may have a family member or three working for the PNP, etc.

[QUOTE=W20415;1631372]I am married to a filipina I live in the US My wife lives in the Phils We had a big fight with her parents. Her parents wanted more money from me even though I was sending significant amounts We refused and they threw my wife out of their home and threatened to kill her. I came to my wifes defense and had a very heated arguement with her father. I m planning on going to phils next month but I'm concerned her parents have filed a complaint with BI. I want to slip into the country for a little action prior to meeting my wife. I don't want any surprises getting into or worse out of the country with immigration. Advise any one?[/QUOTE]Try contacting the Philippine Embassy (or Consulate for your region in the USA) and ask them to run an NBI background check. You can either make up an excuse to get it or be honest with them about the reason you need it.

[QUOTE=W20415;1631372]I am married to a filipina I live in the US My wife lives in the Phils We had a big fight with her parents. Her parents wanted more money from me even though I was sending significant amounts We refused and they threw my wife out of their home and threatened to kill her. I came to my wifes defense and had a very heated arguement with her father. I m planning on going to phils next month but I'm concerned her parents have filed a complaint with BI. I want to slip into the country for a little action prior to meeting my wife. I don't want any surprises getting into or worse out of the country with immigration. Advise any one?[/QUOTE]Looks like you have a lot of volunteers to "advice" you on your situation. But to me the base story does not make any sense. Why would her parents KILL their daughter? That would be killing the cash cow, right? How much money are these bloodsuckers going to get if she is dead? Where is your wife living now that she has been thrown out of the house? Relatives? Friends? Etc. ? Why are you worried about the BI? Would there be any valid reason they could file a complaint (e. G. You have taken pornographic pics or broken some other law etc.)? Do you think that they can file a complaint that their kano son in law is not sending remittances sufficient to their needs? Why do you believe they could make a complaint to BI (remember, BI will only care about CRIMINAL acts) that would make them throw up a dragnet at airport immigration? Are they even wealthy enough to really file a complaint with teeth? I am assuming since they are sponging off the kano son in law that they have little means to get a trumped-up complaint to stick. Something is a bit off here, so I wouldn't offer more "advise" based on the scenario without more facts. Good luck and enjoy the Philippines, AsianRain.

It costs about 3,000 pesos to have someone assassinated in the Phils.

If you want to take your life in your hands, then so be it.

They will punish your wife mercilessly until you cough up.

These people belong to a culture called "hunter-gatherer". You belong to a culture called "agrarian".

In a hunter gatherer culture, everybody owns everything, and the head man owns it all. In their culture, your wealth is now family property.

If you do not hand over what they want or need, then it is the responsibility of their daughter to get it from you.

If that means that they beat her, toss her into the street, that is quite legitimate.

You had better begin to read about hunter-gatherer culture, because you are now right in the middle of it.

In this culture, everything that they have said, done, and threatened is perfectly legitimate.

G.

[QUOTE=W20415;1631372]I am married to a filipina I live in the US My wife lives in the Phils We had a big fight with her parents. Her parents wanted more money from me even though I was sending significant amounts We refused and they threw my wife out of their home and threatened to kill her. I came to my wifes defense and had a very heated arguement with her father. I m planning on going to phils next month but I'm concerned her parents have filed a complaint with BI. I want to slip into the country for a little action prior to meeting my wife. I don't want any surprises getting into or worse out of the country with immigration. Advise any one?[/QUOTE]