You did the honorable thing, but I'm not arguing that pregnancy should necessarily equal marriage, just that it's necessary to assume some financial responsibility for your actions.
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You did the honorable thing, but I'm not arguing that pregnancy should necessarily equal marriage, just that it's necessary to assume some financial responsibility for your actions.
Mind understanding is that Leeroy182 has already fathered some kids from More than one Filipina in Phil on his previous visits and he has had contact from the Mother's asking for Support?
He claims one of theses Filipinas are the woman of his dreams. Says he wouldn't mind dropping some child support and continuing a relationship with her.
His plans are to avoid them we he returns and knock up some new ones looks like.
Leroy182 why don't you clarify some of this for us?
[QUOTE=Econo Tech]I get his drift that he wants to make girls pregnant. Or am I too missing something here?[/QUOTE][QUOTE=Leeroy182]No, I don't know for sure.
None that I know of 100%.
Is anyone available for PM about PI?[/QUOTE][QUOTE=Originally Posted by Leeroy182
Hey Guys,
Might have to avoid a few baby momma's when I reach land, but other than that nothing but good memories of the Phillipines
I met the Filipino girl of my dreams. (Potential baby momma, wouldn't mind dropping her some child support, and continuing a relatinoship actually).
Cheers![/QUOTE]
I don't know how old you are or what your financial situation is, but considering your comments. I'd say it's not too late to get on with your life.
You didn't say if the old ball and chain was a Filipina or something other or if you"ve even been to the Philippines. My son is 17, should be in a very expensive college soon.
I've made a lot of unexpected and /or wrong turns in my life, but like Dorothy in W of Oz, those turns somhow have turned out okay, sometimes great. I'm not financially rich, but I can't complain about much. There was that college girl right around when the missus dumped me. The collegiate provided much imoral support.
Some people bungie jump off a cliff for their thrills. Some people travel down the road unknown.
[QUOTE=Whatsgoingon]Interesting post this one. Whilst I completely agree that if you have fathered some kid somewhere you should take on some responsibility, as someone who married 16 years ago after making my GF pregnant I am on the verge of a divorce because I married not for love or things in common but because I made a stupid mistake at a young age.
In hindsight maybe I should have sent money regularly and got on with my life.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=X Man]
Some people bungie jump off a cliff for their thrills. Some people travel down the road unknown.[/QUOTE]
And some monger to the day they die..andy enjoy sisters :D
No, no contact from any mothers, just a tasteless joke. Good to see that there is still some honor among mongers. I like many other mongers have other obligations of course, if you catch my drift, so unfortunatly it isn't quite as easy as going back and bringing her back to the states. Again, didn't mean to offend anyone with any of the comments. I'm just someone who probably needs to be more careful and safe with his future endeavors.
[QUOTE=Wicked Roger]And some monger to the day they die..andy enjoy sisters :D[/QUOTE]
Thanks WR, trust you to bring it back on topic.....!
I used to curse all of the Pinoy and foreign sob's who so callously knocked up Filipinas and dumped them.
Then I had first-hand experience of Filipinas who were desperately trying to get pregnant. Some either want a baby, are hoping to get a commitment and ride the foreign gravy train, and still others figure, worst case, mom and dad will raise the kid.
I'm no longer so quick to buy the sob story of the insensitive bastard who impregnated and dumped her.
[QUOTE=GregLondon]The Phils is over run by Pinoy guys who have a totally irresponsible attitude towards getting girls pregnant. I don't see any reason why theoretically better educated foreigners should add to the trauma.[/QUOTE]Me either but they do. BTW in my experience the girls are totally irresponsible also. YMMV.
AV
[QUOTE=Amavida]Me either but they do. BTW in my experience the girls are totally irresponsible also. YMMV.
AV[/QUOTE]I have to agree with AV on this one, not that it excuses the sloppiness of Foreigners and the moral duty they have to at least throw some money at their kids they create.
My barfine in AC wrapped her legs around me so tightly that I couldn't pull out when it was time. I told her flat out that if she got pregnant I would send her a little money each month but that's it. (I don't marry strangers-LOL.) Afterwards I asked her if she was on the pill and she scrunched up her face and said "Take pills? " as if it was the worst thing in the world to do or something. And she was a very smart college graduate, just imagine how ignorant the high school dropouts are. Plus she was in her prime ferility period (she started doing some math after we were done) and from then on she always wanted me to pull out, which was not a problem.
Even if a chick trapped me, I would still throw some money each month at her for the kids' sake and hope she actually spends it on the kid. After the blood test that is.
Gonzo
[QUOTE=Gonzofiend]My barfine in AC wrapped her legs around me so tightly that I couldn't pull out when it was time. I told her flat out that if she got pregnant I would send her a little money each month but that's it. (I don't marry strangers-LOL.) Afterwards I asked her if she was on the pill and she scrunched up her face and said "Take pills? " as if it was the worst thing in the world to do or something. And she was a very smart college graduate, just imagine how ignorant the high school dropouts are. Plus she was in her prime ferility period (she started doing some math after we were done) and from then on she always wanted me to pull out, which was not a problem.[/QUOTE]Not much of education, but filipinas (maybe the church said so.) believe pills make them become barren, hence their aversion to pills.
My 2 cents. As experienced from a few health care girls (I. E. Nurses)
When I said I met the PI woman of my dreams, I wasn't lying. I would have loved to continue contact with her since my last visit, but I suppose she scribbled her number incorrectly, since I have not been able to contact her. Definitely not trying to avoid her. I had heard from other people that the illegitimate pregnancy rate in the PI was pretty ridiculous.
[QUOTE=SergeantRay]I used to curse all of the Pinoy and foreign sob's who so callously knocked up Filipinas and dumped them.
Then I had first-hand experience of Filipinas who were desperately trying to get pregnant. Some either want a baby, are hoping to get a commitment and ride the foreign gravy train, and still others figure, worst case, mom and dad will raise the kid.
I'm no longer so quick to buy the sob story of the insensitive bastard who impregnated and dumped her.[/QUOTE]
Admittedly, responsibility is a two way street, but the girl cannot escape the consequences of her actions. It's she who must, after all, raise the child, and is thus forced into accepting her share of the consequences. Guys however, don't suffer from any "automatic" share of responsibility and can just run, which many of them do.
GE
While some of you are cursing the pinoy who abandons his gf when she gets pregnant, it is worth keeping in mind that almost all of our sexual and social behaviour is taught to us by our mothers.
It is not taught by word of mouth, but by facial expression.
So the guy behaves that way because his mother trained him to behave that way.
Given that young men and women are very closely controlled by their parents till they are often in late 20's or early 30's, I suspect that many are told by their parents, or forced by their parents, to skip.
When these guys do a runner, where do they run to? Why does the girl's family not track him down and force the issue?
It is not hard to find people in the Philippines.
If we want to change theirbehaviour, then we must change the women of the Philippines before they raise their sons to behave that way.
Many times, when a filipina tells me of her tale of woe, it includes a statement that he then married another woman, and now he has 3 kids. So why did he skip on the first, only to marry very soon afterwards?
Maybe his family had a lot to do with it.
This is far more complicated than is apparent to the simplistic western eye.
G
Fellow mongers, I need help. I'm coming to AC in a week or two. I live in Taiwan. I have for almost a month tried unsuccessfully set up an account with Date in Asia. I get all the way to the part where they are supposed to send an SMS to my cell phone with an authorization code -- but the SMS never shows up. I've tried numerous occasions -- epic fail.
Anybody got any clues, hints or advice? I really want to get on this site before I get to town. Thanks in advance.
[QUOTE=Gonzofiend]My barfine in AC wrapped her legs around me so tightly that I couldn't pull out when it was time. I told her flat out that if she got pregnant I would send her a little money each month but that's it. (I don't marry strangers-LOL.) Afterwards I asked her if she was on the pill and she scrunched up her face and said "Take pills? " as if it was the worst thing in the world to do or something. And she was a very smart college graduate, just imagine how ignorant the high school dropouts are. Plus she was in her prime ferility period (she started doing some math after we were done) and from then on she always wanted me to pull out, which was not a problem.[/QUOTE]You do realize that withdrawal is a lousy birth-control method, right?