The To-Do List - a different approach??
As always, like Ms. Nursey, the UAE threads are one of my ports of call when opening up ISG and provide much information and entertainment. Thanks to all contributors. While often traveling and contributing back on my inspections of the roads and the occasional potholes in mongerdom, I have not yet made it to Dubai and AD in spite of several invitations from members to "come on down". I shall do so when time permits.
I would like to add to the running comments about service levels and disputes between providers and guests over the same with my own observations for what they are worth.
The transactions that we are describing and happily partake in are ones that are or should be between consenting adults. Willing buyer and seller. Much of the 'disputes' and aggro that has been described below between Customers and Providers should never arise. During the initial job interview it really is a simple matter to quietly and in detail discuss what services are required and offered, the level of remuneration to be agreed and the time duration. It really isn't much more difficult that that to cover the bases and for both parties (or more than two if the occasion calls for it) to come to a friendly and detailed job specification and remuneration schedule, or not. One should always try to be selective even with the clouds of lust swirling and estrogen wafting through the air. Saying that, I can easily and truthfully confess to letting myself down when things became for whatever reason ‘overheated’.
There really is no need for surprises, aggro, or in most cases disappointments for any of the parties if a truthful exchange of ideas and expectations takes place.
There are situations in which a provider does not respect what has been agreed and indeed unfortunately there are a small proportion of providers who do this repeatedly and knowingly. These ladies are to be avoided and it is mostly incumbent upon the customer to try to sort them out in the interview. Good interviewing technique is an invaluable tool to the full enjoyment of our hobby. And then there are the assholes that inflict themselves upon providers simply because they are unlikely to be able to do so in other areas of life and are looking to make up for their own inadequacies.
When a provider is less than forthcoming in her interview or in the room, there is but one answer that a gentleman can give and that is to hit them and hit them hard - in the pocket book !!! Avoid them, dismiss them early if need be with a full explanation of why and move on, do not patronize them and preferable identify them but always with the caveat that YMMV, as it often does. Since two (or more) human beings are involved, 'chemistry' does play a large part in the interview process and after. Sometimes it is there, sometimes it isn't. I also subscribe to the theory that respect going in on both sides is the foundation of great sessions and even in the interview when an interviewee is found for whatever reason to be missing something to progress to the next stage, a very respectful dismissal that saves face all around doesn't cost anything but does keep a good atmosphere in the club or wherever. It can gain very good points with the following interviewees - the girls do talk amongst themselves and transmit instantly 'who is hot(a good and respectful prospect) and who is not'. Often there are more ‘not’s’ in the club or bar than hots. Which one all things being more or less equal or indeed even if the offer is a bit less form the hot do you think most providers will go for? Why not lengthen your odds of a great session by being respectful?
Enough of this. But I leave you with a thought from last week's mongering in sunny climes that is apt. Accompanied by a very Senior member of this Board, we made our way through a number of clubs and conducted many interviews of which there were a number of successful applicants all who during the course of the rest of the night provided at least what was discussed and agreed and in most cases more, very much more. All the unsuccessful candidates were dismissed from further consideration respectfully and with a smile and thanks for their time.
One of the most interesting comments back from an interviewee to my colleague who ascribes to the same school of interview thought as the delightful expectations for the evening were being reviewed and agreed upon was a heartfelt: "Thank goodness !!! Finally a man in XXXXX, who knows and can say what he wants in a session up front".
The feelings on both sides are universal and transportable to most climes and situations.
Do enjoy and of course every club/bar visit is a learning experience.
