[QUOTE=Country John]It's business, purely business.
Country John[/QUOTE]Of course it is business for the prostitute, although some prostitutes become addicted, too. "Getting out of the life" isn't merely about the money, IMO. For some, it is a compulsive, self-destructive behavior that involves elements of addiction, such as shame, dishonesty, risk and anxiety, and issues of control and relief.
But it isn't business for me, it's a compulsion, because it involves excitement, or anxiety, depending on one's definition, similar to the excitement or anxiety that some people experience when they sit down at a blackjack table. While there are some "professional" gamblers, the successful gamblers rarely, if ever, veer from the mathematical calculations or other "rules" that assist them in winning. I also refer to mongering as a hobby, but it is distinct from a "hobby" in a variety of ways, particularly that I wouldn't keep a secret of my other hobbies, even if my other hobbies involved some risk. For example, in common language, we don't usually refer to bungie jumpers as hobbyists, but rather refer to them as "thrill seekers. " I like the chase, searching for the great score, like a compulsive shopper is looking for the best deal, even if they only saved a few pennies or dollars. I don't necessarily like the risk, but the risk creates an element of excitement and anxiety. And unlike the "bargain shopper, " mongering in TJ isn't a bargain, unless one lives close to the border. For the price of gas, the time, the drinks, and the fees, a monger could bang a reliable escort (but what fun would that be; that would merely be a f ck. The "compulsive shopper, " on the other hand, makes impulsive or obsessive purchases, which are compulsive because the impulsive or obsessive purchases eventually bring shame, and possibly financial hardship, to the compulsive shopper. The monger who walks the alley and visits the various bars, searching for the "right" girl, is acting obsessively, since, if he merely wanted to get laid, he would just get laid and get it over with. That wouldn't be any fun for me, however, as I want to peruse the BG and SG before I make my selection (s).
Interesting hobby that we have, some of us.
And CJ, I agree with everything that you wrote.
Just my. 02
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