Dealing with a a non-pro vs a pro
[QUOTE=HarigeHarry;2613570]That's why it's better not to repeat with the same girl. I know sometimes that's hard because some girls just make you feel so good. But falling in love and then even starting a relationship with one is really Russian Roulette.
Leave some money in your room that she'll 100% notice and then give her all the opportunity to steal it. Some of these girls will! Actually, once it was more of an incident and I didn't leave the money on purpose, but this girl also seemed like a sweetheart, yet she stole money out of my wallet! Also is this girl doing drugs, think twice! And if she tells you she's falling in love with you, but still wants you to pay her, then you know enough too. Just some simple pointers. But I'd say, like others already said here: Run away![/QUOTE]Some backgroung here. The original poster is dealing with a girl who at least claims to be a non-pro. Which is different from dealing with a pro. It is way way more dangerous for someone who like you say may fall in love easily. Put it another way someone who "falls in love" easily is prey for the pretator if they start messing around with foreigners over the internet. It is different for them beause unlike myself and probably most long term BMs they are not jaded and / or wisened to what all these chicas are cabable of. They can be the sexiest and sweetest con artist around. Sweet sexy smiles and crocodile tears. They can be crazy enough to believe all their own lies and that's what makes them believable to others. "mi abuela necesita este medicamento o se va a morir" (My grandmother needs this medication or she is going to die). If the guy turns to butter. Then he will be toast.
I figure most of these woman must turn to dating websites with gringos on them because they want to improve their financial situation. That's why most guys report that Colombian girlfriends cost us more in the long run than straight pay-to-play. The poster says he told her that he did not have money but that he was going to starting work. She may (or may not) be playing a long con with him and figures he will pay down the road once she has his confidence. Not to mention she may be talking to 5 gringos a day so he is a back burner project for her. If they were simply looking for "love" , why would they leave their own front yard, why not just date locally? It would be a lot less complicated. So you must assume that money this is their motive and just how greedy they are and how dishonest is going to vary. (at least this is my jaded attitude? There are situations where a gringo hooks up with a Colombian and either moves there or brings her back to his country and it works out. I have heard of a few. A few. But even still he may never know if she really loves him or if she loves the security he provides and maybe it does not even matter in those situations.
There was a situation in Barranquilla where a man moved from the USA down to Colombia to start a new life with a Colombian women he had been having an online relationship with. I do not know all the details, like how many times he visited before pulling the trigger and then moving but he ended up buying a house with a first floor commercial unit where he could open up his restaurant. He ended up being murdured just outside his new home. Some people say he was murdured for his gold chain that he was wearing but there was also lots of specualtiong that this was just a cover becuase after his death the woman now owns the property. I do not know if anyone found out the truth.
Now when it comes to dealing with professionals you must assume that they would steal from you if given the oppurtunity. You do not suspect that they might, you assume that they will. That does not mean that you should not repeat. It means you keep your shit secure and your AO sewed up tight. Use a building that has security etc. In your situation where you offer to test them. You are not offering papaya. You are giving them the papaya (that is my rephrasing of what Mr E said) You can look up what "offering papaya" means to Colombian. Most chicas I deal with on a regular basis are smart enough not to steal some lousy money when they know they would blow it with repeating with me. Its not out of the honesty of their hearts but out of calculation. That is not say that one of them is capable of getting strung out on drugs and lose perspective. BMs have reported being robbed by chicas who they thought they could trust before. So it is always wiser to keep your shit secured.