I use seeking in India and abroad. And I have been using this site for few years now. These are some of the observations I have on SA in India. Almost all of you, I am sure know this.
The fundamental premise is demand and supply. More often than not, ladies act as if they are in absolute demand and can land any man for any of their expectations. This demand gap is acute in few cities, especially like Chennai or Kerala while it is not that much in cities like Mumbai or Bangalore. I do not entertain profiles that act as if they are doing us a favour. This is not just the GPS we talk about here but the overall attitude. In first few messages, we get an idea of the person and I try to stay away even if that means walking away from a very good looking profile. From my experience, they carry that air even on a date and just spoil the whole day for me.
Second, what does one seek. This vary between either one of us and frankly, varies depending on the mood we are in. Similarly, there are profiles who have different needs and approaches – some will strictly meet and leave, some will want to be compensated for a date, some want to feel the 'vibe', some more just want to drag things off over many many paid dates, some seek long term SD and some, just want quick buck. So, we have to be clear on what we want and it helps to be upfront on what we expect and what the other person expects. I have less time to spend on elaborate chats over many days to ask what the other seek.
Third, expenses. Most of the time, it boils down to what we spend and what we get in return. If we have a set amount in mind that we can spend on this monthly / yearly and willing to take a chance, it does work wonders. Going on dates, spending on dates and occasionally spending on a paid date provided you get a feeling that it would work out between you two makes SA worth it. A lot of chats do not materialise because of misplaced expectations and our spending limits. Be clear on what you can spend on a person or SA as a whole. Because, it slowly adds up to a villa or two in a small town, every year.
Fourth, limit. I know of instances where things have gotten out of hand and SA mixing up with personal life and causing issues. There are instances of it. Unless you seek a GF, which I hope you are not, using SA within a limit is paramount. I stay away from crazy people who down 10 drinks in a date and lose themselves or make call at 2 am or heavy stoner etc.
Fifth, control. I enjoy having someone eye candy and show off. This is a high that I personally enjoy. Sometimes, that had made me do things that I regretted later. Now that I have been in SA for few years, I do keep those in check. So, for new beginners, beware.
Sixth, scams. There are scams that are obvious and there are well planned scams that end up with us losing more money and worse. Please be careful and you have to be the judge for yourself.
Sorry for repeating whatever you already know. Have fun!
