Not all girls are the same
[QUOTE=Scorchin;1747711]You do not seem to recognise that any bar girl will welcome a chance to live with you. Plus her nuclear family, plus her extended family, plus her village friends, plus her sick cow and then payments for her grandmother's funeral, and repairs to her parent's car, house.......
All the time she will of course be milking three or four other suckers outside the country.
The problem comes when boy friend comes to PP and wants full time servicing.
Please wise up - "take her to on the town once a week" - to her old bar (where you will have a bar bill the like of which would buy you a apartment in NYC).[/QUOTE]Don't tar every girl with the same brush. There are a number of reasons that girls drift into bar work a lot see it as a easy life, some do it as a necessity and some are persuaded to leave their job in a garment factory and follow a friend.
I met a girl who had just started work in a bar I used to visit and eight years later we are still together, I help out with her expenses including $160 per month for a simple apartment which I use on my regular visits to PP I also help her family with things such as a water pump and building a toilet to save them and me shitting in the fields. They have asked to borrow small amounts on occasions but have always repaid promptly but they have never asked for me to just give money.
Don't get too defensive -
[QUOTE=Riverstar;1749050]I have read Private Dance and have worked with Stephen Leather on several projects, Private Dancer is a good read but one shouldn't treat it as totally factual account.[/QUOTE]Private Dancr encapsualted much that happens in Thai / Farang relationships and may not be 'totally' factual but, for example, pages and pages of Stickman Letters over the years chronicle disatrous relationship.
Good luck but don't discount the need for a touch of realism.