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[QUOTE=Barfiner]To all: many thanks for your feedback! Yes, first of all it could be possible that I am the father. Secondly, and this is the worst part, the hotel staff disclosed all my private data like e-mail address etc to this bargirl! And now I fear that she could start blackmailing me since she knows that I have family. Stupidly I have sent already twice some supporting money to her. But I fear that if I stop it then she could contact my family and then I would be in deepest shit. I know that I am an idiot, but now I am really so damn scared, can't sleep and don't know what to do. And if I would meet her again, let's say for a test, who knows if she does not use this moment to come with brothers, friends or police in order to screw me up.[/QUOTE]Firstly. The hotel had no right to do that.

And secondly, are you sure it was the hotel? I know filipinas are not dumb as painted, and while you are sleeping they would have done their search and record.

Anyway, mostly it is hot air. Trying to threaten. And secondly, refuse to meet her. Unless and until the baby is born and tested nobody can demand shit.

Get a PI. Or look up a lawyer back home. They will have a counterpart lawyer to meet and get the DNA sample.

Dang. You seem very stressed.

[QUOTE=Mr Enternational]Because she had to wait until it finished baking to see who it came out looking like.[/QUOTE]Nah. I am going to dispute that. She waited 9 months to narrow down the 'best choice' sucker.

[QUOTE]As bad as women say that guys are they also do some scandalous shit. When I was in the Navy fucking a non-pro in San Diego she got pregnant and told me. However she was in love with another guy. She told me the baby was not mine when she first found out she was pregnant. I'm thinking how the hell does she know that and it's not even born yet. But I guess because she wanted to keep him and I was a fling she would say it was his by default.[/QUOTE]Well, to be honest, from a non-whoring scene. I know enough girls, including Filipinas, who swear "mummy knows who is the father" and also had a couple who knew the legal husband wasn't the father of the baby, even though the dates were a bit muddled up. But then again. The choice of best support for the child + mummy and possibly the whole barangay rears it's head.

[QUOTE](Another thing to tell the Filipina is that it is impossible for you to have children because you had surgery and see how she reacts to that.)[/QUOTE]Standard Operating procedure: She will tell that your document is fake, then swear you are a liar (damn, that's one word filipinos love.) and then swear you will rot in hell and karma and all that. And then swear you have a fake certificate since it is not notarised by a Filipino Attorney. There you go. But no harm trying. Or even better. Get a doctor to write up a report saying the sperm count / reproductive health on your sperm was extremely low to the extent of no-chance- The doctor will not get into trouble as there is a case of 'at the time of testing. ' and sure this can defenitely set alarm bells ringing at the Philippine end as to how can a guy who is virtually impotent get the girl preggy.

There you go.

[QUOTE=Barfiner] I know that I am an idiot.[/QUOTE]
She does too!


Your story reads like pure fiction but if true, you only have one option and that's to keep sending her money. This chick is way too smart for you to compete with.

[QUOTE=Barfiner]I received the following mail:. I am in Samar and gave birth to a baby girl. You are certainly the father, so send me money to support your daughter! And when you are next time in the Philippines I want a test for a prove!. What shall I do? I think it would not be a great idea to meet her again because it might be slightly risky? Any advice is highly appreciated.[/QUOTE]Question: The girl in question is her name Michell?. She has sisters that work in Angeles City. If so, I know her. If not, could be you, mine, guy next to you in bar or just dust in the wind. I been almost played (by other girls) but had investigation to prove otherwise. So is the name Michelle? If so, the fathers name is Adam.

[QUOTE=Barfiner]Secondly, and this is the worst part, the hotel staff disclosed all my private data like e-mail address etc to this bargirl! [/QUOTE]

Which hotel was this?

[QUOTE=Barfiner]To all: many thanks for your feedback! Yes, first of all it could be possible that I am the father. Secondly, and this is the worst part, the hotel staff disclosed all my private data like e-mail address etc to this bargirl! And now I fear that she could start blackmailing me since she knows that I have family. Stupidly I have sent already twice some supporting money to her. But I fear that if I stop it then she could contact my family and then I would be in deepest shit. I know that I am an idiot, but now I am really so damn scared, can't sleep and don't know what to do. And if I would meet her again, let's say for a test, who knows if she does not use this moment to come with brothers, friends or police in order to screw me up.[/QUOTE]

Calm down... I dont know any woman who would wait 9 months until giving the father "The News".. this is a bargirl, she sleeps with 100's of men.. its not necessarily yours... she might be sending that mail to every guy she has unprotected sex with hoping to find a cash cow.

- Do the paternity test and see what the result is
- If the kid is indeed yours, help her out
- Use the condom next time!

[quote=poopbunny]which hotel was this?[/quote]


lol i would like to know that too...


i think you are stressing out for nothing by the way. like the previous poster said i don't know of any women that would wait 9 months to tell the father she is prago... she is playing you.

[QUOTE=Mc Don]Lol hotel, I would like to know that too.[/QUOTE]It was Lewis Grand. I booked for 4 days and made my reservation via e-mail, so all my data are of course still in their IT system. I was told by her that she knows some girls who work at this place. Her name is Sharon.

Great post! I had a similar problem with a filipina in Hong Kong. At one point she tried to tell me that she was late and probably pregnant. She was pretty shocked when I told her that she needed to look elswhere for a sugar daddy because I had a vasectomy five years earlier. I have four children from previous marriages and don't need more children and that was the reason form my having the vasectomy. For me, it ist the best form of contraception. Don't have to stop in the middle of the act to strap on the rubber. :-)

[QUOTE=Westcoast1]That would be his/her biz. The problem is, as with any acusation of paternity by a girl, without a DNA test, there's no telling who the daddy is. Many of these girls do unscrupulous things (as pointed out), such as accusing every man she's slept with of fathering her child. Several kano and 2 pinoy sending her remittance is not unheard of (in fact, bragged about amongst friends).

In the mode of 'playing along until the last minute':

Some years ago I was seeing my american girlfriend. We broke up. Few months later, out of the blue, I get served with court papers. She's pregnant and asking a judge for a paternity order. Complete shock for me, as we had been apart for months, and I had a vasectomy years before. The court date was two weeks out. Her mom called me a few days later:

mom: hey, she's gonna need some money for the doctor visits you know. you're gonna need to pony up here.
me: ah... I just found out she's pregnant with the court papers. why didn't anyone call me?
mom: i thought you knew she was pregnant when you guys broke up?
me: nah, no clue. this is all new to me.
mom: well regardless, you need to start helping her
me: no. how can you be sure its mine?
mom: (yelling) you know this baby's yours! you know she doesn't sleep around! blah blah blah...

The court date rolls around. I show up in court with my zero-motility test from the doctor's office. I listen to her lawyer tell the judge that they are asking me to pay for her medical expenses, the DNA testing, and other fees including his lawyer's fees. When it was my turn to speak, I asked the judge if we could find out from the girl the names of all the men she was sleeping with around that time, so we could have them all tested. The judge didn't comply with that, but he did ask if it was possible there might be other father candidates. My former girlfriend replied, "No sir. No chance." Ouch. I then asked the judge to look at my zero-motility test from the doctor's office and told him I'd had a vasectomy year's before. Her mom nearly fainted. Court order for paternity test denied.

Similar instance with a pinay a few years ago. Few weeks after I took her to Bohol for 5 days, she's late with her period. Later, clearly pregnant. I played the happy new father, waiting for her to ask for money. Yap, about a month later she wanted pesos for a doctor's visit. I told her that I would consider sending it, but wanted to chat her mom on cam first (I never met her mom, just saw her in the background on cam sometimes). The girl was hesitant with that, but wanted the pesos. We set a time and mom was on the cam. Her typing was extremely slow and attrocious. We switched to microphone. I asked mom if the girl had other boyfriends she was sleeping with, cano or local. "No. Only a boy she go to bar with some friends. No other." I explained about my vasectomy. I showed her on cam my doctor's office test and offered to mail it to her. She took off the headset thing, gave my gf a nasty look, and walked away. My gf came on and insisted that I send her a copy of the test, and accused me of lying. At first. Then fessed up to the local boy being a lover.

Why, in each case, not speak up right away with the vasectomy info? Because you are dealing with a liar (each was sleeping with another, and accusing one of her lovers -- or both -- that he is the father, when she has no idea). What better way to call a spade a spade?

Barfine, one last thing. I tried to PM you, but can't. I'm guessing you have not paid the subscription here. Several gents have done this recenltly, asking for advice, but are not paid members. Its hard to respect that. Spend the $20/year if you want our advice or help.[/QUOTE]

I set up meetings with regular filipinas before I go to the Phils (P4P is my third line of backup).

I always tell them in advance that I have had a vasectomy, so I can not make them pregnant.

This has two effects: the first is that they are relaxed about sex as soon as we are together, because we have already talked about it; and second, they know that any paternity claim is futile.

Saves potential hassles and risks.

G

[QUOTE=Barfiner]It was Lewis Grand. I booked for 4 days and made my reservation via e-mail, so all my data are of course still in their IT system. I was told by her that she knows some girls who work at this place. Her name is Sharon.[/QUOTE]
First the Lewis Grand is the worst hotel for customer service in AC:(

Which bar did you get her in? I will be in AC Friday night and I will go in and ask for her and see what her friends say about her and I promise they will tell all:D

I got a text yesterday from a girl who's girlfriend was taken out of bar and sent home on Western Union. Well he is back in AC (:D) and the dumb ass goes into her bar and bar fines three girls (her friends) and then can't understand how she knew he was in town?????

Robb

[QUOTE=Barfiner]It was Lewis Grand. I booked for 4 days and made my reservation via e-mail, so all my data are of course still in their IT system. I was told by her that she knows some girls who work at this place. Her name is Sharon.[/QUOTE]

You know, you usually don't have to give all your real info to a hotel to book a room. A temporary email address, a cheap PI cell phone SIM #, and an anonymous Visa gift card with several hundred dollars on it will usually do the trick.

Barfiner, I tried to PM and looks like you cant recieve Pm's.

I personaly know the owner of Lewis Grand and have his cell # and personal email. I can ask him to question the girl at the fron desk Sharon. With the threat of loosing her job she might give up the real story if her friend had your baby or not.

This might be a rather simple way to get the information your looking for.

Let me know.

[QUOTE=Barfiner]It was Lewis Grand. I booked for 4 days and made my reservation via e-mail, so all my data are of course still in their IT system. I was told by her that she knows some girls who work at this place. Her name is Sharon.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Barfiner]It was Lewis Grand. I booked for 4 days and made my reservation via e-mail, so all my data are of course still in their IT system. I was told by her that she knows some girls who work at this place. Her name is Sharon.[/QUOTE]The hotel has that luxury look. But has the amosphere of a dried up Prune. Nothing like having a Cadallic. But if the tires stay flat. Is it worth the money? Secondly, women/men change their names(sometimes). Could be this Sharon did the same. Question: What did you say the age of the baby girl is now? What age was the baby when you found out? Do any pictures been given to yo?. Open up another email address. Request she send you pictures and information on the birth and etc,. If you are to be played. Then you play back smarter. I once dealt with a Sharon that was with baby. Found by the trickery of my lawyer that the baby was not mine. Have someone investigate this girl and her true name and other suitors. Hey man. When you go back be ahead of the game and not the game being played. Make it happen.

[QUOTE=Irony Monger]You know, you usually don't have to give all your real info to a hotel to book a room. A temporary email address, a cheap PI cell phone SIM #, and an anonymous Visa gift card with several hundred dollars on it will usually do the trick.[/QUOTE]


Good advice but this is kind of a shock to me... The fact that a good hotel like LG can do this is just f@cked... I have never liked LG because it reminds me of hospital but I never though they would do this.