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[QUOTE=Skip Kost;1482259]Thanks for this post Samm. Obviously there are some girls who get out of the provinces and become very worldly. But Samm's two experiences here suggest how provincial and unworldly some of these girls are. Lots of Filipinos in their 50s and more have never flown, even those who came in from the provinces to Manila 20 or 30 years ago. Major issue is cost. So a girl like this coming to meet you is perhaps going through more of a culture shock than is a first-time Westerner visiting the Philippines.[/QUOTE]You will be surprised how closed is the world for many of these girls. Many have never gone more than 20 miles from their home. For some parents are very strict and they are allowed to date only local boys. They have time curfew.

As well.

So it is not easy to convince them to take a flight in order to meet you. They do not like to lie to parents. But somehow they are successful in convincing their parents and can get away.

One girl told her parents that she has been called for a interview for a job in order to be with me. Sex wise these girls are novice at best but are quick learners.

[QUOTE=Sammon;1482264]Sex wise these girls are novice at best but are quick learners.[/QUOTE]I nominate this for "Statement of the Year!"

Guys,

I have been trying to sign up with DiA and they always closed my account. Not sure if this is common with people here on the board.

I had an account with the past but do not remember the credential and now they think I am creating another account. I tried all new combination of email / phone / place etc but no success yet. Is this common? Just checking if people here has any experience facing difficulty recently.

Damnit, did it again. I posted about the time my fake FB account name got linked to my real one, even with different emails, but I didn't learn.

This is so elementary but I want to put out the warning anyway. I wanted to check a message but instead of just going online and login, I installed FB on my Phil cell phone. Well within 90 seconds I got a message from the gay pimp in Dumaguete saying "how you find me". I must have accidentally ok'd a contact search that went out to every number in my phone.

By the time I got to my apartment to try to fix it, I had a dozen or more confirmed friend requests and some comments on pictures. This was on my real account with my real name.

Also, it's been talked about here repeatedly, but again if you choose to use this thing at least make sure you go in all your privacy settings every once in a while and have a look.

[QUOTE=MangoDB; 1482828]Guys,

I have been trying to sign up with DiA and they always closed my account. Not sure if this is common with people here on the board.

I had an account with the past but do not remember the credential and now they think I am creating another account. I tried all new combination of email / phone / place etc but no success yet. Is this common? Just checking if people here has any experience facing difficulty recently.[/QUOTE]I'm having the same problem, I even tried from different computers.

All, I've been a member of FC for a year now and am now renewing a 3-month subscription; on this go I see the membership terms have changed and auto-rebilling is now the default. This is just a heads up for those of you who are currently members or who are considering it. FC does permit one to opt out of auto renewal at any time. Simply select 'Membership' from the Settings menu to change your billing preferences.

[QUOTE=SuperMuda;1483059]I'm having the same problem, I even tried from different computers.[/QUOTE]I had the same. Only thing what works (found out they check on several things: change everything: CP, email, picture, username, pw etc etc.

I don't get the point of flying girls in (unless you are in love or looking for a relationship). Most of us will stay in Manila or Cebu, or a few other places all with at least half a million people. So at least 50,000 girls in the "desired age range".

Use a few dating sites, FB and load your phone with enough pesos for a million texts. And I can't imagine why you want to fly anybody in. Meet as many as you want. Stroll the malls. Chat up shop girls. Whatever. You actually see them immediate in real life (without days-weeks of chatting) and so do they see you. Pursue only the best leads."Come meet me tonight for a beer and some music and bring a few friends. But make sure they are hot". Isn't it all about efficiency and effectiveness? .

[QUOTE=Fslag338;1484124]I don't get the point of flying girls in (unless you are in love or looking for a relationship). Most of us will stay in Manila or Cebu, or a few other places all with at least half a million people. So at least 50,000 girls in the "desired age range".[/QUOTE]I agree it is not realy a point doing so when you are in a country where pussy is available almost everywhere. What I can understand though is the excitement of doing a new wrapping into the datingroutine. In this context it is understandable. My own mainstream dating during my mongerspree in phils would in general be like this; I stay in my apartment popping kamagra gel and tequila while girls come and go. In late evening I would look up a nightclub for some regular brides or a freelancevenue (often they are combined) and next day same all over again.

Now and then I can start feeling bored and want to try sth new. We can call it dating with a new angel then a fly in girl could be just the right thing to do bcs it is something a bit different.

This makes me aroused to actually find myself a fly in date next week when I am back in Makati. Just for the fun of it. Other angels could easily be to bring your date to Macau, Singapore, Beijing etc for a fun weekend, visit her back at her place, if she has a car let her pick you up at the airport and many more ofcourse. Once again just to get some rest from the usual routine (arrive in hotel, fuck, leave and another coming).

Having studied the most recent 50 pages of the forum I am still confused about how to use the dating sites. Would any members care to enlighten me by answering any of my questions below?

(By the way to give you some background: I have been to the Phils several times so I know the place fairly well. I used Filipina Heart a few years back but had no success whatsoever – so far all my girls have been barfines, and I will continue to barfine, but was hoping to mix things up a bit on my next trip by finding some contacts via the dating sites. One 'problem' of only using barfines is that as I result I have become accustomed to only spending time with pretty girls, even though I am not a young good-looking guy, and therefore I am very choosy.)

1. Should I contact girls on the dating sites, or should I expect them to contact me?

2. Because I live in Europe the time difference means that it is not convenient to interact with the girls in advance. Do any other members have this problem and if so, have you found a way around it?

3. I want to make it very clear to any potential contact very quickly that I just want somebody to 'sleep' with (and possibly hang out with). I want her to know that in exchange for this I will pay her for her time (or buy her gifts if she prefers it that way). Have any members got any ideas about what is the best way of making my intentions absolutely clear? For example are there any 'key phrases' I can put in my profile which will let them know what I am looking for, and increase my chances of meeting more contacts of this type?

4. Are there any 'shortcuts' I can follow to minimise the amount of time and effort I need to expend to make some contacts?

Answers to any of the above questions, or indeed any other general advice, would be appreciated.

[QUOTE=Altered Ego; 1489026]Hello AE, I use DIA a lot and this is what I do for your consideration (varying degrees of success).

1. Should I contact girls on the dating sites, or should I expect them to contact me? Initiate the contact. Most of the time the women that contact me are too old or ugly for me. I like sexy girls with big boobs in their 20s.

2. Because I live in Europe the time difference means that it is not convenient to interact with the girls in advance. Do any other members have this problem and if so, have you found a way around it? No, just deal with it.

3. I want to make it very clear to any potential contact very quickly that I just want somebody to 'sleep' with (and possibly hang out with). I want her to know that in exchange for this I will pay her for her time (or buy her gifts if she prefers it that way). Have any members got any ideas about what is the best way of making my intentions absolutely clear? For example are there any 'key phrases' I can put in my profile which will let them know what I am looking for, and increase my chances of meeting more contacts of this type? If she agrees to meet you at the hotel or go to hotel after meeting someplace else it's a given.

4. Are there any 'shortcuts' I can follow to minimise the amount of time and effort I need to expend to make some contacts? Some dates are more needy than others but they all need to be reminded of time and place. They're notoriously late.

Other opinions may vary. Good luck. I've met some keepers on DIA and had a great time.

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[QUOTE=Altered Ego; 1489026]Having studied the most recent 50 pages of the forum I am still confused about how to use the dating sites. Would any members care to enlighten me by answering any of my questions below?

1. Should I contact girls on the dating sites, or should I expect them to contact me?

2. Because I live in Europe the time difference means that it is not convenient to interact with the girls in advance. Do any other members have this problem and if so, have you found a way around it?

3. I want to make it very clear to any potential contact very quickly that I just want somebody to 'sleep' with (and possibly hang out with). I want her to know that in exchange for this I will pay her for her time (or buy her gifts if she prefers it that way). Have any members got any ideas about what is the best way of making my intentions absolutely clear? For example are there any 'key phrases' I can put in my profile which will let them know what I am looking for, and increase my chances of meeting more contacts of this type?

4. Are there any 'shortcuts' I can follow to minimise the amount of time and effort I need to expend to make some contacts?[/QUOTE]1. Both. If someone who interests you makes contact then that is a plus because you can build on their interest.

2. You don't say where in Europe so I'll use the average which is UTC+1. The PI is +9 so 8 hours ahead. Thus 8am-4pm your time is 4pm-midnight there. You should be able to find a convenient time to interact in that range.

3. If you have read back 50 pages then you will have seen several examples of profiles that people use to signify that they are interested in "adult fun" and not marriage.

4. Unfortunately there are no shortcuts (other than getting lucky) and you can expect to spend a lot of time with no guarantee of success. Making contacts is easy. Getting to actually meet someone who meets your specifications is the challenge. If you want to minimize your time then I would minimize the time you spend on each contact. At any sign of reluctance or a mismatch in your goals then cut them loose and move on.

[QUOTE=Altered Ego;1489026]I used Filipina Heart a few years back but had no success whatsoever – so far all my girls have been barfines[/QUOTE]I don't know that particular site. By "no success" do you mean no one contacted you? Or no one was receptive to your invitation to join you at your hotel? Or someone met you at public place but refused to go to your hotel later?

[QUOTE=Altered Ego;1489026]3. I want to make it very clear to any potential contact very quickly that I just want somebody to 'sleep' with (and possibly hang out with). I want her to know that in exchange for this I will pay her for her time (or buy her gifts if she prefers it that way). Have any members got any ideas about what is the best way of making my intentions absolutely clear? For example are there any 'key phrases' I can put in my profile which will let them know what I am looking for, and increase my chances of meeting more contacts of this type?[/QUOTE]In your profile you should mention you're GENEROUS. If you actually like mall wandering and taking a girl shopping for gifts then you ought to state so. Make sure to mention you're looking for adult excitment in your hotel room as well as hanging out in public such a clubs, restaurants, wherever.

[QUOTE=Altered Ego;1489026]4. Are there any 'shortcuts' I can follow to minimise the amount of time and effort I need to expend to make some contacts?[/QUOTE]Efficiency is found in a variety of ways.

Firstly, your profile should be clear what you are looking for. Your profile will be reviewed by an admin so you can't directly write "I'm looking for a p4p." Your profile is to filter out those who don't match your age and physical requirements as well as those who are genuinely looking for an LTR. No need to waste time with them. You'll want to correspond with those who are in your geographic area, also. Keep in mind the pickier you are the lower chance of success. Many, if not all, guys want stunner who is 18-22, and these girls get dozens of messages everyday.

Copy and paste is your friend; there's no need to be writing new and unique messages in the beginning. Once you have a girl genuinely interested you can devote time to more personal messages; some are willing to meet straight away whilst others need more cultivating. I have written 6 replies that I use all the time.

You will encounter a few types of girls. There are those who read your profile and messaged you with something more than "Hi!". Even better when they acknowledge what you're looking for and are game for it. They are your most likely candidates. The next type are those who may have read your profile and send a "Hi" message or a canned "interest" or "favourite" message by clicking a button on the webpage. They like your look but may believe you're an LTR potential. To this girl you ask: "Have your read my profile and do you understand what I'm looking for?" The last type are those you contact.

Girls who have been members for a while have a sharp BS detector, but still many of them hold on to the illusion that prince charming is the next message away. Many receive ridiculous marry-me messages several times day. They've learnt that the I'm-thinking-of-coming-to-the-Philippines guy isn't. They've learnt that many of the guys who want to see them on cam just want to get out of their clothes. It it to your advantage to state the dates you'll be here. Even better to state that you are frequently in the Philippines so you want to have a friend you can spend time with often. You may want to mention you're kind, polite guy who respects women and won't ever ask them to take of their clothes on cam.

If you initiate contact by sending a message and don't get a reply after a few days send one more friendly message. If nothing is returned move on; don't waste time with dead ends. I'm sure there are those here who will argue that persistence pays off, and it does, but for the sake of efficiency I recommend avoiding this.

In addition to the lies a lot of women receive abusive messages from angry guys. Being polite yet direct will set you apart from these oafs.

I found that posting a picture of me in the Philippines at a well known location has helped. I posted my picture from the Chocolate Hills. They then know you have been there and it adds credibility to your saying you are coming back. They get lots of messages from guys who are just playing them saying they are planning a trip to the Philippines but who never leave their mother's basement.

I have not paid a membership yet, but I found that Cherry Blossoms does not boot you after twenty minutes or half an hour of inactivity. Simply log in, bugger off and go to bed or work. When you come back, you will find that those who are interested will have tried to message you or sent you an interest. You can then go through them at your leisure, save the profiles that interest you, and discard those that are not what you are looking for.

As I said I have not paid for a membership yet, but just before I travel I will pay for a one month membership and see how it works out with my delayed contact after they have shown interest. Certainly it is saving me from investing a bunch of time up front.

Hello Gentlemen,

I've been reading the current posts and wish to concur with Hutsori and add a few suggestions.

The best suggestion I have read here is wait until 4 weeks or less to start searching for "dates" on the websites. DIA and pinalove are free to make direct contact with the ladies.

If you use the pay sites. One month is enough to build a list. Then use YM or Skype to contact when your membership ends.

Yes, copy and paste a good introduction is good idea and save time. But so they know you are not pasting. Write a phrase like. " are you still in Cebu? And if you not know where they actually live. Ask them where is the nearest airport. OF COURSE USE THEIR NAME OR I'd NAME.

Be very careful not to send a lady a message you copied and paste but forgot to change the name! Hahahahahaha.

In your introduction. Tell them you have been there before and give them an idea when you are coming. This will increase the likely hood they write you back,

If you know just a few basic words of tagalog. They like that "ka musta ka = hello and Salamat po = thank you. I like Salamat po to read my message.

Good luck to all