Long time watcher first time poster
Hi,
Have been a silent watcher of ISG for long time. The abundance of contacts and social help this platform offers for mongering is immense. I wanted to take subscription for a long time but wasn't able to do it because of complexity involved. Anyways I still don't have DM though.
Have been a mongered for sometime but all self action. Lately emerging actions but using new SP. And would love info on the birds here. Pic attached.
Too good to be true. Any info highly appreciated.
Need help / advice and inputs on problem related to ED
Hello all,
This ask for help may have been ideally suited for a different forum / thread, since it pertains to needing help in Bangalore, reaching out to this large base to seek some inputs. Warning – slightly long post to describe the situation so there is plenty of detail to know (and also avoid simplistic solutions / suggestions that have been tried already).
I am a 48 year old male (almost 49 now). I am at a stage where I need help to get erections (I can still get erections) but the biggest challenge is to keep them for a reasonable period to enjoy penetrative sex. Foreplay (kissing / touching / caressing alone) does not give me the full erection but Oral sex makes me hard or hand play makes me hard. If I penetrate and start having sex, things start off normally the first minute or so. Unless I keep up the stroking pace fast enough, the erection starts going soft. If I pull out to change positions, I lose my erection. Once I lose my erection, again it takes long to get it back. Here is the result of this situation.
1) Keeping up the pace of stroking causes me to cum too soon, in about 1-2 minutes and the partner is left unsatisfied (and I too don't feel sexually satiated).
2) If I slow down the pace, the penis softens resultant loss of erection needs addressing.
3) If I withdraw to change positions, I end up softening and losing hard erection.
4) If I use hand strokes or ask for other help to try and regain my erection, that stimulation causes me to reach my orgasm most of the time or just about as I penetrate back, I end up ejaculating.
5) Condoms are an absolute no no. By the time I try to put the condom on, there is a chance I might lose part of the erection and also the sensation is extremely reduced.
All these are classic symptoms of ED I understand.
Here is what my background is.
1) I have had Diabetes for a few years now but it is under control always through pills I take.
2) I have hypertension which again is addressed via medication.
3) My Testosterone is in mid-range for my age bracket and no thyroid problems.
4) Cholesterol is also on the higher side of normal range.
5) Vitamin the is below normal and I take supplements for the same.
6) I maintain a reasonably active lifestyle, Brisk walking 3-4 times a week, 30 minutes each covering about 3 Kms each time. I also do weights about 3-4 times a week. My weight is in mid-80's and I am 5. 8" (I guess doctors will say reduce further).
I do occasionally masturbate, and have a healthy desire (to have sex). Try making love 2-3 times a week. I do not watch porn (haven't visited porn sites in over 8-9 months). I do watch erotic pictures / posts on FB / Other portals on which I am. I have tried lot of solutions based on (re) search on Google – Supplements, Sildenafil, Tadalfil etc starting from 25 MG to higher dosage on Sildenafil and up to 20 MG on Tadalafil. I could not get verdanafil from Pharmacies, available only online and that requires prescription. I heard it works better for people with Diabetes (google research says so). These medicines give me slightly accelerated erections (in having them) but the problem of maintaining the erection still seems to persist.
What is it that I want to achieve: Ability to keep hard erections for a reasonably longer period of time to be able to have enjoyable penetrative sex. Stamina is not an issue based on my active lifestyle.
What help am I looking for: Looking for a good sexologist or good doctors advice in Bangalore who can do a thorough comprehensive examination and assess what could be the root cause of this issue and also offer a solid treatment for the same. I have been to one who took a lot of case history, was patient in listening to and also enquiring, had questions and then offered me health supplements as a solution for a month. Never did a physical exam. I am not very sure this is a good evaluation without any tests (I don't know any better so not really judging). So anyone with a medical background can offer more insight or others who can add value to this thread is more than welcome. I do not have email privilege so responding to the thread is probably the best way to benefit everyone. I have laid Bare my soul so to say, really looking forward to a solution to my problem so I can enjoy my sexual life as do others.
Regards.
M.
You can share your experience
[QUOTE=Studdboy6;2501172]Paid fun is just one source. You have to look for fun without money involved in your surroundings. It doesn't happen overnight.
It takes time and energy. Thrill is of different league of it's own. But you have to play safe so that you are not exposed / image is not tarnished.
I have hardly paid for sex in past 5 years.
I haven't posted none of my experiences here as I can't share those numbers. Since they are not into profession and common people like you and me.[/QUOTE]I understand that you cannot share those numbers / people. Please share your methods for the benefit of larger group. Is it FB, dating Apps or other methods? For me, every FB member starts with min of 10 K. Problem with paid fun is that it becomes mechanical or they start looking at time. Very rare to make it win-win situation. If the other person also wants only enjoyment then its ideal.
By the way, I am close to strike one such person in my known circle but it is taking so much of effort.