Chat Rooms & Pen Pals

[QUOTE=WestCoast1;1642779]
Me too. But not many ladies (from any country) are wanting to show off their bodies in a first conversation. That can wait until later (sooner is better in my mind). The mistake many men make is to [I]never [/I]get the girl on cam before deciding if he wants to meet her. Worse, many men never get the girl on cam prior to a first meeting.

There is an assumption here: That you too are willing to turn on your cam right away (if you are asking her to do so). Not all gents are of that mold. I never turn on my cam right away (and for good reason). Like you, I'm wanting to keep the chit / chat to a minimum, and get to the cam ASAP, but never in the first contact.
[/QUOTE]Heed this advice. I want to add that if you have the time play it a bit cool. Don't ask to cam with her until you've established you're a "good guy" through a few messages or texts. In fact many girls will ask you first to go to cam. On the dating sites there are tons of guys who demand skype from the get go; this is why you'll see in many girls' profiles complaints about guys waving wangs and pumping penors at them. I think one can judge a body without having the girl strip for you. A pudgy face, thick neck, and doughy forearms will tell you she's a plumper. For stretchmarks ask if she has kids. If she does then it's highly likely she's got 'em; yes, there are some whose bodies haven't been ravaged. You can always ask a girl about that if it's a concern.

[QUOTE=WestCoast1;1642779]There is an assumption here: That you too are willing to turn on your cam right away (if you are asking her to do so). Not all gents are of that mold. I never turn on my cam right away (and for good reason). Like you, I'm wanting to keep the chit / chat to a minimum, and get to the cam ASAP, but never in the first contact.[/QUOTE]Yes I see no downside, in allowing someone to view my face 1 to 1 in YM or skype. I'm not married anymore, I am self employed. When anyone unknown contacts me out of the blue I won't engage them without seeing their face and knowing what city they are in and how they got my I'd. I much prefer to be the one to initiate the contact.

[QUOTE=WestCoast1;1642779]Maybe not. Many girls don't use cafe's at all. In fact, many provincial girls use a neighbor's "cafe", which might be a home with 1-2-3 pc's or laptops with no cam at all. [/QUOTE]When they throw that one at me and they have for 10 years I say 'look you or whoever owns that comp can afford an expensive lap top or desktop, an expensive monthly internet connection, and can't afford a cheap 500 peso webcam?" Sure girls from most countries won't turn on their cam. But pretty young pinays? The ones I want to meet? They will show their face willingly every time. I don't mean to say they must strip naked on first chat, but I want to see their face moving in real time from different angles the first chat. Some girls look great dead on but have a profile that's kinda scary. And by the second encounter I at least want to see them get up and go to the CR and come back so I can be sure they are in decent shape and have XX chromosomes.

[QUOTE=WestCoast1;1642779]And many girls use the YM app on their phone, which has no camera for transmission. I'm sure you've noticed in the last 1-2 years the increase in the number of girls in your YM who appear to be online almost all the time. They are not online (on a computer) at all; they simply leave the YM app running on their phone, which makes them appear (to you, while running YM on your PC) that they are sitting at a computer in a cafe somewhere waiting to chat with you. She can receive your msg on her phone, but she might not bother to check it for several hours (or overnight). When she responds on her phone, if you are live on YM, you can carry on a conversation with her (she typing on her phone), but there is probably no cam usage for her.[/QUOTE]Ok I will give you this but its a very recent phenomenon. If it appears to be running all the time and not SMS it means they have a smartphone or tablet app and they always have cams. But for me its Ok after I have verified her identity. Like I said I am suspicious of anyone who messages me out of the blue, I don't want them finding me I want to find them.

[QUOTE=WestCoast1;1642779]Having said that, I never agree to meet anyone who has not cam'd with me. Even province girls that don't normally have access to a cam will have to go the extra mile and get to one at least [I]once [/I]if she wants to meet. This virtually stops in its tracks my meeting with a girl who now appears 20 years older than her profile pic (or who now weighs 10 kg more).[/QUOTE]I have been to cafes all over the Phils. In all about 99% of the boys are playing video games and 90% of the gays and girls are chatting. The owners of the cafes always have cams cause the girls need them. Even remote Islands that use generators in the barangay have them. The internet cafe with webcams is one of the main sources of revenue for the community as a whole as far as remittances.

I will grant that some places that have less exposure to webcams are Muslim communities and eastern samar but they are flat out off the net grid entirely. I have had 5 GF go home to Eastern samar and contact with them was rare.

Do my rules prevent me from meeting a nice one hear or there? Sure. But I learned in the first 2 months of online encounters with Filipinos that about 10% aren't who they claim to be and I don't want to waste 10 minutes of my life with any of them. There is so much low hanging fruit there so why gamble?

We all know that the young ladies we chat with can " sometimes" lie through their young teeth. Newbies to the shores of the Philippines need to be especially careful of taking a girl at her word.

Recent case in point being a chat with a young lady from QC, who lists her age as 18. She said Hi.

Me. Have you definitely turned 18.

Her " I'm 19 years old turning 20 this November 11. Do I look so young ".

Me. A man in Philippines must be very careful these days etcetcetc, lots of hidden dangers etc.

Her. " Hidden dangers".

Me " laws about being alone with someone. That someone must be older than 18, that's the reason for checking etc.

And her classic reply.

" But I'm already 18 turning 19 this November 11.

Me. Wow. 25 seconds ago you were 19, now you are only 18. You not sure of your age?

There was no reply. She blocked me.

Haileygee28.

Happy to report that when your girl starts smashing your mobile's display against the bed's headboard the glass doesn't shatter. Even when struck three times. Lessons learnt: 1) don't leave your mobile near the girl alone; 2) the girl shoulder surfs (I got sloppy); 3) when you hear the first "whack" don't scratch your head wondering "What was that?", take action promptly; and 4) change passcode.

[QUOTE=Hutsori;1643749]Happy to report that when your girl starts smashing your mobile's display against the bed's headboard the glass doesn't shatter. Even when struck three times. Lessons learnt: 1) don't leave your mobile near the girl alone; 2) the girl shoulder surfs (I got sloppy); 3) when you hear the first "whack" don't scratch your head wondering "What was that?", take action promptly; and 4) change passcode.[/QUOTE]Huts, I had to laugh. Been there. In my early years I was too naive to put a pass lock on my phone. Go to shower, return to smashed phone & empty bed. I only needed it to happen once. LOL! You poor bastard! .

AV.

God, Huts and Freebie, you had me cracking up. Thanks for the laughs!

[QUOTE=Amavida;1643790] LOL! You poor bastard![/QUOTE]No worries. My mobile still functions properly. Not a scratch on the glass. The case has a few cracks. I'm impressed.

I was going to post a summary of my experiences meeting many Filipinas from dating sites. I have two questions first:

1) Is that kind of report appropriate for this group?

2) Am I allowed or encouraged to post the actual name of the dating site, or does that violate ISG rules?

Salamat-.

-- TT.

[QUOTE=TitiTigas;1644301]I was going to post a summary of my experiences meeting many Filipinas from dating sites. I have two questions first:

1) Is that kind of report appropriate for this group?

2) Am I allowed or encouraged to post the actual name of the dating site, or does that violate ISG rules?

Salamat-.

-- TT.[/QUOTE]Name the dating sites tell all just don't embarrass a real person that we can find and identify unless they are a criminal, then route the bastards out I say!

PP!

I had an off night last night. I just woke up and had a message from a chick on a site I am never even on. Where the hell was she last night when I needed her? I asked how much she wants. She said 2000. I told her 1000 is better. She said she is on her way. I gave her 1 hour and told her 3 times not to be late.

Two thumbs up for old girl. Before she came she kept asking if I was Arab or Black American. I told her American, then showed her pictures of me in my thobe, ghutra and egal in Dubai and that made her think even more that I was Arab; well except for my American southern accent.

I just realized I don't even know her name. She sent me a message saying she was on the way and was there in 10 minutes flat. Caught me downstairs in the middle of breakfast. I asked how she found me on the site. She said through the "who is near" function. Said she has an 8 month old by an Iranian guy she met on facebook. He pulled the disappearing act though.

1000 pesos. Would have definitely stayed with her longer, but I had to check out of the hotel on my way to AC. That is how a PI GFE is supposed to be.

Finally got the pixs to upload.

[QUOTE=MrEnternational;1644433]Finally got the pixs to upload.[/QUOTE]Good looking.

[QUOTE=TitiTigas;1644301]I was going to post a summary of my experiences meeting many Filipinas from dating sites. I have two questions first:

1) Is that kind of report appropriate for this group?

2) Am I allowed or encouraged to post the actual name of the dating site, or does that violate ISG rules?

Salamat-.

TT[/QUOTE]Yes, please post. It's appropriate and you're allowed to post dating site names.

[QUOTE=TitiTigas;1644301]I was going to post a summary of my experiences meeting many Filipinas from dating sites. I have two questions first:

1) Is that kind of report appropriate for this group?

2) Am I allowed or encouraged to post the actual name of the dating site, or does that violate ISG rules?

Salamat-.

-- TT.[/QUOTE]I always encourage someone to follow by example. If you read a few month's reports you can quickly discern what is considered good quality reporting (hint: read the replies from the other members) and reports that get ignored or, in some cases, flamed. If you want a great example read Natty Bumpo's. And the Reports of Distinction is worth your time. Yes, you can certainly name the dating sites. I'd be careful naming the girl.