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I have never been married and I am just fine with that. For me, mongering satisfies my sexual needs without the work that goes into marriage or family. What makes marriage, or the idea of marriage attractive?

[QUOTE=Nsd1983; 1516856]Sometimes I wonder if the wife knows about our mongering activities. Women are smart to understand when their partners sleep around. I would like to know how people still get away with it and continue to monger. In american society, these women don't realize how much you care and give them the security, the moment you sleep around or even flirt around becomes the whole reason for divorce. I wonder how people are still married and continue to monger. If there is any trick or a way to be still mongering around and continue to live happy with a wife, I would like to know. This has prevented me from getting married. I think my life will be more complete when I monger but still be with my wife and continue to provide her care and security. When does the society realize the fact that I am a man and my body wants sex with many girls and it has nothing to do with my love or affection towards my wife. I have tried to change and just be with one girl but my body rejects it.

This actually becomes a very philosophical question and raises many debates. As much as I feel guilty about mongering (because of the way society has raised us) , I question its very reason for the guilt. I am at a stage of life where I have to choose between mongering or having a family with wife and kids. This unfortunately has created a lot of stress, anxiety and I have been unable to come to a rationalized conclusion.

Nothing is more demeaning that being treated with utmost disrespect in your own house.

I request forum members should share their views on this topic. It will help me and certainly few others along this life journey.

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[QUOTE=Rohan Cid;1517125]I have never been married and I am just fine with that. For me, mongering satisfies my sexual needs without the work that goes into marriage or family. What makes marriage, or the idea of marriage attractive?[/QUOTE]Marriage is over-rated. Everyone knows that once the ring goes on. Your life just goes downhill from there. With the divorce rate at 50. I'd rather live a happy single life than a miserable married life.

[QUOTE=Monolith;1517153]Marriage is over-rated. Everyone knows that once the ring goes on. Your life just goes downhill from there. With the divorce rate at 50. I'd rather live a happy single life than a miserable married life.[/QUOTE]I wouldn't say anything like your life goes downhill after you are married. It was nothing like that for me. My wife was just boring. I was always having to do things alone and that is why I broke up. My friends were like you are crazy. Your wife lets you do whatever you want. But I didn't get married to do whatever I wanted. I got married to have someone to do things with. After we got divorced we stayed friends then she wanted to do things I could not beg her to do before. Shooting range, ride my motorcycle with me. Women.

I will agree though that marriage is overrated. It's no different than living with someone and paying bills together. When I was married me and my wife kept our money separate. She was responsible for the mortgage and I was responsible for all the other bills. Beyond that, my money was mine to do as I pleased with and hers was hers.

I would rather live any kind of life happy than miserable, whether it was married or single. I think the problem is that people don't make their ideas of how they want the relationship to be explicit at the beginning. For example, when I met my present girlfriend I told her outright that I am a player. I made it clear. She said that she didn't care because she does not see that in me. Now I would never disrespect her by being all in the open with it. I still keep what I do discreet. You will be surprised what a woman will go for if you just open your mouth and try to communicate.

I seriously doubt I will get married again. Whenever a chick brings it up I'm like why do I need to? What will it benefit me? All of my bills are paid off. I make a lot of money. I do what I want. I know how to cook and clean. I have never had a problem finding sex partners or girlfriends. So what's in it for me besides the fairy tale that TV and the movies sell? I stopped believing in fairy tales a long time ago. Like Monolith said, half of the time that fairly tale is actually a damn nightmare. But weigh the benefits versus the risks for your personal needs and expectations and see what you come up with. Everybody is different. There is no one size fits all.

To Nsd:

Women do not know when you sleep around. What they do know is when you change your pattern. You have come home at the same time for the last 8 years. Now all of a sudden you are coming home later on certain days. Me, I never have a pattern. Women always tell me that they can not figure me out. And they never will because I am very erratic.

When my cousin got married, my dad told told him to never change his pattern. If you have always come in late then keep coming in late. My dad keeps a bottle of Hennessey under the seat in his truck. If he comes in late and has not been drinking then he will still take a swig before he goes into the house so it smells like he has been out drinking.

[QUOTE=Mr Enternational; 1517195]To Nsd:

Women do not know when you sleep around. What they do know is when you change your pattern. You have come home at the same time for the last 8 years. Now all of a sudden you are coming home later on certain days. Me, I never have a pattern. Women always tell me that they can not figure me out. And they never will because I am very erratic.

When my cousin got married, my dad told told him to never change his pattern. If you have always come in late then keep coming in late. My dad keeps a bottle of Hennessey under the seat in his truck. If he comes in late and has not been drinking then he will still take a swig before he goes into the house so it smells like he has been out drinking.[/QUOTE]Thanks for your suggestions. As much as I want to believe your answer, I also think that its the game of hide and seek and its just matter of when you get caught. Besides one has to live with the guilt of lying to your partner and cheating (which could be rationalized). Its hard to be on your toes all the time and thinking constantly before you act or say anything.

For your way to work, one has to be predetermined and plan his married life and train his brain to act in certain way well in advance. Its possible but difficult. Life could becomes a battle for some people. Most people eventually just give up screwing around. Having said this, I have to admire you for being successful in what you have been doing.

Our hidden emotions and mongering activities could surface unexpectedly as in dreams, or toxicated alcoholic state or extreme guilt or loneliness.

I however do believe that one could hide mongering activities for quite a while compared to flirting or screwing around in home town. The probability of getting caught is higher with romantic relationships, affairs, texts, phone calls, emails, casual flirts than with stranger sexual activities in a different town with no long term emotions involved.

I am just trying to make a healthy and intelligent argument.

I also thank thank the forum members, moderator and Mr Jackson for allowing me posting in Tijuana forum a completely unrelated topic. I posted here for mere intense activity in Tijuana and having been to Tijuana more than a dozen times.

People ask me if god and heaven exists and I tell them I found them in Tijuana and Bangkok.

I would like to hear what women have to say? What is their argument against mongering? Do we have a link to a feminist website which discusses this? Do they just argue or actually make an intelligent debate?

[QUOTE=Rohan Cid;1517125]I have never been married and I am just fine with that. For me, mongering satisfies my sexual needs without the work that goes into marriage or family. What makes marriage, or the idea of marriage attractive?[/QUOTE]Having family and raising kids is considered one of the utmost pleasures in life. People are getting tired of it and don't see it this way way because of the corrupt society. Its unrealistic expectations, false media and movie representations.

Family brings fulfillment which is far higher than joy. Whats the biological / philosophical reason to monger and sleep with plenty of women? If you analyze, Its continuing healthy progeny who are stronger, pretty and higher in numbers.

I bet most men will be ok with having family if the society follows biology. People who live in asia are married with happy family and kids and continue to monger. Their life is happier than ours. Women there accept it and live with it.

As long as you don't mind if your wife might be doing the same.

[QUOTE=Rohan Cid;1517125]I have never been married and I am just fine with that. For me, mongering satisfies my sexual needs without the work that goes into marriage or family. What makes marriage, or the idea of marriage attractive?[/QUOTE]The whole point of marriage was to raise kids with a family unit. We see the results of high illegitimacy and single-parent households in every ghetto in the country. If one isn't going to have kids, one could make the case that there is little use in being married.

One major problem in the USA is that feminism has poisoned relations between males and females and completely corrupted the divorce laws. Deadbeat dads are punished but women who squirt out multiple kids, with multiple fathers, with absolutely no way to support them, are lauded as "brave." Women consistently use a man's kids as a weapon.

Yes, there are exceptions. But they are just that. Exceptions.

Marriage can be great fun with a woman who wants to be a wife and a mother and enjoys being a woman. I suggest middle-class Thai women, middle-class Filipinas, middle-class Mexicanas, just to name a few. American women don't make the cut.

[QUOTE=Phordphan;1517296]I suggest middle-class Thai women, middle-class Filipinas, middle-class Mexicanas, just to name a few. American women don't make the cut.[/QUOTE]We seem to agree on that. I gave up dating American women about a decade ago, things are much better with Asians and there are plenty of them in my area. About a month ago I sent a PM to a fellow monger and said I'd like to meet a nice and pretty Thai woman. I've never found an available Mexican woman in my area.

[QUOTE=Phordphan;1517296]If one isn't going to have kids, one could make the case that there is little use in being married.[/QUOTE]Now you sound like my elderly parents and my adult kids.

[QUOTE=HorseTrader;1517319]We seem to agree on that. I gave up dating American women about a decade ago, things are much better with Asians and there are plenty of them in my area. About a month ago I sent a PM to a fellow monger and said I'd like to meet a nice and pretty Thai woman. I've never found an available Mexican woman in my area.[/QUOTE]Mexico's full of 'em! :D

I'm in San Diego for the next few weeks and would like to go to the clubs or la zona with someone who can show me the ropes. I've been to the clubs before but never the streets. Message me if you're interested, I'm 35 minutes away from the border.

[QUOTE=Mr Enternational; 1517195]To Nsd:

Women do not know when you sleep around. What they do know is when you change your pattern. You have come home at the same time for the last 8 years. Now all of a sudden you are coming home later on certain days. Me, I never have a pattern. Women always tell me that they can not figure me out. And they never will because I am very erratic.

When my cousin got married, my dad told told him to never change his pattern. If you have always come in late then keep coming in late. My dad keeps a bottle of Hennessey under the seat in his truck. If he comes in late and has not been drinking then he will still take a swig before he goes into the house so it smells like he has been out drinking.[/QUOTE]I was with my Favorite chica this weekend after the Charger game. When I saw her she told me of a Drunk Gordo Charger fan who she went up with. She said he was an Asshole and mean to her. She said he could not get it up (being drunk) She said he was grabbing and poking her. Fingering and hurting her. She said he came close to passing out. He told her about his wife not knowing about him in Tijuana. He was overcharged (she said because he was an asshole.) She said I will let your wife know you were here / asshole and she BIT him on the neck! (hope it was none of you guys!)

I will be heading south for the first time to satisfy my mongering side. I have been to other areas of Mexico, never Tijuana and never for sex with hot chicas. So obviously I am pretty excited and nervous.

I really appreciate all the knowledge given in this forum and plan to stick with much of the advice given.

I will report back late this evening or tomorrow morning on how things go.