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[QUOTE=CygnushYoga123;2042965]Some direction please. Either a reply here or PM. I only know of Green Belt and LA Caf.

Very much appreciated![/QUOTE]Those 2 places are enough for a starter to last a year. Add in Burgos for insurance.

[QUOTE=JoelR;2043018]I have never tried Tinder or some dating websites at all. But I have just registered at [URL]http://www.cupid.com[/URL] Maybe I will have some luck there. But honestly, I would like to meet a good girl for some serious relationships in the future. Do you think it is possible online?[/QUOTE]Firstly, define 'serious relationship(s)'? Are you genuinely looking for marriage or do you want to date for a few months and then move on?

Are you overseas or in the Philippines? Personally I would never engage in a long-distance relationship because I think it's tricky if not impossible to understand someone (motivations, sincerity, loyalty, etc.) unless you spend a lot of time together. My thoughts are reinforced by the behaviour of girls I've met online for fubus who have overseas partners yet play the side. Are all girls like this? No. Are many? Yes. Is it much easier to find a good girl whilst living in the Philippines? Absolutely. Can you still be duped? Yes.

I think you may not realise how many messages attractive girls get. See attached screenshot of a girl's DIA account (scrubbed of any personal info). That's 1073 [I]unopened[/I] messages. Certainly an ego boost. But soon she learns it's a lot of overseas fellas looking for cam sex or just attention. She reads a lot of empty promises; fellas sending a first or second message declaring his affection and intent to marry sets off her BS detector. Or, she messages a guy for many weeks and then he suddenly ghosts her. This happen a lot. Over time this tends to make a girl jaded, so she concludes a sincere bloke is an anomaly, yet he has to compete through all that noise to get a message opened and then be enticing and believable enough to earn a reply. At least you being in the country demonstrates availability and potential.

The danger to you being in country is you're the kid in the candy shop. Do you become a glutton or do you exercise self control and remain true to your goal? Keep in mind that so many women are convinced that all men cheat that even if you don't there's the suspicion in her mind. Some girls decide to (pre-emptively) retaliate by cheating, whether that suspicion was genuine or just a pretext to allow herself cock on the side - a former fling is back in town.

My approach is to use all that noise to my advantage. I'm here, they're not, you don't need to waste your youth sitting at home night after night. I'm not looking for marriage, and I'm not looking to control you, so you can still keep looking for Prince (C)Harming and still meet me once a week or so. Does this work with all women? No. Does it work with enough to keep me busy? Yes. Do some girls find their prince and marry? Yes. One of my former fubus did recently, and then she messaged me on PL. Why was she back on PL? That's a good question.

[QUOTE=Hutsori;2043905]Firstly, define 'serious relationship(s)'? Are you genuinely looking for marriage or do you want to date for a few months and then move on?

Are you overseas or in the Philippines? Personally I would never engage in a long-distance relationship because I think it's tricky if not impossible to understand someone (motivations, sincerity, loyalty, etc.) unless you spend a lot of time together. My thoughts are reinforced by the behaviour of girls I've met online for fubus who have overseas partners yet play the side. Are all girls like this? No. Are many? Yes. Is it much easier to find a good girl whilst living in the Philippines? Absolutely. Can you still be duped? Yes.

I think you may not realise how many messages attractive girls get. See attached screenshot of a girl's DIA account (scrubbed of any personal info). That's 1073 [I]unopened[/I] messages. Certainly an ego boost. But soon she learns it's a lot of overseas fellas looking for cam sex or just attention. She reads a lot of empty promises; fellas sending a first or second message declaring his affection and intent to marry sets off her BS detector. Or, she messages a guy for many weeks and then he suddenly ghosts her. This happen a lot. Over time this tends to make a girl jaded, so she concludes a sincere bloke is an anomaly, yet he has to compete through all that noise to get a message opened and then be enticing and believable enough to earn a reply. At least you being in the country demonstrates availability and potential.

The danger to you being in country is you're the kid in the candy shop. Do you become a glutton or do you exercise self control and remain true to your goal? Keep in mind that so many women are convinced that all men cheat that even if you don't there's the suspicion in her mind. Some girls decide to (pre-emptively) retaliate by cheating, whether that suspicion was genuine or just a pretext to allow herself cock on the side - a former fling is back in town.

My approach is to use all that noise to my advantage. I'm here, they're not, you don't need to waste your youth sitting at home night after night. I'm not looking for marriage, and I'm not looking to control you, so you can still keep looking for Prince (C)Harming and still meet me once a week or so. Does this work with all women? No. Does it work with enough to keep me busy? Yes. Do some girls find their prince and marry? Yes. One of my former fubus did recently, and then she messaged me on PL. Why was she back on PL? That's a good question.[/QUOTE]What you wrote here is so spot on, others need to read and understand the nature of these web site and all the nuances associated with trying to find both short and long term relationships via long distance by this method. This is the truth and its not for the faint of heart.

TTM.

[QUOTE=ChochaMonger;2042202]That is true. People often do things for a lifetime and get away with it until one day their luck runs out. [/QUOTE]Hello, is this the Dubai forum?

I just wanted to support ChochaMonger's view here. I have too seen plenty of people thinking along those lines, for some reason people tend to think that when they are abroad rules do not apply. In the UAE they usually come in two flavors:

-white idiot, who thinks this will not apply because he is Murican (or British, or any generic white flavor).

-brown idiot, who think that he is smarter than anyone else.

I have seen people get away with truly idiotic behavior for very long (drunk driving in a Muslim country qualifies methinks) but at some point your luck may run out. It all depends on your risk appetite. I personally only take high risks when paid for it.

[QUOTE=Hutsori;2043905]Firstly, define 'serious relationship(s)'? Are you genuinely looking for marriage or do you want to date for a few months and then move on?
[/QUOTE]Man. In the early days of websites it was good and easy to find serious relationships online. These days I would not recommend that shit. Hookers and johns have pretty much taken over. Even if you are only looking to fuck, there is no need in trying to prearrange shit before you come. When you land at the airport you can literally get on one of these dating sites and have a chick waiting in your hotel lobby before you even get there.

These same scenarios that Huts describes go for anywhere in the world. A chick I was fucking in Dominican Republic showed me her cupid and just the same there were over 1000 unopened messages. So to even get through to one of these chicks is sheer luck.

You know how many chicks answer me 1 month after I have sent them an email? Then the lying bittches will say it is because I never come on this site. Bullshit. It is because you had to go through those other 1000 mfs first. These days I would not even waste my time unless I was in country and could tell a chick to meet today or tomorrow.

[QUOTE=JoelR;2043018]But I have just registered at [URL]http://www.cupid.com[/URL] [/QUOTE]I forgot to discuss this. I don't know that site; the ones most commonly mentioned here are dateinasia, pinalove, and filipinocupid. There are others such as tagged, cebuanas, cherry blossoms, and then the Christian-orientated sites.

Dateinasia (DIA) is completely free and therefore the girls get bombarded with messages. Pinalove (PL) is mixed free and paid; free male users may send a message every ten minutes and the paid subscribers are unrestricted. Women there may message unrestricted. Filipinocupid (FC) is also mixed, but free male users are more tightly restricted than PL. A free user may send a message but the free user recipient will only see the first few words. If you're a bit clever you can figure out ways to bypass this to get a girl to message off site, but if the admins find out they'll edit the profile or delete it. Paid members, who are mostly male, have free rein. Of the three sites FC allows the fella the best opportunity to get a girl's attention since the free riders are for all intents and purposes eliminated from the game; girls quickly learn to not waste their time with them.

Before throwing money to a site make sure it has a large member base.

[QUOTE=Hutsori;2044298]Of the three sites FC allows the fella the best opportunity to get a girl's attention since the free riders are for all intents and purposes eliminated from the game; girls quickly learn to not waste their time with them.[/QUOTE]I paid for FC and get substantive replies from about 20-25%. I'm no Hollywood or K-Drama looker, but I can confirm your observation on FC. Getting replies doesn't always mean getting what I want, but it's the necessary first step.

[QUOTE=Hutsori;2044298]I forgot to discuss this. I don't know that site; the ones most commonly mentioned here are dateinasia, pinalove, and filipinocupid. There are others such as tagged, cebuanas, cherry blossoms, and then the Christian-orientated sites.

Dateinasia (DIA) is completely free and therefore the girls get bombarded with messages. Pinalove (PL) is mixed free and paid; free male users may send a message every ten minutes and the paid subscribers are unrestricted. Women there may message unrestricted. Filipinocupid (FC) is also mixed, but free male users are more tightly restricted than PL. A free user may send a message but the free user recipient will only see the first few words. If you're a bit clever you can figure out ways to bypass this to get a girl to message off site, but if the admins find out they'll edit the profile or delete it. Paid members, who are mostly male, have free rein. Of the three sites FC allows the fella the best opportunity to get a girl's attention since the free riders are for all intents and purposes eliminated from the game; girls quickly learn to not waste their time with them.

Before throwing money to a site make sure it has a large member base.[/QUOTE]The truth be told I, the tall man himself, used Colombia cupid back about 2007 to 2011 and after a lot of effort, even back then, got some great responses from some beauties in Colombia, made many trips to both Bogota and medellin, and I recall after really getting to know 2 of these latinas they showed me there profile page and WHAM a thousand or more of messages and interests and all kinds of BS stories.

Here we are almost 10 years later and they must, as you all correctly state, get inundated daily with 10 to 20 interest requests.

I started my filipino cupids search, paid one month fee, and have a stable of 5 to 8 girls kind of at the ready when I land. Let me tell you it takes a great deal of time and effort going through all the interests, many by grand mothers (I kid you not) as of today I have received about 300 interests and actual messages but weeding through them all is a pain in the a*.

I will be Makati this weekend so I will be sure to book end my experiences with you all.

TTM.

[QUOTE=MrEnternational;2044053]Man. In the early days of websites it was good and easy to find serious relationships online. These days I would not recommend that shit. Hookers and johns have pretty much taken over. Even if you are only looking to fuck, there is no need in trying to prearrange shit before you come. When you land at the airport you can literally get on one of these dating sites and have a chick waiting in your hotel lobby before you even get there.

.[/QUOTE]In the very good old days, back when Yahoo Messenger was in its infancy it had a great search feature that they later removed due to privacy concerns. In it you could specify an age, gender and even street name so if you were in Burgos and happened to be looking for a 23 year old in JP Rizal, press enter and there they were. Dating sites came around many years later, but for a couple years it yielded rich harvests. If you got bored with always using one street could quickly move to another. Most girls were good to go as they say.

Wechat of course now has nearly the exact same feature in its lookaround feature.

I always have one lined up for the first night at least, both out of habit and a way of self reminding that I'm back in the land of sweet petite brown ladies (chubsters don't get past a "Hi " with me).

I did a search for a long ago Visayan conquest. (not sure a Mango bar BF is a conquest, but there was a lot of GFE subsequently). Long story short, I found her FB and she still looked good for a shag, despite pushing out three little ankle kickers. In the end, I had fresher fish to fry and we never met up. Maybe next time.

But the FB search turned up another gal with a similar name. Good looking' gal. I sent a message. After some pleasantries, I get this.

OK me I'm here my province take care of my son he so sick my all money is done now.

I really don't know where I can borrow money.

I really sorry if I tell you about money.

My reply was.

Well, I also don't know where you can borrow money. Good luck.

Just wondering what you would do if your favourite filipina offered you access to her phone. Let you look through emails, deleted emails, FB Messenger, Skype etc. Would you accept it?

What would you do with what you find?

[QUOTE=BrainDrain;2046381]Just wondering what you would do if your favourite filipina offered you access to her phone. Let you look through emails, deleted emails, FB Messenger, Skype etc. Would you accept it?

What would you do with what you find?[/QUOTE]Nothing. Because I do not give 2 shits.

[QUOTE=BrainDrain;2046381]Just wondering what you would do if your favourite filipina offered you access to her phone. Let you look through emails, deleted emails, FB Messenger, Skype etc. Would you accept it?

What would you do with what you find?[/QUOTE]I'm totally uninterested in their past, current, or future communications with other guys. I assume she's as active as I am, even if for different reasons. I even have kind of a thing for girls calling someone, anyone, and conversing with them while I try to bang her into incoherence. Many Pinays have shared their correspondence with other guys with me, usually asking for advice from the male perspective. It's flabbergasting how many basement Barneys are out there. It's also obvious which guys lack the social skills to get laid from a non-desperate woman. It's also surprising how many guys obsessed with finding a Pinay can't scrape up the USD 600 (two weeks of work at rock-bottom minimum wage in my country) or so it takes to actually go there from my country. Some are married and want a Pinay mistress, but without the guts to follow through. I suppose I'd be more interested if any of her pretty lady friends made comments about being unhappy with their current beau or looking for a fling. I'm always looking for new playmates for Wooly Jr. I don't get jealous or controlling with the Pinays. If she clearly prefers another guy, I switch to encouraging friend mode and solicit her help in meeting her friends, sisters, cousins, neighbors, etc.

[QUOTE=BrainDrain;2046381]Just wondering what you would do if your favourite filipina offered you access to her phone. Let you look through emails, deleted emails, FB Messenger, Skype etc. Would you accept it?

What would you do with what you find?[/QUOTE]I actually have a situation like that happened to me. She was Thai and her BF was italian and she asked me for help setting up PayPal. Once I got access I saw all the pics she sent to her BF, wow, she did look good without clothes. Never had a chance to try her, but I still remember her.

This is a very interesting and complicated question, IMHO.

My favorite non-bar girl friend hides her friends on FB. I'd like to take a look, but I also hide my friends. Fair is fair.

Going into her phone sounds wrong to me. I've never tried to look, nor asked to look at anything on her phone except when when she took my picture.

On the other hand, if a bar girl offered me access, I'd love to see her nocturnal shenanigans. As I posted earlier on ISG I was able to listen in on a P4P sweetie dealing with a problem related to her long-time threesome arrangement that was getting complicated with a fourth. She was using her phone and this was in my hotel room, BTW.

Petite and sweet, she get's down and dirty when she has to and when she wants to. I got two rounds in before she was convinced to rejoin her menage a trois in the wee hours. And inexplicably she showed me a video on her phone vid of some guy banging her. Poor video, 90% guy and two brown legs bobbing away. She said he did it secretly, but me thinks she likes it. I want to do some video if I ever get another opportunity in her panties.

BrainDrain, why did you ask the questions and what is your answer? To be honest, if I found something really naughty about the GF, it would hurt. I think I could let it go since we we aren't together for most of the year. But if there were some obvious lies, I'd have to reconsider the relationship. I do recognize that jealousy is one of the least productive human emotions, but conquering the Green Monster is easier said than done.

[QUOTE=BrainDrain;2046381]Just wondering what you would do if your favourite filipina offered you access to her phone. Let you look through emails, deleted emails, FB Messenger, Skype etc. Would you accept it?

What would you do with what you find?[/QUOTE]