Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

[QUOTE=Cebu Local]Actually Another American in the building took her in,His Comments Looks 6-7 BBBJ 7-8,Bed Skills 7-8,GFE 9 Cost Sleeps on his sofa and food.He will allow her to stay up to a week until she finds a place to stay,In the meantime,She is doing his laundry and Fucking him and Blowing him as much as He wants,He told me last night,He was watching TV drinking a Beer while she blew him twice,Dang I should have offered to be a good samaritan.Being nice sometimes has its rewards[/QUOTE]

Receive BJ's that is! :)

Guinness

[QUOTE=CanContrib]Yes, some of them can get very emotional which is a terrible combination with desperation. We don't know the background of this girl (here) but perhaps she really did feel that she had nowhere to turn. Your post suggests it wasn't just a ploy to keep the bf, since slashing wrists is going way far into the desperation trip. A girl that thinks that she can poison herself with a tube of what she brushes her teeth with is liklely not likely a college grad, hence the desperation. I'm happy to hear it all worked out ok.

I do have to comment that the American dude could have picked a better time to show her the door than the middle of the night, like waiting a few hours until dawn. Then again, we don't know his reason.

Yes indeed there are a LOT of girls who have no place to sleep if they have no money for a flophouse and nothing left to pawn. Once their cellfone is already pawned (their last resort) where are they going to go if their family isn't near enough to get back to?

This reminds me of one occasion a few years ago. A sometimes-gf txts me if I'm home alone. I was and txt'd her back. She asked if she could come over and bring a "friend" that had no place to sleep. After having her assure me her friend would be no problem I said "ok", and they were at my condo (at the time) in 15 minutes. I slept in the middle. My good friend didn't mind at all when her friend wanted to show her gratitude for a place to sleep. I often miss having that condo![/QUOTE]

This shows that anyone staying medium / long term should rent a nice condo and let the non-bar girls out there know that you have a nice place. In Phils. the bush telegraph is efficient. Play your cards perfectly, you can set up a harem. Girls save on rent, you get all for free! Be really nice and buy then Jollybee treats if they perform to standard. Otherwise, no Jollybee!

Just make sure your place is located somewhere like Makati or Malate and not in the the boonies.My place in Manila has several bedrooms,So I can have several houseguests at the same time.Guiness that incident happened just off Burgos,You cannot imagine the number of Burgos girls who would like to sleep somewhere nice.You can get them for board and food.

If you choose to ship goods to the PI, beware of customs. I shipped 1000 lbs last year (TV, computer and household items) and I paid $200 for import taxes.

What made me mad is that the shipper showed up at my house and I never got to talk to the customs official. Everything was used, and they never took that in to account.

When I shipped door to door, I never had to pay any taxes. My wife said that taxes are included in the price. (I don't know)

I got to keep the shipping containers and my wife got two of these made for 1000P, so there was something good out of it...lol

Robb

[QUOTE=Cebu Local] Guinness that incident happened just off Burgos,You cannot imagine the number of Burgos girls who would like to sleep somewhere nice.You can get them for board and food.[/QUOTE]

When you say "Burgos girls", are you talking about the Burgos bargirls or the freelancers hanging out on the streets? Both?

Maybe tonight, instead of buying ladies drinks and paying a barfine, I'll just ask the girl if she would like to become my sex slave for the night and in return I'll buy her breakfast at the North Park Cafe! :) It's worth a shot...

See you soon,

Guinness

guys here have asked about the differences between p.i. gals and american.the gals are about the same depending where they come from. the normal american gal likes nice things always showing the new things she got at the store or the new car she drives.the p.i. gals are just the same they will want everyone to see they have a foreign boyfrend which means she has a "cash cow" so to speek.the cell phone and what she has on for dress speaks louder than a blank check here.it's all smoke and mirrors and the only one that knows the truth is the little honeyko next to you.any gal that comes from nothing is bound to like a change in style if she has the money to change.

this means that if you get a wife from the hills in america that works hard,you give her a better life watch out.most not all will be nose in the air if you do not control the attitude and spending.same with the gals here, they come from a poor family and then see how fast they want to spend your jack.you can not make a silk purse out of a pigs ear.you must remember if the gal marries a guy from this country she will love him rich or poor.if the little jewel gets a foreign guy she will 'say" she loves you and will spend your money faster than shit through a goose.the reason is unknown?many gals here will live with a poor guy with nothing from this country,but the game starts with the foreigner.it's a double standard,they see us as security for the whole clan.these gals are taught that above all else security first, then love.the show starts when you go meet the family and then the frends.the other gals will be jealous of what she has found,foreign skinn.the poor guy that has nothing will never have to prove anything, but not true with us.

we will have to be the ones that set the town standard with the whole family.we are the ones that must give a better life to the "relathieves".this is a handed down tradition that all or most families go by here.they want there little princess that you rescued from the gutter to be taken care of in grand fashion also no scraps for mom,dad,sister,brouther,grand ma,ect.relathieves is a term brought to my attention and i think it's true to a point.

you must not be to rough to fast when bringing the curtain down on the family.the little jewel might just move you out first before getting in the way of easy street for the rest.in my opinion the family is made lazy if you give to much.they drink party and spend money like water.and when its gone they don't care they just wait for the next care package from overseas.heard it seen it many times, some guys have bought banka boats, jipneys,houses,and what ever else the relathieves want or think they need.and they will all want a sorry sorry store, even if ther is 8 more in a 2 block radious.even if you are the poorest guy in town in america you are a wealthy foreigner in the eyes of the "lbfm"s"

if you plan to get along with your futere mrs, get the money deal down to a science over there.i will asure you you will have a better transition with your new found love if the ground rules are already in place.

play safe, b.b...

[QUOTE=Guinness]When you say "Burgos girls", are you talking about the Burgos bargirls or the freelancers hanging out on the streets? Both?

Maybe tonight, instead of buying ladies drinks and paying a barfine, I'll just ask the girl if she would like to become my sex slave for the night and in return I'll buy her breakfast at the North Park Cafe! :) It's worth a shot...

See you soon,

Guinness[/QUOTE]I was referring to off duty bargirls and not on duty free lancers,Basically Both,I basically pick up in the 88 Internet Cafe during the morning and Afternoon,The 7-11 beside it at early morning and the Mini stop beside Matrix,But remember its timing,I picked up a Burgos girl yesterday at 5 Am at 7-11,Rather then go home to Paranaque,She took my offer of crashing at my place,Breakfast at Tapa King and quick romp before heading off for the day.Remember She was tired and facing a 150 peso cab ride and a 45 minute ride home to a cramped room.I invited her to have breakfast,then asked her If she was sleepy,which she was,So I let her sleep in a spare bedroom I reserve for "company"aka nothing to steal inside,then did her before she left.During the day invite them for a meal say at Pizza Hut,then ask them If they want to take a siesta in your place....Happy Hunting

i returned back from the p.i. 8 weeks ago and have bought tickets for round 2 in july for a shorter time 2-3 months.the events that have happened are this.i found a girl that was married to an american and lived on the west coast for 11 years with him.he was much older than her,over 30 years.he married her in her 20.s and she was divorced 9 months ago and returned to the pi with him in december.she has money in the bank owns a house in a busy beach area, 3 million p worth of house not bad for a poor provence gal.

i met her with her ex in january and stayed with her until we came back to the states in the last week of april.after getting here i found that things were not the same and how i felt about her was not the same as it was there.she was like a child,she needed constant care and i knew this would happen and was not shore how much.after a week of being home i had the pressure back on me, the business, the bills, the regular american presure so to speek of life in general.thats ok but the new added baggage was not figured into the works on my part.i was trying to get up to speed after being gone 6 months and was constantly thinking if she was happy.this was driving me crazy! i work from home but would feel guilty if i had to go out.of course she went with me and we had fun but she was like a fish outof water so to speek.out ages are only 7 years apart and she is drop dead beautiful.she never had a child and is in her mid thirty's is a good cook and great person but the feelings are different upon returning back home.

we both decided that she should fly over to where she spent the past 11 years when she was married. she went to san diego and spent 4 weeks there.she came back 2 weeks ago and i now now she is not gonna make any wedding plans here.i am the one that does not want what i at one time wished for.you go there and fall in love 5-6 times a day and find a woman that has her own money and house, but the culture difference is still there.

the deal is over she left friday and yes we will always be friends but thats all,and my input on life there was seen through her eyes also.and i have expressed it to you guys here, but i also had some great schooling there also.like the you can take the girl from the bar but not the bar from the girl line.this person never worked in a bar and never wants to live in her own country again rich or poor.

be careful what you wish for,it's not easy and you will have guilt and many other feelings about the gal if you have to let her stay alone at all.i wanted a better life for her and still do but the investment of time it takes to see them through the new transition is huge.you might say why was it new to her? she has ben here before, not on this coast and was sheltered by an old man that was i am sure worried about her finding a new guy.think long and hard before you get the ring out and get down on one knee.the differences are huge and you must remember you had time there but when you get back home the playing field is different.

b.b.

[QUOTE=Cebu Local]I was referring to off duty bargirls and not on duty free lancers,Basically Both,I basically pick up in the 88 Internet Cafe during the morning and Afternoon,The 7-11 beside it at early morning and the Mini stop beside Matrix,But remember its timing,I picked up a Burgos girl yesterday at 5 Am at 7-11,Rather then go home to Paranaque,She took my offer of crashing at my place,Breakfast at Tapa King and quick romp before heading off for the day.Remember She was tired and facing a 150 peso cab ride and a 45 minute ride home to a cramped room.I invited her to have breakfast,then asked her If she was sleepy,which she was,So I let her sleep in a spare bedroom I reserve for "company"aka nothing to steal inside,then did her before she left.During the day invite them for a meal say at Pizza Hut,then ask them If they want to take a siesta in your place....Happy Hunting[/QUOTE]

Precisely Right On. Cebu Local told you the facts, exactly as I know them to be true by experience and it doesn't matter if if's Makati, Malate, or anywhere girls go looking for a "better life" or just life until they wake up safe somewhere. Nothing more to add in context. Pay attention!

[QUOTE=Bill Buxton]I YOU CAN TAKE THE GIRL FROM THE BAR BUT NOT THE BAR FROM THE GIRL line.This person never worked in a bar and never wants to live in her own country again rich or poor.
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Yes, snipped out of context, but still VERY TRUE. Until you've been intimate with a Pinay (and I *don't* mean sex, which one must understand is just a normal part of life to most Pinays), you can't begin to understand how Pinays think and feel. Even after many years it will surface. It's seemingly culturally ingrained and even if you can smooth the rough edges and provide that "better life", they think the grass is always greener on the other side, unless forced to cut that green grass on their own for a lifetime and their kids lifetime. Maybe not even then, and it doesn't matter to most of us what 2 or 3 generations down the road might feel.

Right now I know more Pinays in process (or so they hope) to go abroad than might want to make a life at home, and some of them I know very intmately (see above).

After calling and talking to my GF on the phone who is in the province she still wants to leave.I had a straight up conversation with her about the high cost of living in my country.And told her that I would not send thousands of peso's to her family because we needed it to have a good comfortable life here.She said it was ok with her if we send a small amount to help the "relathieves".Thats the problem everyone of us will face when we are serious about getting a gal to your country.Remember they have know way of knowing what things cost because they have never left the P.I. for mor than a vacation in another asian country.Those are the lucky one's.

B.B.

For those of you considering taking a Filipina bride I would suggest you go to this site and read. At the bottom of the page are many links to other enlightening sites.

Keep in mind this site is simply one persons opinion and the focus is on taking a lady to the USA but some good words of wisdom for you.

[url]http://filipinawives.com/TransitioningFilipina.htm[/url]

ES

[QUOTE=Eaglestar]For those of you considering taking a Filipina bride I would suggest you go to this site and read. At the bottom of the page are many links to other enlightening sites.

Keep in mind this site is simply one persons opinion and the focus is on taking a lady to the USA but some good words of wisdom for you.

[url]http://filipinawives.com/TransitioningFilipina.htm[/url]

ES[/QUOTE]I think that the info atthis link is good general advise.I have a frend thats arrived back in the states with his new wife.He told me via a telephone call that his wife finds the people here to be friendly,and the men more respectful twords here than in her country.'Because people know they have to act like human people in there own country not Assholes like some do in the P.I.".

B.B.

What do the girls expect for wedding rings? I do not want to spend thousands on a ring again. Would they like a traditional type ring set but with a lesser stone than a diamond or maybe even a synthetic diamond? What did some of you guys do?

[QUOTE=Eaglestar]For those of you considering taking a Filipina bride I would suggest you go to this site and read. At the bottom of the page are many links to other enlightening sites.ES[/QUOTE]
Thanks Eaglestar,
Just returned from a wife hunting trip and that site will prove to be invaluable no doubt.

Excelsior!