Seeking Arrangement- SA- in India

Hello seniors,

I need feedback and reviews on the following Seeking profiles in Kolkata.

I would greatly appreciate if anyone can help me out.

TIA.

Sneha: [URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/c2a6ed72-8c29-4edb-bd6a-e4c8840540fb[/URL].

Sarbari: [URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/0397f7bf-8c7b-4ac0-8a79-f6e5f42b46de[/URL].

Tisha: [URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/081dec42-cdb1-4e50-8bd3-b71e91618911[/URL].

Yogini: [URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/11b3b07d-9876-4e02-8081-297deac829bd[/URL].

Cleo: [URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/a0da5e0f-ec72-40db-886c-40d1b5b5c832[/URL].

Puja: [URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/85573369-cf39-4d49-a5e7-468daf2f6c30[/URL].

Butterfly: [URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/4b28d04b-f099-4802-9821-f1a5821995a5[/URL].

[QUOTE=MadHatter;3005880]What works for me is that I am an NRI and have international numbers.

I always carry a second phone for my hobby. The sim card for that phone is registered to some dude about 10 years ago. I keep paying the bills and keep the phone going. So that way, truecaller etc doesn't really work.

I will always recommend a second phone because of it working out for me. It is a cheaper phone. My main phone stays locked away. The only thing anybody has access to is the cash that I carry and this phone. Which has a credit card with a low limit on it's apple pay. So even if I get fucked over, the damage is minimal.

These are all things I have learnt over the years. And have worked well for me.[/QUOTE]That's smart.

[QUOTE=Intercourser;3005413]It seems like some men here are looking for love that they never received from their spouse. How does it help others if they claim that a SB they are seeing is exclusive to them. There could be exceptions but most of the times, the girl is simply lying to you. [/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Phil50;3005081]
For every such relationship, there was someone who scammed or abused my trust.
My point is if you get too emotionally attached (I'm single and vulnerable to that) it does not end well. [/QUOTE]These are 200% true. Any SA / SDM (or equivalent app) girl telling you or giving you an impression that she is exclusive to you OR you are the only one she is meeting is blatantly lying. Why is she doing it? Well, if you are the type who can help her with money whenever she wants, she simply doesn't want to lose you (you are just a backup option for her).

I have had far too many experiences that always end up finding out that the girl is betraying you, deceiving you with way too many lies. I have had my fair share of experiences in this journey in the last 6-7 years and always ended up finding that the girl was never exclusive to you and all those "relationships" always ended up badly. You are always the loser. This is nothing but a losing game, if you are emotionally attached and vulnerable and want someone exclusive to you.

Here are some examples in my journey.

1) This girl I was seeing from SA for more than couple of years and had met several times, once she said she was in some financial need and had to meet people because of that and would be out of it once it settles. Since her ask was not much I gave her that, besides I thought I would be meeting her anyways and I can settle that. Few days after I gave her the money, I still saw her on SA and when I confronted her, she simply said whatever I gave was not enough and still wanted more and would stop soon. This was about a year back. Eventually she reduced talking to me, meeting me and now completely out of touch. I know for a fact that she is still in SA and meeting people and have already met half of population from Delhi and Hyderabad and pan-India as well. Poor girl, her financial needs are still not met.

2) This girl I met last year, she was / is a college student, she said I was the first person to meet from SA and had to because of college fees and family not financially well. I liked her and it was just about the time I found out about girl #1, so I wanted to move on as well. After couple of meets, she asked me if I can help. She said she doesn't want to meet others and scared of meeting people and that we could meet frequently and I can settle it. Once again, dick ruled head and I gave her some money. She had said we can meet weekly once types and settle it. After that although she kept talking everyday, she would give some excuse to meet. It eventually came down to hardly a meet once a month types. There has been few instances where she used to promise a date and cancel at last minute. Initially when we met, she was comfortable with pretty much everything but later she started saying she is not comfortable with this and that. I still let it go, because I got attached to her. Anyways, at some point I got suspicious and I created another TG account and contacted her. Just to see her "loyalty" or if she was even giving importance to someone who had been with her when she needed, I kept messaging her from both accounts as different persons. I asked her when she could meet the real me and she agreed for a date. From my fake me, I tried negotiating for her ask, negotiating for what all she is ready to do etc. A day before the date she had promised to meet the real me, from my fake account, I asked her to meet the next day. Bang, she agreed immediately. To the real me, she said, she is sick, got periods and can't meet etc. Worst thing is this girl was ready to do everything that she said she was not comfortable with me. BJ, CIM. If I had pushed her a bit for anal from my fake account a bit more she would agreed for that too. The level to which these girls stoop, is unimaginable. The fake me asked her for golden shower, pretty nasty things and this girl is politely saying we will see and try. If these girls get money, they would be ready to eat shit.

Anyways, I showed her the conversation with the fake me and as expected it didn't end well. She blocked me. Neither was I keen on meeting her again, so there it ended. Later I came to know that she had met people before me and she was meeting people all along. The reason why she cancelled me last minute because she found someone else who was ready to pay her after meet, where as me, she cancelled because I had already paid and she knew I would pay if she needed again.

3) This is similar to girl #2, college girl, we met few times last year. She always came across as shy, reserved type. We hit really well and at some point, I started to assume that she is exclusive to me. Because she said she was really happy with me and won't see anyone until we are together. I helped her whenever she needed and I even planned for a vacation with her and actually did all the booking. A day before I just wanted to check if she truly is worth all the risk and expense, so like #2, from my fake account, I pinged her that I wanted to meet her. She didn't even ask who gave reference, how I looked, nothing and immediately agreed for an amount. Since she was planning to go with the real me the next day evening, she agreed to meet the next day morning to the fake me. She agreed to do a lot of things together which I know she is not comfortable with real me. Worst part is, I met her that night and she was still texting the fake me, while sitting with the real me. Thats how these girls are. They don't have any gratitude. Just lies, deception, betrayal and backstabbing.

Now, if you look at things from their perspective, you will understand that, all they want is money. When they know their worth and when they know that they can make easy money why will they stop it? Would you? If they are exclusive to you, how much you actually can keep doing to her? These girls want luxury and it never stops. You give them 10, they want 20 and when they know they can get that easily, why will they stop it?

In my repeated experiences, I only understood that its not their mistake, its me having wrong expectations. They will tell 1000 things but you need to use your brain and not dick. There is nothing like exclusiveness in this journey and please don't get emotionally attached to anyone, you will be the loser and you will only get hurt.

[QUOTE=MadHatter;3005880]What works for me is that I am an NRI and have international numbers.

I always carry a second phone for my hobby. The sim card for that phone is registered to some dude about 10 years ago. I keep paying the bills and keep the phone going. So that way, truecaller etc doesn't really work.

I will always recommend a second phone because of it working out for me. It is a cheaper phone. My main phone stays locked away. The only thing anybody has access to is the cash that I carry and this phone. Which has a credit card with a low limit on it's apple pay. So even if I get fucked over, the damage is minimal.

These are all things I have learnt over the years. And have worked well for me.[/QUOTE]What worked for me is, the arrangement knows l have contacts with very high powerful people. IPS, IAS, Judges, Politicians. The funny part is each of us when we catch up and banter we have same connection where we can openly and candidly share about the ladies we been with. I was on the verge of being scammed the amount would have been like 20 k, not something I would break a sweat on but wanted to teach the lady you don't always win, she tried all the tricks up her sleeves from she is the victim to the woman card but the fact remained she is losing a lot monetarily, emotionally and socially. She simply apologied to me and I simply told her to keep the money but keep in consideration you might come across someone very powerful and he will not let all these pass. It becomes power play for them.

[QUOTE=GoofyDad;3006247]These are 200% true. Any SA / SDM (or equivalent app) girl telling you or giving you an impression that she is exclusive to you OR you are the only one she is meeting is blatantly lying. Why is she doing it? Well, if you are the type who can help her with money whenever she wants, she simply doesn't want to lose you (you are just a backup option for her).

I have had far too many experiences that always end up finding out that the girl is betraying you, deceiving you with way too many lies. I have had my fair share of experiences in this journey in the last 6-7 years and always ended up finding that the girl was never exclusive to you and all those "relationships" always ended up badly. You are always the loser. This is nothing but a losing game, if you are emotionally attached and vulnerable and want someone exclusive to you.

Here are some examples in my journey..[/QUOTE]Man you have penned my thoughts. Have had similar experiences. When I talk to anyone or like someone, I tell them if we vibe I would want to see them repeatedly but won't do a monthly allowance thing. A PPM works. As for helping goes. Have burnt money before so have stopped doing that as well. Plenty of fishes in the pond.

The first two Photos are from an Insta girl in Ahmedabad. Other things also don't add up even if we have to speculate if it is the original Insta person.

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/69c62fb1-3389-449f-bcc1-fbf5709876c6[/URL]

We all have our own variants of mis-experiences the OP articulated but the core mentioned below is the same. I didn't learn from the 1st episode, contemplated to be positive (she had a different spin) Happened second as well but sub-consciously had moved to lesser advance. After that it's been ppm. I tell them it's less pressure both ways and have even given the looks and looked away being so. I have come to terms on that and that's okay for me.

I have been able to get meets done against the advance provided in some cases but as it progresses you can see some or the other flimsy excuses coming. It's a common psychology behavior that once they have made it to the bank already they chase the next honey nest. Them seeing multiple folks is pretty common even if they are nodding their head, It's are own analogy of a good feel and they like to provide us that.

Y'all have fun!!

[QUOTE=SexDivine78;3006380]Man you have penned my thoughts. Have had similar experiences. When I talk to anyone or like someone, I tell them if we vibe I would want to see them repeatedly but won't do a monthly allowance thing. A PPM works. As for helping goes. Have burnt money before so have stopped doing that as well. Plenty of fishes in the pond.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=DesiLover;3005501]Rhea name profile on seeking is a scammer. Guys avoid doing virtual arrangement, and be careful.

See the screenshots.

[URL]https://members.seeking.com/member/123f00e5-1d96-476b-8e3d-a18bce3d2f3b[/URL][/QUOTE]Report her to SA and add the screen shot of the chat.

[QUOTE=SymonWestt;3003873]Look like an SP Profile.

TG ID & SA IS are same.[/QUOTE]Shruti is genuine. I have done video calls with her. Nvr met her as her body type is not piece of cake.

I guess all of us looking for a long term relationship on SA have experienced disappointment in one way or the other. The examples posted are similar to my experience.
I have also made a fake account once, or asked a friend to message and seen two sides of the same girl.
I still look for long term, which is increasingly rare on SA and all I can do is reduce the chances that you are being played.

I insist on an unpaid (except for cab) casual meet, before deciding anything. If indeed she is looking for long term and exclusivity, she should be able to invest the same time in getting to know me, as I am. Though I am a SA veteran and have adamant about this rule, I broke it recently, for one of the Bangalore profiles who ticked all the boxes in the chat. She had a last minute 'emergency' and wanted some money for the meet (after ghosting me earlier). I regret that, as she looked nothing like the pics, kept me waiting and just didn't vibe.

I try to find out what they do and how they spend their time. I have been seeing a girl for a few months now, who deleted her SA after a couple of meets with me and has been open about her life. We communicate on whatsapp. She works in a store where she has one day off a week and a curfew in her PG. She has gone out with me for non intimate dates like a movie, where I compensate her with a third of the amount she'd get for an intimate date. So I know she's not looking to maximise her income and it's not practical for her to see multiple men.

If it is a long term relationship there will be occasions where you meet without intimacy. In such cases, I keep the compensation at a third of the intimacy amount. She does not feel I am wasting her time and I am not paying 'full price'. In this context, I am ok if she wants a few non sexual meets before being intimate. I think that's natural if she's not an escort and I'm more than double her age. As long as its time bound and the compensation is a third of the regular amount, it works for me.

[QUOTE=JustLikeThe;3006398]We all have our own variants of mis-experiences the OP articulated but the core mentioned below is the same. I didn't learn from the 1st episode, contemplated to be positive (she had a different spin) Happened second as well but sub-consciously had moved to lesser advance. After that it's been ppm. I tell them it's less pressure both ways and have even given the looks and looked away being so. I have come to terms on that and that's okay for me.

I have been able to get meets done against the advance provided in some cases but as it progresses you can see some or the other flimsy excuses coming. It's a common psychology behavior that once they have made it to the bank already they chase the next honey nest. Them seeing multiple folks is pretty common even if they are nodding their head, It's are own analogy of a good feel and they like to provide us that.

Y'all have fun!![/QUOTE]I agree with you that most of the times. There won't be any exclusivity even if commited. Say 90%+ times. But I have experienced that some girls are not like that.

Case 1 - the girl had joined SA just a few days before we connected. She was working in a legit firm and had a full time job. We chatted, connected and met over coffee. She didn't ask for even cab fare. We both liked. But she was unsure about sex. We met another 3-4 times over a two months period. Given her and my job before we had sex. For all those meetings she refused cab fare despite me offering it. I usually don't pay for drinks being a teetotaler. I offered her to have drinks because we got along so well. She refused. So for all those 4-5 meetings I just paid for coffee or meals.

Then we spent a night together. By that time she had stopped using her SA account. She developed cold feet after that. Deleted her SA profile and TG ID. Stopped sugaring.

Case 2 : On the other hand I met someone else. She was very clear she wanted to meet multiple men, she said she enjoys sex and doesn't want to be restricted. Comes from a well to do family. Money is not the major motivation. Never asked for cab fare. In fact has bought gifts for me. She in fact told me that if I wanted exclusivity, she won't meet me.

Case 3: A girl once bailed out on me at last minute. She asked me to adjust the hotel room money that I lost in the next meeting. I paid her accordingly in the next meeting. No drama.

So it's a spectrum, one meets all kind of people. But yes, largely you can't trust the girls on SA.

I'm a seasoned monger but new to SA.

Can any kind heart bro can help by referring SA girls FR Hyderabad?

Yes, there are exceptions. Some of us come across those exception's and some don't.

[QUOTE=FunForSandy;3006613]I agree with you that most of the times. There won't be any exclusivity even if commited. Say 90%+ times. But I have experienced that some girls are not like that.

Case 1 - the girl had joined SA just a few days before we connected. She was working in a legit firm and had a full time job. We chatted, connected and met over coffee. She didn't ask for even cab fare. We both liked. But she was unsure about sex. We met another 3-4 times over a two months period. Given her and my job before we had sex. For all those meetings she refused cab fare despite me offering it. I usually don't pay for drinks being a teetotaler. I offered her to have drinks because we got along so well. She refused. So for all those 4-5 meetings I just paid for coffee or meals.

Then we spent a night together. By that time she had stopped using her SA account. She developed cold feet after that. Deleted her SA profile and TG ID. Stopped sugaring.

Case 2 : On the other hand I met someone else. She was very clear she wanted to meet multiple men, she said she enjoys sex and doesn't want to be restricted. Comes from a well to do family. Money is not the major motivation. Never asked for cab fare. In fact has bought gifts for me. She in fact told me that if I wanted exclusivity, she won't meet me.

Case 3: A girl once bailed out on me at last minute. She asked me to adjust the hotel room money that I lost in the next meeting. I paid her accordingly in the next meeting. No drama.

So it's a spectrum, one meets all kind of people. But yes, largely you can't trust the girls on SA.[/QUOTE]

Hi Brethren's,

Can some kind soul help me with seeing the private pics of a profile on SA and probably initiate a conversations with that girl and get the TG?

I can share good contacts for Delhi / NCR region.

TIA.

I guess, you had a vc on tg.

The issue with tg vc is, its activated on multiple devices at a same time.

In many cases, when you ask for a vc abruptly, they won't allow for a vc then they says excuses like, with family or in office or with friends or travelling or still on bed etccccc.

Then they fix a time later. Because the guy who chat with you talk to that girl and fix the time for vc and convey you accordingly.

[QUOTE=PlayMe;3006497]Shruti is genuine. I have done video calls with her. Nvr met her as her body type is not piece of cake.[/QUOTE]