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Horney Traveler,

I guess you lucked out this time. In your case I guess this girl is young and not yet quite an experienced actriz. Maybe another year or so working the bar and she will learn to return your calls immediately and if she does everthing right soon she will have 4 or 5 #1 loves in her life. And soon she won't even have to work the bar to get her bills paid.

I would suggest rereading the posts from Scatman and Horse trader. They really made some valid points. Going into this thing you do have to remember you are entering fantasy.

Land when you head to Tijuana. Thats not to say you can not build a relationship with 1 of these girls and have great times with a beautiful lady south of the border. Just don't let your heart get to involved. It is so ridicules that we would look for love in a bar filled with prostitutes. But it is just to easy in that kind of enviorment.

And remember as Scatman stated once you become a customer any chance of it becoming a real relationship is doomed. In the future if you do feel some kind of chemistry go down and hangout with her. Just keep paying her for sex out of the equation. It is not that hard to hangout with her for awhile and then it is not that hard to find someone else to take care of the sexual gratification.

[QUOTE=HugoTheMan;1700547]Horney Traveler,

I guess you lucked out this time. In your case I guess this girl is young and not yet quite an experienced actriz. Maybe another year or so working the bar and she will learn to return your calls immediately and if she does everthing right soon she will have 4 or 5 #1 loves in her life. And soon she won't even have to work the bar to get her bills paid.

I would suggest rereading the posts from Scatman and Horse trader. They really made some valid points. Going into this thing you do have to remember you are entering fantasy.

Land when you head to Tijuana. Thats not to say you can not build a relationship with 1 of these girls and have great times with a beautiful lady south of the border. Just don't let your heart get to involved. It is so ridicules that we would look for love in a bar filled with prostitutes. But it is just to easy in that kind of environment.

And remember as Scatman stated once you become a customer any chance of it becoming a real relationship is doomed. In the future if you do feel some kind of chemistry go down and hangout with her. Just keep paying her for sex out of the equation. It is not that hard to hangout with her for awhile and then it is not that hard to find someone else to take care of the sexual gratification.[/QUOTE]I completely agree with what you all saying.

News update she's on me right now asking for rent money. After adding International service to my mobile I called her she answered and bullshit after bullshit conversation. She sounded sad and low and she was very happy to hear from me then she told me she didn't want to go to work because she was very tired but she was late on her rent Here we go.

I told her that I gave her $200 about 3 days ago she said that she paid the gas the utility bills and that she expended all the same day because in Mexico money don't last. I know for sure she doesn't have a padrote or buy drugs she's just a drinker.

Now the conversation goes for about 5 minutes and I asked her why she blocked me on facebook and she said someone else did it. After done talking she sent me a Wasap text asking me when I was coming back I told her next week and then she asked me for money $$ for rent today right now I was going to say yes but that would make me the king of suckers. I told her not today I will help next week than she told me ok Bye and to text her when in my way to Tijuana.

She sounded very low and sad my heart was saying send her the money by Western Union, but what you guys think should I send her just $100 for now just to make her feel a little better?? I think I will change my name to Forrest Gump.

Shit brah, I would cut your losses and forget this lady. She has probably told the same sob story to the other 12 guys that have professed their deep feelings for her. It is an instinct of survival and the more you continue to communicate the harder it gets to break away.

Good luck to you!

[QUOTE=HornyTraveler;1700576]I completely agree with what you all saying.

News update she's on me right now asking for rent money. After adding International service to my mobile I called her she answered and bullshit after bullshit conversation. She sounded sad and low and she was very happy to hear from me then she told me she didn't want to go to work because she was very tired but she was late on her rent Here we go.

I told her that I gave her $200 about 3 days ago she said that she paid the gas the utility bills and that she expended all the same day because in Mexico money don't last. I know for sure she doesn't have a padrote or buy drugs she's just a drinker.

Now the conversation goes for about 5 minutes and I asked her why she blocked me on facebook and she said someone else did it. After done talking she sent me a Wasap text asking me when I was coming back I told her next week and then she asked me for money $$ for rent today right now I was going to say yes but that would make me the king of suckers. I told her not today I will help next week than she told me ok Bye and to text her when in my way to Tijuana.

She sounded very low and sad my heart was saying send her the money by Western Union, but what you guys think should I send her just $100 for now just to make her feel a little better?? I think I will change my name to Forrest Gump.[/QUOTE]Tell her you love her so much, you'll bring her a $100 the next time you spend all night together.

Win-win.

[QUOTE=HornyTraveler;1700576]She sounded very low and sad my heart was saying send her the money by Western Union, but what you guys think should I send her just $100 for now just to make her feel a little better?? I think I will change my name to Forrest Gump.[/QUOTE]I may as well add my 2 centavos.

First, blanket statements like they're all lying slutz is as wrong as saying they're all angels simply struggling to make ends meet. All the girls have similar stories (or none would be working in hooker bars) but they're not all money-grubbing ho's. Yes, they need to be good actresses in order to sell their wares. Yes, if they spend too long in this business they can become very damaged. So would you if you dealt with the constant bullshit from lots of clients who treated you as a cumdump, a piece of meat, a masturbation doll with a pulse. I've spent enough time with various and sundry working girls in many parts of the globe, and, with very few exceptions, once you peel back a few layers of the onion you find a vulnerable woman who too often has a shitload of responsibilities and few tools to use in order to meet them.

One thing about these Latinas, they tend to be more emotionally driven than their gringa sisters. Maybe that night was a one-off due to her emotions. Maybe she likes you but is very cautious. They, too, have had their share of broken hearts and broken promises. So, you always have to factor "changed my mind" into the equation. Another thing you MUST factor in is drugs. A lot of the chicas take drugs and that will result in erratic behavior. Unfortunately, drug addition (including alcohol) is an occupational hazard. Too often chemical substances are needed to mask the pain of the work, the life, whatever. Another thing you MUST factor in is the mental health of these chicas. Bi-polar, or just plain bat-shit crazy, are things I've seen. You don't need to get involved in that sort of thing.

It takes some balls to confess that you've fallen for a BG. She caught you at a vulnerable moment. It happens to all of us, but few want to admit it. It's easy to say "don't do it," but you can't always avoid it. You just have to manage it. You don't give up everything and ruin your life over a BG. But you can enjoy the ride while it lasts. Ultimately, the head has to rule the heart. It's not easy.

I don't know this chick. You're probably lucky to have experienced this before it got too far along. It can go two ways. She likes you, or she thinks you're a mark. By all means, IF you have the spare dough, send her a few bux. NEVER, EVER, the first amount she requests. If she wants $100, send $50. It's a cheap investment. You'll find out on your next visit what it means. She'll be nicer, longer sessions, more GFE, whatever. Or not. If not, you're out a few dollars and it's a cheap lesson. Treat it as advance payment and make sure you get a return on your investment. NEVER give money that you can't afford to lose (seems obvious, but I've seen otherwise).

As an aside, one thing about BGs is that they don't make the money we think they make. Another thing is that most live hand to mouth. They always need something. Rent, gas, electricity, food, doctor, etc. , etc. , etc. Much of that is rooted in the Mexican "live for today" attitude, and much is that they really don't make a lot of money. The ones who do tend to [url=http://isgprohibitedwords.info?CodeWord=CodeWord140][CodeWord140][/url] it away. So, if you're going to participate in this to any degree, know that you'll be hit up for lots of these requests. In this case, as you demurred, she bailed and went looking for the next potential source. Don't read a lot into it, because she probably does need the money for rent.

If it were me, I would send a few dollars, but NO MORE than $100, IF you can afford it. If she doesn't treat you like an Aztec king on your next visit, blow her off and move on. It'd be a very cheap lesson. If she does, then proceed with caution, NEVER getting involved, financially, with more than you can't comfortably walk away from.

One last thing, the age gap is too great for a true "relationship. " Yes, larger age gaps are often the norm in MX, as well as other countries. 20+ years is generally unmanageable. 15 seems to be very doable, so if you're in the market for this sort of arrangement, look for somebody around 30. There are many.

[QUOTE=HornyTraveler;1700576]She sounded very low and sad my heart was saying send her the money by Western Union, but what you guys think should I send her just $100 for now just to make her feel a little better??[/QUOTE]What long term good could come of it? Do you think there is a chance that she will move to LA and you can live happily ever after? Or, does she think of you as a walking ATM?

Phordphan says you should cautiously consider sending her a few bucks. If you do it, make sure it pays off big time on your next visit. Personally, I wouldn't send her a nickel.

If you want a meaningful relationship with a woman, see what you can find locally in LA. Maybe try something like POF or Match. If you want sex with a young hottie, TJ is great.

[QUOTE=Phordphan;1700613]
If it were me, I would send a few dollars, but NO MORE than $100, IF you can afford it. If she doesn't treat you like an Aztec king on your next visit, blow her off and move on. It'd be a very cheap lesson. If she does, then proceed with caution, NEVER getting involved, financially, with more than you can't comfortably walk away from.

[/QUOTE]Man you got me thinking now. She stop asking for the money in advance should I contact her again and tell her I would send her $100?

I will be in Tijuana Tuesday can she freaking wait a day to pay the rent or she needs the dough for a fix she only drinks I didn't see anything crazy about her? She cannot be trust she blocked me on facebook / messenger and gave me a BS excuse about someone erased her contacts and her facebook account what a load of crap.

Is not about if I can afford it is about not to get rip off. What if she doesn't show at all to our F. K date? I can afford to lose $100 but I rather buy lotto tickets.

Great report Thanks!

You know this girl is an amateur because she blew it when she asked me for money on the phone. She told me that she misses me and then the word money for bills came out. She's not getting a dime until I see those legs spreading in front of me.

This monger needs a little advice. I am dating this young AB girl she used to live in the States and her English is very limited she talks like a normal Mexican girl but I'd notice some small gang affiliation tattoo on her that she always try to cover up.

What do you think can she be dangerous or working with some gang, she's a really sweet girl but she has a dark past. She's not gringa she's Mexican mix and told me she has family in the US.

Can she be a bad apple, a deported criminal or whatever. Anyways she is very sweet not aggressive or the homie kind behavior. . She told me she has a visa and lives in Tijuana with her younger sister and 3 year old son.

The ugly truth when she told me her boyfriend got killed when she was pregnant. I know her boyfriend was a gang member because I saw pictures of some of her friends with tattoos.

[QUOTE=HornyTraveler;1700656]She told me she has a visa and lives in Tijuana with her younger sister and 3 year old son.[/QUOTE]If you are still falling for this girl, test her honesty about the visa. Tell her you will give her the $100, but she needs to meet you on the US side of the border.

My guess is she will have some excuse and she needs you to bring (or wire) the money to her. In reality, I don't think she has the visa (or border crossing card). Or maybe just not enough need to put forth that much energy for $100.

[QUOTE=HornyTraveler;1700630]Man you got me thinking now. She stop asking for the money in advance should I contact her again and tell her I would send her $100?

I will be in Tijuana Tuesday can she freaking wait a day to pay the rent or she needs the dough for a fix she only drinks I didn't see anything crazy about her? She cannot be trust she blocked me on facebook / messenger and gave me a BS excuse about someone erased her contacts and her facebook account what a load of crap.

Is not about if I can afford it is about not to get rip off. What if she doesn't show at all to our F. K date? I can afford to lose $100 but I rather buy lotto tickets.

Great report Thanks![/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=HornyTraveler;1700656]This monger needs a little advice. I am dating this young AB girl she used to live in the States and her English is very limited she talks like a normal Mexican girl but I'd notice some small gang affiliation tattoo on her that she always try to cover up.

What do you think can she be dangerous or working with some gang, she's a really sweet girl but she has a dark past. She's not gringa she's Mexican mix and told me she has family in the US.

Can she be a bad apple, a deported criminal or whatever. Anyways she is very sweet not aggressive or the homie kind behavior. . She told me she has a visa and lives in Tijuana with her younger sister and 3 year old son.

The ugly truth when she told me her boyfriend got killed when she was pregnant. I know her boyfriend was a gang member because I saw pictures of some of her friends with tattoos.[/QUOTE]You know, the more you write about her, the stronger my suspicions are that she's simply bat-shit. When they start dreaming up weird excuses for shit (an interesting Mexican trait, BTW) it's time to move on.

HT has a good idea. See if she can legally cross. I have a CL fave who can, and does.

Oh, and I didn't mean to imply that the bars are a good place to find a significant other or LTR. You can have a lot of fun with a steady MBGF, but if you're looking for a LTR you need to look elsewhere. Try MexicanCupid, or some other online service.

[QUOTE=HorseTrader;1700703]If you are still falling for this girl, test her honesty about the visa. Tell her you will give her the $100, but she needs to meet you on the US side of the border.

My guess is she will have some excuse and she needs you to bring (or wire) the money to her. In reality, I don't think she has the visa (or border crossing card). Or maybe just not enough need to put forth that much energy for $100.[/QUOTE]Great idea I'm going to test the waters.

I am taking some gifts for this girl like make up, some nice clothing a pink dildo and 2 bottles of wine.

Is 2 bottles of California wine ok to bring into Mexico.

[QUOTE=HornyTraveler;1700731]I am taking some gifts for this girl like make up, some nice clothing a pink dildo and 2 bottles of wine.

Is 2 bottles of California wine ok to bring into Mexico.[/QUOTE]A gift is one thing. Multiple gifts, with your brief, unhappy, history, makes you look like a sap. It makes you look needy. You do NOT want that.

Yes, 2 bottles are probably technically illegal. I think the limit is one liter.

[QUOTE=Phordphan;1700742]A gift is one thing. Multiple gifts, with your brief, unhappy, history, makes you look like a sap. It makes you look needy. You do NOT want that.

Yes, 2 bottles are probably technically illegal. I think the limit is one liter.[/QUOTE]I was joking about the pink dildo, maybe I just buy the wine in Tijuana, I didn't know it was illegal to bring wine into Mexico.