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I've met many and believe that I married the best one for me. She is a farm girl from Ilocos, good family, was an OFW in Sing. and HK. There were others, former mayor's daughter on Negros, one from Romblon, a few in Davao and a couple from Cebu, all who were "ladies" and had an abundance of "class", despite some humble backgrounds.

I met a few from "money" also, but I think their expectations were different than mine.

Side Issue: Cebu Marriott had a beautiful 5'6" or so, early thirties MD on call, saw her on each trip for allergies. She used to work out in the gym, I was overinvolved at the time so didn't avail of a friend's offer for a "social introduction". She did have that "distant attitude" though, LOL. (Maybe word of my G/F (beautiful 22 YO, looked 16 though) and "Thursday Night Takeout" had gotten around, LOL.)

sh wrote:

most women of that status are not interested in foreigners, remember there is a class system in this country and most "professional" filipinas, who are from the well to do class will not stoop to association with a foreigner. such a woman, educated, successful, from a good family and most of all "monied" will have her choice of pinoy swains of a peer status.

maybe i have been lucky because i am a lawyer (although i hate being called "attorney" by most everybody so i do not volunteer that information except where advantageous to do so), but i have found upper class women in manila very receptive to having a foreigner as a bf. actually, quite often upper class folks want to introduce me to unmarried female friends, relatives etc.

sh lives in cebu, and thus likely knows better than me, but in my experience many upper class filipinas prefer foreign bfs to pinoys as it has more cachet (quite unlike in thailand-if sh's post was about upper class thais i would wholeheartedly agree, but imho filipinas and indonesians do not seem to suffer from that stigma.

Guys,

Thanks for the replies. Appreciate the discussion.

This is what she wrote:

hi im looking of a loving caring responsible man and he willing to except me and my family.im a loving person and caing girl i love to read novel like reader digest.


???what strikes me as strange is this woman is 36 and (reportedly) has no children.

What does she mean "accept me and my family"?

Me thinks she is being way too honest.....

so, check her out at CB C00633523

The second hottest woman I found at CB was apparently a businesswoman out of Digos, but working all over Mindanao. She's very sweet, very patient, but she's likely a scammer.

I never gave here a cent, but I would have loved to meet her.

Love ya Charry.

Would that be ID number 088002 X Man? I´ve chatted with her some also. I never got the vibe that she was doing any kind of scamming, but I never had the chance to meet in person. Digos is just far enough from Davao to be a pain. When I was around in July and August she seemed to be hooked up with a guy. And when there´s already enough in Davao to keep a guy busy why bother shipping them in from elsewhere? Anyway, if she is a scammer than her act is very, very good. She doesn´t make any neophyte mistakes.

I haven´t seen the other one. But I would be very suspicious about her photo being recent or even of the same girl.

well, i agree with the, " it helps to be catholic, professional and well-to-do yourself" part, but in my experience, even upper-class, educated filipinas are very interested in foreigner bfs. every time i go to the doctor, bank, attorney, other offices, meet rich filipinos at nice restos, parties, etc, i am always asked are you married, would you like to meet so-and-so in the office or a relative, etc. there is a well-to-do widow who lives in my condo building who always invites me to visit her rest house, go shopping in singapore with her, etc. (her treat!) and she is easily old enough to be my mother! so, there may be a class system, but i don't think it descriminates against foreigners as a rule.

[quote=spam hog]most women of that status are not interested in foreigners, remember there is a class system in this country and most "professional" filipinas, who are from the well to do class will not stoop to association with a foreigner. such a woman, educated, successful, from a good family and most of all "monied" will have her choice of pinoy swains of a peer status. there are exceptions however.

i know of several instances where "widowed" or "marriage annulled" (divorced)
ladies of stature have turned to foreigners. it seems that many filipina actresses also seek foreigner "boyfriends" from what the tabloids say.

the previous advice you received concerning getting to know professionals through association with other professionals, likely other expats is probably your best course. yes manila with its "old money" families probably has a plethora of professional ladies, but don't forget the "queen of the south" cebu, lots of "old money" here and spanish mestiza's are some of the best looking women in the world.

it helps to be catholic, professional and well to do yourself.

spamhog[/quote]

Yes, she's either very good or she was taking the [url=http://isgprohibitedwords.info?CodeWord=CodeWord140][CodeWord140][/url] out of me. As far as I know she got hurt by some guy and she's been a little jaded since then. Told me she wanted a vibrator for Christmas. That really surpised me.

charry.: so seriously, are u gonna let me borrow something from u?
charry.: u can collect it back when u visit?
X: Up to you.
charry.: i really need it
X: OK
charry.: but i understand if u cant
X: What is your problem and what makes you think I can "collect it back"?
charry.: because i have my word... it will be a big help to me if u can
charry.: and i should keep the people who helped me... thats why i will do what i promise just to prove i am real
charry.: and maybe i can borrow again if i can get your trust and if i can already prove
X: What do you want to borrow?
charry.: cash
X: Well, getting late for me. Thanks for the chat. Good night.
charry.: ok
charry.: have a nice evening


[QUOTE=Mahku]Would that be ID number X Man? I´ve chatted with her some also. I never got the vibe that she was doing any kind of scamming, but I never had the chance to meet in person. Digos is just far enough from Davao to be a pain. When I was around in July and August she seemed to be hooked up with a guy. And when there´s already enough in Davao to keep a guy busy why bother shipping them in from elsewhere? Anyway, if she is a scammer than her act is very, very good. She doesn´t make any neophyte mistakes.

I haven´t seen the other one. But I would be very suspicious about her photo being recent or even of the same girl.[/QUOTE]

It AMAZES me that guys send money to a girl they've never met. I know girls, ones that I would even call "good" girls who see no moral problem with lying to guys over the internet for money. Girls who would NEVER try that bola bola with me, or any guy they met in person, yet, over the internet, it's ok somehow. It's Philippine morality. That and ANYthing can be justified in the name of survival.

Just don't send money to internet chicks. Even if they are good girls, they won't respect you if you do it and will always see you as a Moneyko. Generousity has serious diminishing returns here. If you give too freely it will cause you problems. They will respect you declining (in a face-saving way) and have more respect for you if you aren't a doormat!

[QUOTE=X Man]Yes, she's either very good or she was taking the [url=http://isgprohibitedwords.info?CodeWord=CodeWord140][CodeWord140][/url] out of me. As far as I know she got hurt by some guy and she's been a little jaded since then. Told me she wanted a vibrator for Christmas. That really surpised me.

charry.: so seriously, are u gonna let me borrow something from u?
charry.: u can collect it back when u visit?
X: Up to you.
charry.: i really need it
X: OK
charry.: but i understand if u cant
X: What is your problem and what makes you think I can "collect it back"?
charry.: because i have my word... it will be a big help to me if u can
charry.: and i should keep the people who helped me... thats why i will do what i promise just to prove i am real
charry.: and maybe i can borrow again if i can get your trust and if i can already prove
X: What do you want to borrow?
charry.: cash
X: Well, getting late for me. Thanks for the chat. Good night.
charry.: ok
charry.: have a nice evening[/QUOTE]

Well, thanks for the sermon. Now, could you please post something more useful than common sense?

Or, maybe tell us about these "good girls" who scam people on the Internet. What's good about them?

X

[QUOTE=Davidr123]It AMAZES me that guys send money to a girl they've never met. ![/QUOTE]

X Man,

Unfortunately, this is not common sense to everyone or they wouldn't be sending money to girls from the net all the time. I think it's a good idea to pass along the knowledge I have gained from living here and learning the culture...that sending money doesn't earn respect, it only makes you a target. I really don't think that is common knowledge at least, if not common sense.

[QUOTE=X Man]Well, thanks for the sermon. Now, could you please post something more useful than common sense?

Or, maybe tell us about these "good girls" who scam people on the Internet. What's good about them?

X[/QUOTE]

I have been a lurker here for a while so I'll throw in my penny's worth about them. I joined CB and looked at about 600 women, narrowed it down to about 40 and am chatting with one who I met who I hook up with when in Manila. Casual GF type for now. This is from what most of the girls have told me and I have learned:

1) you have to be able to get them on cam, about 30% of the photo's are fake so I don't care how good she looks, you have to get her on cam. If you're weeding through the photo's and she doesn't have any that aren't casual/spontaneous (her with her friends or her out for dinner) then chances are the photo's are fake since they've come from a magazine and magazines don't print casual photo's of whoever she is pretending to be.

2) they need to be able to get to wherever you fly to i.e. they need to be within a 5 hour bus ride of your hotel ( on average 5 hrs in a bus is about 300 pesos each way/ 6 USD)

3) yep there are some lovely girls in some parts of the Philippines but have a look at where you can safely visit. I don't live there but I go to Manila often, cities like Gen Santos, Zamboanga and plenty of places on Mindanao are a little risky for gwapos from abroad. There are a heap of nice girls from there but even your embassy will tell you it can be risky. Obviously if you have lived in the Philippines for years it is a different story.

4) She needs to be doing something or have some financial assistance from home so you can have normal conversation with her that doesn't end up in "when will you send money"?

5) she needs to be happy to pick and choose, a few of the hotties weren't interested or were too busy weeding through their replies. If you don't get a response keep looking. Remember that some girls get 80 to 100 replies in a day so even though you might be what she is after she may have to search through 2 or 300 replies to find you if she hasn't checked her emails daily so finding the right guy doesn't always happen.

6) they are usually pretty shy to start with, that's just their culture, so put up with the one word replies in conversation. it should get better the next time you chat and if it doesn't then move on.

Just my opinion though.

You're right, and I'm sorry for being so harsh.

These guys who get scammed probably need more than your message to mend their ways...make a brick upside the head??? Love is blind I suppose.

But, if you got even one guy to think twice, then your post was worthwile.

X



[QUOTE=Davidr123]X Man,

Unfortunately, this is not common sense to everyone or they wouldn't be sending money to girls from the net all the time. I think it's a good idea to pass along the knowledge I have gained from living here and learning the culture...that sending money doesn't earn respect, it only makes you a target. I really don't think that is common knowledge at least, if not common sense.[/QUOTE]

OK I have got to chime in here. I meet a lot of people from the PI in Yahoo, My space, and hot or not. I mostly just bull shit with them but I have defiantly found a few that are way out there and just looking for a quick buck. For senior members I will send pictures of the worst of them. She tried real hard to play me like a fiddle but thank god I saw through her. Beware of Shelly she is a snake in the grass for sure. Like I said Senior members I’ll be more than happy to forward pictures to.

Why not just post her photo on the board? Seems like a good public service to me!

[QUOTE=Firedawg]OK I have got to chime in here. I meet a lot of people from the PI in Yahoo, My space, and hot or not. I mostly just bull shit with them but I have defiantly found a few that are way out there and just looking for a quick buck. For senior members I will send pictures of the worst of them. She tried real hard to play me like a fiddle but thank god I saw through her. Beware of Shelly she is a snake in the grass for sure. Like I said Senior members I’ll be more than happy to forward pictures to.[/QUOTE]