We see the world differently, or in defense of the Western Union novio
[quote=wiltthestilt; 1501022]don't play me too close, i won't pimp you too hard as too short would say.
my only piece of advice is not to "invest." don't give a girl a big chunk up front expecting it to pay off long term in "freebies" or a discounted rate of some sort. square everything up front. i once paid 8, 000, 000 pesos to a girl, but after we went on a 45-day trip where i banged her in the ass raw three or four times a day and with plans (that she actually completed, surprisingly) to do it again for a little over a month on my next break. if you do the math on that, it's a pretty spectacular deal. $50 usd a day for all access, no holes barred sex with a very beautiful girl. you can't get an apartment for that kind of money in some cities, let alone tight little asshole to live inside.
avoid the bullshit of "pay me 'tuition' (or bill or whatever) that's due today and i'll come over and fuck you every day." make sure you pay up front only if you're about to get something right then and there, and if it's a long term deal then either pay in installments or a balloon on the back end once she has held up her end. it sucks to have to think about things this way, but trust me, they already are. only after very strong trust is established do i think this could work, and even then it's iffy. if they have the payoff in hand, they are not going to work their ass for it. knowing that the big pay day (and potentially more) is at stake will keep them on their toes.
this is not some rep001hing indictment of colombians either. there are people like this in every country and in some it is the norm. it's just one's way of being and some cases it's even practical (emphasis on some).
i guess i have a second piece of advice and that is to recognize that latinos and colombians in particular are more "in love with being in love" and more effusive in their language than most (read: all). these girls will jump to "i adore you" in a heartbeat and even if they think they are sincere, it means very little. if i were to say something like that, it would carry some weight and consequence, but surprisingly it does not to them. i am not sure how to articulate this but you will feel it. they will be ready to go to the end of the universe with you, but they will also stand you up without notice the following night.
i have had a couple of real relationships here, but they are absolutely dwarfed by the number of fake ones. just think of the scene in "the matrix" where the bald guy is talking about how he knows the steak on his plate is not real, but it still tastes delicious. that pretty much summarizes this hobby in colombia, if not the entire world.[/quote]my advice is to "invest." obviously, the opportunity to do that in colombia is ever present, but investment in a girl's life gives some purpose to one's existence instead of just getting the most bang for the buck, so to speak. invest without expectation or what's in it for you. these girls live a difficult existence. with the minimum wage a little more than $350. per month, almost any help and interest results in a desire to give physical pleasure. let's hope that life has not denigrated to a feeling of accomplishment in getting the most sex for the least amount of plata. just take a little pleasure in making someone's life a little better. a little more stable. a little less stressful.
don't confuse what any of these girls say, with your own expectations. who knows what they mean? none of us are mind-readers. i assume that everyone means what they say, when they say it. it's all ephemeral. what ever the emotion of the moment, it just exists for the moment. and, commitments are easy to agree to, but almost impossible to follow. do what you can and what you want. regardless of her choices, you made yours and accept responsibility for them. it's a no lose situation unless one want to play the victim when expectations are not met. what we do or don't do is our choice. do something with an open heart.
it leads to only good energy.
