Filipinas - Opinions and Advice

It is interesting to see the flip side of the coin from guys like Etat and Born Loser. Yeah, we all know about the dark skin aversion, most of this is on themselves. Why these gorgeous brown skinned honeys like to lighten up is beyond me.

Just an aside though, most of the Black guys I have seen here, including a few full time expats say they opposite, yeah the skin color thing is a factor, but not much of one, most I know and see do quite well. The Phils can "read" your attitude, if you got one...beleive me, they will smell it on you. Same thing for the "Bumbai" (our Indian friends) Most of the girls Don't like them when they see them, think they are Arabs (the kiss of death) when they find out your are a Bumbai they soften, seen a few dudes(student age) here who do quite well.

Ugly Batards like myself are considered "handsome' (The SH is ANYTHING BUT)
mostly coz of my white skin and green eyes. Wife Brags im "White like a pig" all over...go figure.

Spam hog

What does it tell you about a country when most of the natives can't wait to get away? Last person to leave please turn out the lights.
The place is really an anarchic, disorganised, corrupt, third world shithole but if you stay here a reasonably, long period of time, you sure learn patience, tolerance and self control. I have. Its either that or go barmy.
When things get too much retreat to your deluxe air con flat/house, open a beer, play some gentle, relaxing music on your top of the line stereo system and think of the lovely, sweet young spinner you spent quality time with the previous day and the equally lovely brown beauties you will be seeing in the not too distant future. It will bring a smile to your face and improve your mood inordinately. GH

[QUOTE=D Etat]Are all the women in the west fat? I just came from USA didn't notice. :)[/QUOTE]

The USA ?? Used to be the Land of Opportunity, now commonly known as the Land of Obesity.

Look at the movie ""Supersize me'' and think again about going to McDs for another 1/4 Pounder :)

Cheers, F/Fifty

[QUOTE=Blackangst]No need to get defensive :) I dont have a problem with it, I just think its kinda funny is all. Like I said, I enjoy your posts and to each their own :) I do think its funny when you say "for safety reasons"...how about HER safety? Or is that irrelevant?[/QUOTE]Its cool B. Yes a girls safety is very important to me. I'd be mortified to give a woman a disease.
Never had a social disease & hopefully never will.
In the same way if I accidently get a girl pregnant I make sure that the 'problem' is taken care of. Costs around P25,000 - P30,000 all in all so there is a financial incentive not to get them prego as well as the health & moral questions.
AV

[QUOTE=Nvslim]Like a kid in a candy store with diabetes.

Slim[/QUOTE]Hehehehe :D love that turn of phrase slim!
AV

[QUOTE=Gamahucher]I chuckle when a fellow member, married and living with a Pinay and in the Philippines, claims to be drowning in pussy. I know them, been there, got the t-shirt (but dare not wear it) and can tell you that the truth is usually very different. Filipina's are jealous, possessive animals who like to keep their men (particularly if that mans a Kano) on a shortish leash. So pursuit of a 'bit of skirt' is possible but a devious and furtive undertaking worthy of a CIA field operative. Anyone who tells you otherwise is either a dreamer or very fortunate.

So A, I believe you must be one lucky muther but don't make me take a polygraph :)[/QUOTE]G'day G, just catching up on posts. Yes I agree with you fully, I am one lucky muther. Pinay's wives know the score & they are not stupid!!
I travel about the Phils & Internationally on business & so I have the opportunity/temptation to get amongst the pussy a fair bit. Living & owning business's here means I go along with local customs. Its common here for better off married business men to have GF's. Asawa ko would never sanction it outright but she knows the score. She does'nt like it but what can she do?
Yes, as you say I must conduct myself with forethought & make use of every trick I can think of to avoid problems. I keep my activities simple & safe to make sure things go smooth & by the numbers. That includes avoiding lying eg. when Im in Angeles or Cebu or whatever It's part of my known travel itinerary. Much better to keep it simple & be upfront than tripping yourself up in ever more complicated lies.
In my business life I must spend time 'relationship building' with married asian/filipino clients, being dragged to KTV's with them to watch them debauch themselves with girls. I act like a saint always so that the bamboo telegraph sends back reassuring signals to listening ears. When Im with GF's I make sure Im alone & I can do what I like.
I can't see my self doing this forever as it requires much more stealth than the local businessmen because no matter how long I live here I will always be a 'foreigner' and not subject to exactly the same rules.
AV

[QUOTE=AussieOverboard]Sounds Like Tampo to me

Tampo is usually manifested in the withdrawal of affectionate or cheerful behavior, and its expression is almost entirely nonverbal. These are usually efforts to get the offending party to make amends, and if these behaviors do not work, one might choose to escalate them - foot stomping, door slamming, and muttering, for example.[/QUOTE]In northern Australia this is called 'going troppo'. Just a little trivia... One of the attributes I look for in m spouse/GF's is happy even temperament, histrionic bitches get the flick by me instantly!
AV

Any of you married guys out there use Apple laptop's?
Do you realise that if you video chat with iChat that you can superimpose any background you like behind your image with the click of a button? Comes in VERY handy when video chatting to asawa ko from places you are not supposed to be ;)

Did you know you can create a Skype account using a telephone number as the username? Very handy for sending txt messages from a country you are not supposed to be in. When sending a txt or making a call through Skype the Skype username shows up as the the caller ID ;)

Here's another tip, get your asawa out of using direct txt messaging & switch over to sending Yahoo IM's via txt on your CP. You tell asawa ko the rationale is its much cheaper (it is), the payoff is the txt's are not location traceable. ;)
AV

[QUOTE=Amavida]In northern Australia this is called 'going troppo'. Just a little trivia... One of the attributes I look for in m spouse/GF's is happy even temperament, histrionic bitches get the flick by me instantly!

AV[/QUOTE]AV, trust me "going troppo" is different and not gender specific, however it seems that banana benders are slightly different just like taswegians.

Thanks for the advice.

Wizard

[QUOTE=Born Loser 5]Wow..So much anger and frustation ..Detat...I'm in the same league..from India.and when i first came here..people used to call me just 5-6, 5-6...

I just couldn't figure out what that means..untill after a week in Paseo..a good filipino dude.told me that most indians here do money lending business and they lend with 5-6% interest rate and its considered bad in their culture.

I was descriminated for a week based on my nationality, one girl after seeing me in SM mall for a meet up after yahoo chat, just ran away saying i was dark. :)

But persistance pays...as the days went..i became more familier and mostly i went to bars and malls..so the second time...it became all cool.

I was never descriminated or treated badly the second time where ever i went...I guess it is the vibe of the place...that has to get you..once you get familer with the area..you are just one of them.

I never had any issues with any place and felt like a king, the second time i went there.

Filipinos are really very friendly people...we just have to break the first meeting barrier..

As far as cheating and thugging around..well, all i can say is...its everywhere...the government in every country cheat 30 to 40 % in tax money Plus other taxes...

I never paid my taxes to those political thugs ..which are bigger than getting short changed by taxi drivers and mamasans...I never cared if they overcharged me...cos ..by calculation it is still only 10 to 15% of all the money they could top up than the tax i had to pay..

and the interesting thing is...the more you become familier with the place and people, the lesser you get cheated.

I don't thing i was ever cheated in the philiphines by that degree...cos i got a lot more more more than what i would ever ever get back home in India :D[/QUOTE]

5-6% interest? erm ....I've talked to my wife about this (she's pinay), and have actually looked into starting a 5-6 business via brother in law...5-6 means you borrow 5 pay back 6. So 500/600, 5000/6000, etc. It's like a payday loan...not sure where your friend got the 5-6% thing from.

[QUOTE=Blackangst]5-6% interest? erm ....I've talked to my wife about this (she's pinay), and have actually looked into starting a 5-6 business via brother in law...5-6 means you borrow 5 pay back 6. So 500/600, 5000/6000, etc. It's like a payday loan...not sure where your friend got the 5-6% thing from.[/QUOTE]
The use of the % sign might have thrown some confusion in there. At any rate, it sounds like a good business on the surface, but there's a reason for the high interest: the loans are risky, these are people who have no other way to borrow the money they need so the lender may need to get serious (possible understatement there) with some borrowers in order to enforce repayment. Not to mention possible conflict with competing lenders. So naturally the lenders are disliked, if not hated. This isn't limited to the Phils by the way, shark lenders have been around in various forms around the world.

That's the second oldest profession in the world

[QUOTE=D Etat]Too many women in PI to put up with bullshit like that.[/QUOTE]I agree. Far too many in PI but it will take a long time to train another.

If I put password protect on the laptop, she might turn violent and destroy my laptop and other goodies.

I've seen their chats and also he has mentioned the board.

I might try to hide my video cam and tape her reaction if I put a password to limit her activity on my Laptop. At least the tape will hold up as evidence.

[QUOTE=Amavida]G'day G, just catching up on posts. Yes I agree with you fully, I am one lucky muther. Pinay's wives know the score & they are not stupid!!
I travel about the Phils & Internationally on business & so I have the opportunity/temptation to get amongst the pussy a fair bit. Living & owning business's here means I go along with local customs. Its common here for better off married business men to have GF's. Asawa ko would never sanction it outright but she knows the score. She does'nt like it but what can she do?
Yes, as you say I must conduct myself with forethought & make use of every trick I can think of to avoid problems. I keep my activities simple & safe to make sure things go smooth & by the numbers. That includes avoiding lying eg. when Im in Angeles or Cebu or whatever It's part of my known travel itinerary. Much better to keep it simple & be upfront than tripping yourself up in ever more complicated lies.
In my business life I must spend time 'relationship building' with married asian/filipino clients, being dragged to KTV's with them to watch them debauch themselves with girls. I act like a saint always so that the bamboo telegraph sends back reassuring signals to listening ears. When Im with GF's I make sure Im alone & I can do what I like.
I can't see my self doing this forever as it requires much more stealth than the local businessmen because no matter how long I live here I will always be a 'foreigner' and not subject to exactly the same rules.
AV[/QUOTE]
My position is similar, at least in terms of travel and living here. My cardinal rule, and one that's served me well over the years is never to mess around in your own zip code. So simple that it's elegant, and it works. The sequel to this rule is, when outside of your zip code, go alone on your forays for pussy. If you're in a town where few know who you are, and you're by yourself when hunting, the chances of the bamboo telegraph registering your presence are almost nil. The corollary to the sequel is indulge only in P4P, where there's no possibility of any sort of emotional entanglement as it's a straight commercial transaction with zero real personal information exchanged.

[QUOTE=GoodEnough]My position is similar, at least in terms of travel and living here. My cardinal rule, and one that's served me well over the years is never to mess around in your own zip code. [/QUOTE]

GE you hit the nail on the head. When I was in Uncle Sam's Royal Army I work for an old colonel who was a really cool guy. I got caught with a lady in my BOQ room and he told me, "If you are going to fuck around, get 50 miles from the flag pole".

I took it to heart and still do that.

ES