William444 - IS IT SAFE in these areas during the day?
I think there is a risk to what you are proposing but it's maybe not the risk you have in mind! The point I'm hinting at, is that getting involved with a girl's family could make it even harder to "escape" should you ever wish to do so. Going back to a girl's house will in itself be seen as quite a big deal; in the kampung there is always gossip and in order to "justify" their daughter's apparant relationship with you, the family will for sure be declaring you to be a potential husband. Of course if that's what you are: no problem.