[QUOTE=Frannie; 1385962]Mistake #1. Losing control of the situation in the bar with an open ended invitation to drink alcohol.
You don't need to buy her a drink at all, but if you do, you can offer her a beer or a fruit juice or soda. This will help give you some guidance as to her nature from the get go. Don't encourage her to ask for an alcoholic beverage as you don't know how much she already drank, or how she handles alcohol.
Mistake #2. Should have negotiated at the bar, because at that point it is easy for you to walk away and there are other girls on hand. The time you negotiated is meaningless. Once you orgasm, it is all over.
Mistake #3 Paying in advance. Don't do that. If you must, you can put the money where she can see it, so she knows you have it. Try to incentivize her by making part of the agreed payment, maybe 25% conditional on superior performance.
Mistake #4. Not being clear about what was negotiated. Were the photographs agreed upon or not? Mostly girls don't want to be photographed because they know guys may post the pictures on the Web. If you want special things like dancing, you would be better off to negotiate it back at the bar.
Mistake #5. Sounds like you overdosed on Viagra or perhaps you were nervous and drank too much at the bar. In any case pounding away for 30 minutes with a condom and unable to finish is going to cause her a lot of discomfort. This is what you get when you go with a girl with no real chemistry between you. It might have been better to get her to finish you off with a hand job with lotion or oil, since it is usually easier skin to skin without a condom.
Mistake #6. Thinking that the 1 1/2 hour agreement meant something to her.
Mistake #7. Thinking that the problem can be resolved by kicking her out at the first sign of attitude. If the whole deal had been negotiated back at the bar in the first place, probably she never would have ended up at your hotel in the first place. Once you are in the room, you pretty much have to pay her regardless of how things work out.
Mistake #8. Thinking that flushing gum is relevant.
Sorry to be hard on you, but this is a perfect catalog of newbie errors and lots of people can learn something from this experience. If there are any lessons to be learned they are to look at the whole person, not just the ass, and to focus on overall good chemistry between the two of you. Don't encourage them to drink alcohol. Negotiate in advance, especially if you have special needs like photography and dancing. The sex need not be rushed and you can take it as slow as you want, but if you are still pounding away 30 minutes after penetration, then something is wrong.[/QUOTE]Frannie you weren't any harder on me than I was on myself. In fact I posted this report to serve as a warning for the novices.
Now I only deal with chicas whith whom I have a good rapport