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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Fedup[i]
Dickhead... Any plans for the Brazilian girl? To bad there aren't more like her around. It's likely that the constant derision that she faces from other women in this country will eventually turn her into a cynical prude. Better jump her while you can (or perhaps send her my way :) [/i][/QUOTE]
married married married
must ... not ... think ... about ... it
OK, I will lay off after this BUT
[QUOTE]Originally posted by RN
"[i]And wanting to see the world is all fine and dandy, but I don't have the time or the money"
Don't you have a "portable source of income"? :<)
"And leaving the state or the country on a permanent basis is not legally possible for me, due to Family Court restrictions. (Fancy that...a WOMAN who got screwed by the Family Court! Well, I never...)"
Emphasis on LEGALLY possible. Maybe that is why I enjoy travelling to virtually lawless places such as Bolivia, and places such as Méjico where there are many laws but few are taken seriously most of the time.
"PS...my eyes are hazel, but there's a little more green in them than brown, and they turn green when I wear certain colours. You're not the only one with Celtic ancestory. :) [/i][/QUOTE]"
What color do they turn when you are wearing NOTHING??? That's what's running through my mind right now (and rapidly moving south).
Two types of people in the world: those who are Irish and those who wish they were! DH
[i]"Emphasis on LEGALLY possible. Maybe that is why I enjoy travelling to virtually lawless places such as Bolivia, and places such as Méjico where there are many laws but few are taken seriously most of the time."[/i]
Unfortunately, Australia is NOT a lawless country, and thanks to the laws in place, I can't get a passport for my children. It's that simple. *I* can travel whenever I like (or whenever I can get the cash), but my kids can't come with me until the youngest turns 16. I would rather spend the rest of my days in this city than be apart from my children for any real length of time.
That said, I am planning to come to the US for two weeks in the middle of next year. Don't know how successful I'll be yet, but I'm gonna be trying my hardest to make it happen :) One day I am going to go to Wales and Ireland too. Ok, I'm laying off this too now...
Stranger99,
I totally agree. It would be nice to have a "General Bullshit" type section where all of us who are "mates" on this site could chat about unrelated matters. The only problem I could see would be the morons who would undoubtedly gatecrash and stir trouble, seeing as there would be no established guidelines as to what they could speak about. I've always found that this section and the Morality section tend to go off topic quite regularly, and nobody gives too much of a damn. Maybe you could just end every political rant you make with, "And by the way, I saw a cute hooker on the corner of Hyde and Lake...." or "PS. My Mum is an American Woman". LOL
[QUOTE]Originally posted by RN
I would rather spend the rest of my days in this city than be apart from my children for any real length of time.
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That is commendable. DH
Well, RN, I don't think you need a passport to be elsewhere in OZ, though, right? And presumably you could bring your kids along in that event as well. Given how you've described WA relevant to the rest of the country, that would seem a more serious option.
For what it's worth, I didn't do any real travelling until I was past your age and have since seriously made up for lost time, so it's not like there's some kind of prescription on how it needs to happen.
Though the last thing we need is for you to move to the states, get fat, and cop an American attitude... (a lame attempt at topic relevance. :))
She said she couldn't leave the state with the kids. While WA is the biggest state in OZ, there ain't a hell of a lot there besides Perth.
I am getting p....d off by the technicalities of this forum (yes I am computer literate).
Having logged in, gotten a "welcome" message and all I wrote a very lenghty, highly interesting and whatever reply to RN in the "morality" section.
Then it happens again as almost every time before after this "registering" thingy was introduced - I click the "submit message" button and get - guess what - "you are not logged in"!!!!!! (Connection was never broken during the 20 minutes it all took). Happens every time except my only post yesterday.
Guess what if I try to "re-log" in...... either a repeated "you are not logged in" or a "welcome" - in the last case the the nobel prize winner of literature post I put together is no longer recoverable or is placed "before" my logging-in.
Grrrrrr.
DH -- yeah, but that restriction is more likely to be able to be changed than is the passport one, as the level of feared flight isn't as great. Admittedly, it would still take some effort if you want to be legal about it, but it's a far more surmountable obstacle. While there's nothing else in WA, a move to, say, Adelaide or Melbourne isn't as huge as ending in the US ro elsewhere.
Traveller -- I've had success when I've had problems by going into the control panel and disabling cookies for browsing and, at times, for login. The former seems to be more consistent in my experience.
Traveller,
Happens to me too babe. It happens considerably less since the server change for some unknown reason, but it still happens pretty often. What I do is log in, write the message, highlight the message, right click and copy, then press submit. If it goes through, great. If it doesn't, I go straight back to the main page, log in again and paste the message in again. I've got into the habit of copying every message I write, so I haven't lost any in a long time.
Joe,
I have an order that says I am not allowed to move outside a 500 kilometre radius from my ex-husband's home. Considering he lives on the coast, it means I can only move 500 ks east! Yes it is ridiculous, but that's the position a hell of a lot of single Mums here find themselves in. There has been a lot of discussion in the media about it...especially after a WA woman was forced to leave her new job in Queensland and return to WA last year...but nothing ever seems to be done about it. According to the Family Court, the "best interests of the child" have precedence over the best interests of the mother. Unfortunately, the court believes it's in the child's best interest to be close to both parents. (Regardless of whether or not the dipshit is paying child support!) I can't see why the courts don't force the EX to move if he wants to be near the kids, rather than preventing the woman from moving. Anyway, that's totally off-topic, and I'm gonna quit with the travel thing now...
As for MY feeble attempt to get back on subject :) ...Fedup said he was too shy to approach women. I said I was too shy to approach men. How many of you suffer from the same problem? How much chance do we all have of getting laid, if you are waiting for us to make the move and we are waiting for you to do it?!
RN - I hear your frustration and can understand it especially if he is not paying child support.
I am the ex-husband who faithfully paid child support and even sent extra when I had it. I would move to where the kids were and she would pack up and move and I am not talking small distances - Moved to Texas from the East Coast and she moved to Michigan - moved to Michigan and she moved to Kansas. I could not keep a job and keep moving.
One time she moved in a local area and did not get the check on-time - The Postal Service held it and I thought she had it - She had my wages garnished because she failed to tell me she moved. Made me look bad in the eyes of my employer - but she failed to let him know it was her mistake - and she wound up with two checks when her mail caught up to her.
Sorry - but wanted to put in my side - I know mine is unusual but I am sure situations like mine influence the court - even if it is not always right.
RandyOne,
I really feel for you babe. Please don't get me wrong...I do understand that these things can work out badly for BOTH parties, and it's almost impossible to be able to keep everyone happy all of the time. When a couple divorce and want to go their separate ways, it means that at least one of them is probably gonna get the raw end of the deal. My real complaint is that here it is always the woman who is tied down, and I don't feel that's fair. Especially when the ex isn't even paying child support. But I do know a lot of MEN who have been totally screwed over by their partners as well, and I feel just as much frustration for them as I do for my own situation.
I have to add...it's so nice to hear from a man who accepts his responsibilities to his children regardless of the behaviour of their mother. So often the children are punished by sparring parents and child support or visitation is withheld out of spite. You are a good man, RandyOne. And your children will realise that and thank you for it in the long run. :)
RandyOne -- I know of a couple guys with similar stories. Lots more. of course, who simply don't pay or bother with staying in touch.
Here's another unusual one -- a friend of mine just had his child support end because the kid came of age. This child was the result of a one night stand, and my pal paid on time, every time for eighteen years without a single complaint. At the request of the mother, he really didn't have any contact except when the kid asked for it, and he frequently sent extra money. His attitude, which is part of the reason he's stayed my friend for decades, was that how the kid came to be wasn't something the kid should have to pay for, and that he was brought up to live up to his responsibilities, so this was no big deal.
RN -- I do know what you mean about the absurdity of those kinds of things. My sister lost custody of her daughter to her ex because the judge disliked the fact that she was working in a convenience store and said if she had custody she'd raise her daughter Catholic (her ex was Baptist, as was the judge.) She was forbidden from taking the daughter to see her grandmother for a decade because ex-hubby was convinced she'd leave the state and never return.
One of the primary reasons that marriage sucks is because divorce sucks. However, I had a simple operation that made a vas deferens in my bargaining position. What was funny was the first gal I dated after I got divorced got pregnant (by someone else, obviously) and tried to sue me for paternity. I let her waste her money on a lawyer and then brought the medical records and a recent zero sperm count into court. Hell, I told I was sure it wasn't mine, I just didn't tell her WHY I was sure, and she denied sleeping with someone else. I guess it was an immaculate conception.
RN said "How much chance do we all have of getting laid, if you are waiting for us to make the move and we are waiting for you to do it?!"
ummm... I think you have your answer already
So here's what I think (we all knew it was coming). With women's strides to become equal in most facets of life they have gained more power, and the women don't know what to do with that power. Women have always had veto over who they'll date and ultimately fuck. The problem is that women still expect men to be chivalrous, make the first move, etc. This approach doesn't work anymore: Women wanted the power, got it, and now they don't use it. If women have achieved all this equality then why aren't they asking guys out? Maybe the girls should be driving to MY house and picking ME up. There's no clear leader in dating anymore, and we all know what happens when an army has no leader... chaos. By declawing Western men we have eliminated the alpha male and left the army without a head.
That's my rant for today... tune in tomorrow for another one.
Oh... If you all were wondering what happened to the whiners, they've taken over the "best girls for LTR board".