American Women

[QUOTE=Astor Bryan]Most small rural towns do have issues with interracial relationships but it’s not a problem in large metropolitan areas. For example Atlanta, Manhattan, Los Angeles, Austin, TX, Seattle, Orlando, Miami, Albany, Madison etc. Canada is the inter racial capital of North America. Canadian women don’t care whether you are an Island Boyz, African, African American, it’s all good as long as you are black. I‘m Jamaican and I’ve had no problems dating Canadian women from Vancouver to Montreal. I've noticed that white American women are more inclined to go out with an African or Jamaican than an African American because it is something exotic to them. I experienced this a lot in college. I used my accented english to my advantage.


Comment by DJFourMoney
agree that AW will often act very unlady like when there's no threat of somebody finding out. Go on any major college campus where the girl is away from her parents and they go buck wild. Most of your sexual experiments happen during college, including bisexuality and interracial relationships. Things they wouldn't DARE do back at home, especially if their background is "Lilly White".

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I agree with you Astor, I wasn't trying to broad brush it for sho....

The limited number of Candians I have talked to really didn't have anything bad to say about Jamaicans or other lsland kids, it was mostly African because of the social struture in Africa about the woman being subservent.

But I totally agree with you, keep it up playa.

darkseid -

That's funny you say that. I watched my ex use the Subway Diet. I kid you not, that shhh worked. She dropped like 70-80lbs in about 7-8 months. Our sex life improved but I was already over her for the most part. She felt better about herself, she had been overweight all her life up to that point.

She was still "thick" (5'9 about 190lbs) but she slimmed WAY down compared to what she used to look like.

I'm just not willing to take on another "Project". It took the better part of 2 years to convince her to loose weight. I was 27 and she was only 22 at the end of our relationship.

I'm at kinda of a crossroads though -

I just turned 35, almost nobody under 25 will date me. I get that, but that's also (without facts to back it up) the demographic with fewer single mothers.

Seems by the time they reach 25 they have had that ONE serious relationship go wrong and now they have at least 1 child. I even met one or two with at least 3 and under 30. In fact one, would you believe had 5 by age 32? She was all alone too (dead beat fathers), the fact she was ex-Army helped with some of the medical cost and health insurance but dayum.

You find this in Europe too, it just seems less magnified. I found more childless women under 35 based on personal ads from Europe than say America and I can kind of compare that side by side. The only women without kids in America under 35 have careers and as it was stated before, those women are holding out for the "perfect storm", which might never come, because if you just search ads a bit older, you'll find more than a few women going on 40-45 yrs old without having at least one child and would still consider having one/two.

The time is basically now because I have put a limit of 40 on myself to conceive my first child. That breaks down to, finding somebody worthwhile in about 1-2 years, the M word by year 3, adjust to M life by year 4 and then try to have kids by year 5. It still puts me actually holding my child sometime around age 41, but I can live with that.

I've pretty much been on the shelf for about 3 years, dating here and there, nothing serious though has caught. Frankly two were even worthy and they are single mothers.

Ugh as if we didn't have enough problems....

So its monger until I find that somebody I guess.. Tried of bangin fat women, I got 3 in my Inbox now, where it is writen in my profile "Hey I like big women....."? Just goes to show you some people only see the picture and not read the thing. In fact I had to CAPTIONALIZE IT so its not missed by anybody.

I used the Atkins plan a few years back, I lost about 45 lbs. in only 2 months, fastest way to lose weight.

I would date or marry single moms IF it weren't for the dire consequences that come with it especially being in New York where the laws are the worst for the man on the planet. I am open to dating single moms in areas where the divorce laws allows you to be deadbeats (to the kids that are from other fathers but I would want custody of my own kid). In New York City, the last sucker who just got divorced from that woman is the one forking out all that dough for the accumulating kids from ALL the failed marriages that the woman ever had. Once you marry that woman, you are the new sucker and poor soul who has to pay for the family and the torch of bankruptcy is passed to you. This is unfortunately why there are so many single mothers in this city- nobody wants to be that poor fool paying for other guy's children.
The Atkins diet should include eliminating the processed partially hydrogenated vegetable oil. This oil is found in chips, fast foods, cookies, and candies. Once this fake oil enters the system, it sticks to your skin as body fat because the body has to convert this unprocessable fat to a more suitable meat fat which in turn is body fat. This fat does NOT come off until you exercise because it has to be reprocessed. This processed vegetable oil is banned in all of Europe and they cook even in McDonald's with pork fats instead. This fat is much more digestable and makes you crap a lot.

And there so MANY of them, its not even funny.

I think it needs to be said that alot of AW/CW just marry the first knucklehead that ask them. What kind of nonsense is that?

I've had some ask how come I don't have any kids or why I haven't been married. That's a fair question but the answer is far from dramatic. I mean I think it actually sounds "novel" to them. Its because I haven't found anybody worth marrying let alone have my children, I take that shhh seriously.

Here's an example:

I know this one girl who's a Mexican National. She was up here for a short time legally and went back about 2 months ago. She was suppose to hook up with this morron she had been talking too for about a year or so. That never happen, so she went back. Well, she goes back, hooks up with this brotha from the Dallas-Fort Worth area and she let's him run all up in her without a condom....

When I hear stuff like this I just shake my head...

Now we're talking about a 26 year old WOMAN here, not a child. Now she's pregnant. She had no idea what to do, so I told her to contact Planned Parenthood and decide from there. She didn't even know that much... I don't have an update yet.

But that's an EXCELLENT example of what goes on in a woman's mind.

1) Yes it WILL HAPPEN TO YOU, so take precautions.

Now I almost FULLY understand why there so many single mothers out there -

a) Some are forgettful: You should never be on the pill if you are.
b) Some fear weight gain from "the shot": Its better than gaining weight from pregnancy isn't it?
c) The condom broke: Now who's fault is that? If your with a guy that can't even buy the right sized condom, what does that say about your selection process?

Its only when faced with a real-life issues like pregnancy and child-birth that the little "bulb" goes on above most women's heads. Even then, some make that mistake, not only once, but twice. Then we're expected as single and childless men to take over for dead beat fathers or be postitive roll models for the children when their mother has already failed in that capacity. Nevermind having to explain to said children who their father is, that's even if they know in the first place.

That's how mindless that is! It bugs the HELL OUT OF ME.

I don't think women fully understand going from nothing to instant family. They had 9 months to think about the impact that child would have on their lives. They fully expect the emotionally impossible in, oh about a year tops.

I give props to the men that can make that adjustment, pass with flying colors and without missing a beat. I just think for me to do it now, that woman has to be "THE" woman. I'm not putting up with that B.S anymore.

[QUOTE=darkseid]I agree with DJ FourMoney that AWs DO seem to act like someone is watching them when they are back home. An AW in NYC would not be caught dead with an Asian guy because Asian guys have a terrible rap here in the city. AWs love exotic guys because they know that the exotic guy won't go back to their office and tell the AWs' co-workers or bump into them on a daily basis. Asian guys are NOT considered exotic in NYC and are too common in this city. In fact there are 3 major Chinese communities in NYC. However, I have gotten far more lucky in Las Vegas than I do in NYC. In Las Vegas, women dance much more wildly than they do in their hometown. I tend to approach the ones that are not with their friends because the last thing I need ruining my chances of scoring with them is a bitchy friend who would tell everyone else at home. The women I score with in Las Vegas are also the more liberal West coast women. East coast women become more liberal in Vegas also but they tend to be fatter and not to my liking. I see Vegas as a great way of having very Short term relationships. AWs also act this way in other vacation spots when they are alone. For this reason, AWs are only good for STRs.
Astor, AWs act differently but it depends on WHAT RACE you are. Race still plays a major role in this. My college life was not so lucky. I made the stupid mistake of staying in my home city of New York because my parents threatened to not pay for college unless I stayed in New York. I had the misfortune of meeting all of my high school and junior high school acquaintences who wouldn't even touch me with a ten foot pole in the dating world because I am Asian. I know this fact because in the cafeteria, I saw one pointing to me, nodding her head, then showing a pinky indicating a small penis. Then she pointed to the black guy and had the stretched arm gesture indicating a long penis. I have gotten many "nos" and "let's be friends so you can be my shrink when bad things happen to me by some other guy" responses when I tried to find a date to the prom. I also noticed that ALL my other Asian friends didn't get dates to the prom. That established the fact that I am not the ugly one but THEY are heartwise. These same New Yorkers were the same type of people I met in New York University and the non-locals were converted by these racists. The college analogy where women date other races did not apply to me for being Asian. Asian guys are seen as small penis men, nose pickers, spitters, seat hoggers, and rude so they are avoided anywhere in New York City including the colleges. Men of other races have a MUCH better time in New York than the Asian guy.

So what does that leave me? I can't bag the film chicks, secretaries, or slim girls. That leaves me with the totally desperate single fat mothers that are desperate for a guy to support their kids from guys who ditched them who doesn't really like me for myself but only will see me as a sucker to divorce and a paycheck for their kids. I don't avoid these single fat mothers because they are fugly and overweight, but I avoid them even if they are hot model looking babes because I don't want to get into bankrupcy. Yes, this narrows down my choices to less than 1% but in this country you MUST be careful in who you choose to marry or else lose everything you've earned over your lifetime and in the future.

I do not consider myself finicky because I've dated a few fat chicks BUT SINGLE CHILDLESS fat chicks that won't stiff me to take care of their illegimate kids. These fat chicks also wanted to lose weight and came to me for that and dated me out of gratefulness and the fact that no other type of guy would date them. I turned them into thinner better looking and more positive women when I personal trained them. I would not consider being in a relationship with a fat chick who wants to STAY fat because she might turn me fat eventually.

In fact, I even left New York to Brazil out of depression for 4 years and plan to leave again. I would like to move to Las vegas if I stay in the US once I get back on my feet and save enough.[/QUOTE]Wow, describes my situation to a T.

Here are three of them.

THAT explains why I always see traffic stopped on the interstate RIGHT in front of those signs!

Hey Darkseid,

Your posts always trigger a lot of thought and interest with me. I was honestly unaware of the racist attitudes that people have toward Asian guys. Then, again, not being Asian and working in academia for the last 30 years I have been oblivious to this issue.

Oddly enough, a good friend of mine had a relationship with a beautiful Asian woman several years ago. She was was a total knockout and a real sweeheart. I often asked her if she had any sisters. In any event, her family and her father in particular very much resented her dating a Caucasian guy. She and my friend took a lot of static from her family and Asian relatives to the point where she eventually broke off the relationship. So, do Asian people in turn resent non-Asians??? I don't know. What are your views of this situation? Is this common in Asian families and culture or was this an anomaly? I'd like to hear your thoughts and comments.

Paddy

The stark reality...

12,900,103 or 12% of all the reporting Households were Female Householders with no Husband Present. Now these numbers can be twisted a bit depending on your agenda, but the numbers themselves don't lie.

1 out of every 4 households are of one parent...

Eek!

I was going to comment about Asian-Americans and Interracial Relationships, but I'll let Darkseid tackle that one. The only thing I can add is in my limited sampling, Japanese and Chinese Americans are FAR more likely to marry their own than not. But you can say that of Orthodox Jews, especially in Los Angeles and New York.

It seems the more wrapped up in religion or tradition you are, the more likely your going to date in your own dating circle/pool.

I used to have an asian girlfriend. She was far better in many regards to the local white girls.

I noticed a bit of reluctance, at first, from her mother. But she came around pretty quickly. Her sister even copied our move and started dating a white guy herself. Asian woman/White male is a fairly common inter-racial couple here in Canada. In Vancouver, it seems like white guys date asian girls more than any other type.

What I noticed was the funny looks we used to get all the time. Not from white people, but from the asians. Girls in particular.

Rock

I'm on the west coast US. White guy/Asian girl is extremely common, I've had many Asian GF's, have never encountered trouble from anyone. In Japan it's another story, with cold stares everywhere. I prefer Asian-raised, not "bananas" as many Asian-Americans are called. Rarely have their parents objected, especially when they know I'm Jewish, once they learn of our high value placed on education & close family. All they care about is if the guy treats her right.

Unfortunately, Asian kids born & raised in the US become as fat as everyone else!

I can chime in about what darkseid said about caucasian girls and asian guys - we just can't get any play at all. It's a cold hard fact for all asian guys living in North America actually.

Part of it is due to the cultural programming that all of us are subjected to as we're growing up - cartoons, movies, news programming, daily life. Girls are "imprinted", at a very early age. Try this on yourself: what's the typical image of the homecoming queen? Blond, beautiful, white? what about the homecoming king? Tall, blond, white, handsome?

So if you were a woman, who would you like to go out with?

It's really really tough for us. Thank god for places like South America (latinas are beyond awesome) and Thailand. I just came back from Thailand and it was the best vacation of my life. Those thai girls are beyond awesome.

[QUOTE=Rock Dog]I used to have an asian girlfriend. She was far better in many regards to the local white girls.

I noticed a bit of reluctance, at first, from her mother. But she came around pretty quickly. Her sister even copied our move and started dating a white guy herself. Asian woman/White male is a fairly common inter-racial couple here in Canada. In Vancouver, it seems like white guys date asian girls more than any other type.

What I noticed was the funny looks we used to get all the time. Not from white people, but from the asians. Girls in particular.

Rock[/QUOTE]Rock
Vancouver is 20-30% Asian,So its pretty common,I am originally from Vancouver myself.It never was an issue for me with either white or Asian girls either.My chinese friend didnt have a problem getting white girls either.But again,We both grew up in West Vancouver and He drove a BMW to school.There might have been pragmatic reasons for the girls,like he would regularly take his dates to his family s condo in Whistler or their Condo in Maui.He ended marrying a white girl though.Note to none Vancouverites,West Vancouver is the wealthiest district in Canada,sort of like the Beverly Hills of Canada

[QUOTE=Wet Nose]I can chime in about what darkseid said about caucasian girls and asian guys - we just can't get any play at all. It's a cold hard fact for all asian guys living in North America actually.[/QUOTE]Not neccesarily,See the previous post of my chinese friend in Vancouver.The power of money......