Seeking Arrangements

[VanessasClient]

So now that I no longer have a paid Seeking membership, all of a sudden women supposedly in my area are making the first move by sending me messages. Messages that I of course can't read without a paid membership! That rarely ever happened when I had a paid membership. So why now? Nope! Seeking isn't getting any more of my money. Not ever! Overall it mostly proved to be a huge waste of time and definitely a waste of money for me using Seeking in the States. And I don't need it overseas so good riddance! Lure another sucker into re-subscribing just to read a "fake" message like "Hi" waiting for you LOL!

That's going to happen if you have your location (city) set to the USA. I NEVER use the seeking app, or seeking from the browser on my phone, because the site will ask for location permission. Which might conflict with the location you specify. I ONLY use seeking from a desktop computer, which I will not be prompted for location access, and can set my city to wherever I goddamn well please, without a VPN.

With all the experience I have in life now, it is beyond me why anyone would pursue a gringa woman in this day and age.

[Berol Loz]

They feature your photo all around the 2 days before and then after your membership has expired. To motivate you to come back again. If you come back you will find out all the messages and views were from continents away, by people you could not meet in person, time wasters. All the dating websites do this. Fake.

Yes, I noticed the same thing with SugarDaddyMeet.com (SDM), but at least it's not those fake bot messages you get from Secret Benefits. Generally had good experiences on SDM too. Even if there's less ladies on it, I like the lower cost and not getting kicked off for negotiating prices on the site.

[HumbleHal]

So now that I no longer have a paid Seeking membership, all of a sudden women supposedly in my area are making the first move by sending me messages. Messages that I of course can't read without a paid membership! That rarely ever happened when I had a paid membership. So why now? Nope! Seeking isn't getting any more of my money. Not ever! Overall it mostly proved to be a huge waste of time and definitely a waste of money for me using Seeking in the States. And I don't need it overseas so good riddance! Lure another sucker into re-subscribing just to read a "fake" message like "Hi" waiting for you LOL!

They feature your photo all around the 2 days before and then after your membership has expired. To motivate you to come back again. If you come back you will find out all the messages and views were from continents away, by people you could not meet in person, time wasters. All the dating websites do this. Fake.

[The Cane]

So now that I no longer have a paid Seeking membership, all of a sudden women supposedly in my area are making the first move by sending me messages. Messages that I of course can't read without a paid membership! That rarely ever happened when I had a paid membership. So why now? Nope! Seeking isn't getting any more of my money. Not ever! Overall it mostly proved to be a huge waste of time and definitely a waste of money for me using Seeking in the States. And I don't need it overseas so good riddance! Lure another sucker into re-subscribing just to read a "fake" message like "Hi" waiting for you LOL!

[Stirling]

Women play men by starting high. Just like list price on a car. Then the men think they got a bargain and are a good negotiator because they got a break from their first offer. I can quickly value the woman based upon appearance, personality and if they are ghetto trash. Then that's it. Often I find out in the bedroom they have trashy tattoos from jail / gang culture, or their tits sag from baby suckage, or they have scars from boob jobs, tummy tucks, breast lifts, etc that make the adventure a site for blind eyes. All one can do is not repeat, it does no good to try to renegotiate at that point, they will demand their money for "their time" and you have no options because they will start screaming bloody murder and threaten to turn you in to the police, but rarely will they do so.

Again, once you give the woman the money up front you are asking for problems, bro! I never, never pay / reward the woman up front. Does the boss pay his workers on Monday and see if they show up the rest of the week and work hard? No, the boss pays his workers on Friday after a hard worked week. You give up CONTROL and the girl can run away. Does it happen? 50% of the time. Its called Reinforcement Theory. Once the mouse has the cheese do you think it will then run the maze? Heck no, it will eat the cheese right away and then look for a new game to play elsewhere with another piece of cheese offered and remember how stupid you were.

I simply tell them no, and they can go it they do not like it, bye! I have walked out of the door to their hotel room several times when they ask for money up front, do NOT do it. Ever. Never!!

I don't necessarily disagree with your comments. I, like you am wary of the trouble that one can find themselves in if not careful. That said, I do evaluate each situation as it comes along. I had surmised based on our conversations prior to our date that she was what she claimed to be. Even so, we met for dinner first and I was certainly not going to hand over any money at that point. Over dinner it became apparent that she was on the higher end of the spectrum and I felt comfortable handing her an envelope once we returned to my hotel. Could she have flaked out and left at that point? I suppose yes, but I accept there's some inherent risk to this game and I elected to go with my gut. If I had truly sensed she wasn't kosher, I would left her at the restaurant. I'm old enough and experienced enough to usually suss out the flakes etc, but recognize that at some point I might get taken. Sometimes it's worth the risk.

Stirling.

[KrisMonger]

Was in Mexico city for a week and really didn't have issues finding arrangements via seeking. Most of them were into PPM and most of them had no issues video chatting. Prices were around 3500 to 5000 MXN for a date night, but one (Marianna I think) asked for 15000 MXN (I laughed her off). Going above 30 gets you in the 3500 mxn range. Stayed in an airbnb and didn't have any issue with bringing folks in.

[HumbleHal]

I open with dinner and 400 E. She countered with 600 and we split the difference 500 E. Easy negotiations.

In any event, we taxied back to my hotel. She did want the money at that point and I acquiesced. No issues....

Women play men by starting high. Just like list price on a car. Then the men think they got a bargain and are a good negotiator because they got a break from their first offer. I can quickly value the woman based upon appearance, personality and if they are ghetto trash. Then that's it. Often I find out in the bedroom they have trashy tattoos from jail / gang culture, or their tits sag from baby suckage, or they have scars from boob jobs, tummy tucks, breast lifts, etc that make the adventure a site for blind eyes. All one can do is not repeat, it does no good to try to renegotiate at that point, they will demand their money for "their time" and you have no options because they will start screaming bloody murder and threaten to turn you in to the police, but rarely will they do so.

Again, once you give the woman the money up front you are asking for problems, bro! I never, never pay / reward the woman up front. Does the boss pay his workers on Monday and see if they show up the rest of the week and work hard? No, the boss pays his workers on Friday after a hard worked week. You give up CONTROL and the girl can run away. Does it happen? 50% of the time. Its called Reinforcement Theory. Once the mouse has the cheese do you think it will then run the maze? Heck no, it will eat the cheese right away and then look for a new game to play elsewhere with another piece of cheese offered and remember how stupid you were.

I simply tell them no, and they can go it they do not like it, bye! I have walked out of the door to their hotel room several times when they ask for money up front, do NOT do it. Ever. Never!!

[Stirling]

Gents, arrived in Vienna yesterday. Had originally planned to see girl "A" but that fell through several days ago and moved on to Girl "be". Note, I've been trolling the Vienna page for about 3 weeks and had 3-4 potential possibilities. I open with dinner and 400 E. She countered with 600 and we split the difference 500 E. Easy negotiations. She had sent me plenty of pics and gave me access to her instagram so I knew what I was getting.

We met for dinner, Restaurant Kornat, and as the meal progressed we became quite comfortable with each other. I'm 62, she's 34. I did laugh (internally) and some of the conversation when we danced around why we were on the site. As she spent great lengths to make sure I understood she's not a hooker. Of course not I thought. I don't bring hookers to expensive restaurants.

In any event, we taxied back to my hotel. She did want the money at that point and I acquiesced. No issues. She took a shower and came out in just her panties. No complaints. A 2 hour session and then we fell asleep. We woke up about 7:30 am and she initiated contact again. I didn't complain. An hour later she was gone.

All in all, a success in my books. Will I see her again? Likely not as I have other plans, (read Babylon Club) but I wouldn't be opposed to it.

Stirling.

[Steve 9696]

Agree 💯 with Pi that girls with Daddy issues are a whole lotta fun. And I don't feel bad about that because your fulfilling a need for them also. It's a win win. This girl def has serious daddy issues and a handful of more! Quite the kinky little wildcat and yet one of the smartest girls I've ever met. And a ton of fun to just hang with. Read on.

Wow. I have met the most interesting girl of my illustrious career! She is sharp as a tack. Perfect English. Kinky and adventurous. Great sense of humor. Seeking Arrangement of course.

I had been looking for about 6 weeks in CDMX and found several suitable prospects. Had prices negotiated and everything. But as my trip approached I of course kept looking. Hit a very hot girl who had just joined but didn't have anything in her profile but keywords. But no harm sending a Hi. Turns out it was the Hi that would rock my world!

We chatted only briefly and since my trip was only a week away I moved right to WhatsApp. Well damn we hit it off. We chatted for six hours (that first day. And probably another ten or more hours the rest of that week. I hadn't had a chat vibe like this since Valentina six years ago.

Although early on I wasn't sure if she was real (too good to be true?) we got progressively closer and eventually she was sending me short videos of her face or clothes. The one of her showing me her little short skirts for me to pick from will always be a highlight.

My plan was to see her just three hours after landing as we were both so stoked. And it came off without a hitch. Drinks at 5. Dinner at 7 and back in the room by 9.

The bar I chose was inside the St Regis so it was super high end. She bounced in in her red heels all five ft nothing of her, and in her recently purchased Zara Teen 13-14 yr old jeans. LOL. Quite the petite hottie.

We had a couch on the terrace and a beautiful view of the plaza reforma as we sipped our drinks and had appetizers. The conversation flowed a little less well than our amazing chat vibe but we got going after a bit and suddenly almost two hours had flown by. Light touching and hand holding meant it was game on.

Dinner too was effortless. We were a little lit by then and the flow was so easy. We had some lovely Italian and cocktails just a few blocks down from the St Regis. We talked and laughed, and discussed how monogamy is a sham and I am married and she has a BF and yet here we are.

We are so comfy together that it's not a problem when her boyfriend calls and she chats with him while holding my hand and making doe eyes at me! She mentions her boyfriend is very open minded and even likes to listen in when she has sex with other guys!

Before we knew it we were 4 hours into our date; but the early start meant it was still early.

Back in the room the easy chemistry continued. It was like we'the known each other for weeks. We started with a kiss but soon I was on my back on the bed with her straddling me. She was wearing a black top that was basically a tube top (but classy). So I started kneading her tits and then pulled it down to reveal an amazing set of firm be cups top five all time!

The sex was amazing and passionate with all the usual trimmings. An interesting note was that she had never done BLS before. But she took to it like a fish to water. So much so that I asked her if she wanted another BJ tip and I showed her harmonica. Damn she catches on fast. A few minutes later she was giving a top notch BJ. She later said she loves to BJ and that was no lie because man we did a lot.

After quite a bit of fucking she did BJ on her knees at the side of the bed. And she says she wants to video it! I have done a bit of video before but never had a girl initiate. She actually does it as a selfie video and damn it's sexy. Musta done another 15 minutes but I fail to blow and instead finish in mish while kissing. Ooooh so good.

Well if the video didn't add enough kink, stay tuned. After cumming like a big dog we are crashed sideways on the bed when a call from her boyfriend comes in. I'm in a post sex haze but eventually muster enough sense to realize I can start playing with her while her BF is on the phone!

So I start sucking her tits and kneading them and she is cooing and moaning, all as she carries on an otherwise normal conversation in Spanish. Hahaha. Then I start fingering her. And she indicates two fingers. Then she indicates faster and harder and is eventually driving my fingers in and out of her pussy at light speed and the moans and gasps are louder and more frequent.

As much fun as this is, I realize hey I could get in on this. So I pull her into Steve position and mount up. I am fucking her hard and fast as her boyfriend listens in and she is getting very loud and has trouble keeping the convo going! It is sooooo naughty.

After a bit we switch it up to kneeling BJ at the side of the bed and she is deep throat gagging and extra sloppy for her BFs benefit. After maybe 15 minutes she packs it in and flops on her back on the bed. I of course still want to get my nut, so I straddle her and jerk off while feeling those amazing tits. Before long I shoot out a nice second load (unheard of at my age) on her tits, resulting in a very sexy selfie of her and her cum-laden tits for her BF. LOL.

Wow. This girl is one wildcat of a woman. And so fun just at the dinner table or text chat as well. Never met anyone like her. Stay tuned for our day two adventurewhich was actually sexless but the most fun you can have with your clothes on. And don't worry. Sex is on the table for day three. Her lady parts just needed a day of rest after our night one fuckfest.

[AmericanPi]

Is it wrong that I kind of like it when girls have daddy issues? I always ask on first date: who do you live with, how's your relationship with your parents? And when I find out a girl has daddy issues (dad left when she was x, don't know dad, dad lives in another state) I know quite a bit about her. Usually those girls are approval seeking, have poor boundaries, more willing to take direction. They are the least likely to put their foot down and say things like I don't X on the first date. They are the most likely to assume that if you're suggesting it confidently it's what we should be doing right now.

(PSA to Dads: don't leave your daughters. It's awful and it messes then up.)

[AmericanPi]

Point being, if somebody is not a sworn enemy already, it's probably better not to make them one. Of course if they are, feel free to take revenge on them. But that whole thing about "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". If the girl is not really on your bad side, I don't see what benefit could come from pissing off a woman who might be mentally unstable, and inclined to retaliate, even if they don't have your personal info at the moment.

I preach this on the regular here. Totally agree. In this day and age women can make accusations and it's guilty till proven innocent in practice. Don't do it.

I got stood up twice this past week in seeking. Know what I did? Wrote each one saying more or less: sorry I didn't get to see you. I assume something must've happened and I hope it turned out ok. No hard feelings and best of luck to you.

And then I cut them off and never contact them again.

Another one: I try to message girls after dates that I enjoyed time with them and such and look for a response. Why? To get in writing that they had a good time and all ended well. So no friend can ever pull her aside and be like "heyyyyy, ever thought of saying XYZ and getting some money out of this guy?" Call me paranoid but I've never had an issue.

[Stirling]

Your mistake was asking them to quote you a price. Tell them what you pay, you're the captain of the ship.

I didn't ask LOL. They quoted that quite quickly. No issues, cut them loose.

[Manizales911]

Heading back to Vienna in a couple of weeks. I've used Seeking in a few European cities before with some success, and typically reactivate my account when I know I'll be traveling. I've been chatting to 2 ladies in Vienna, both early 30's. The response has not been what I expected. Tonight one of then asked for 2000 Euros for the evening and the other one 1500. WTF. Am I missing something here. No way am I going that high.

Stirling.

Your mistake was asking them to quote you a price. Tell them what you pay, you're the captain of the ship.

[Manizales911]

"hey, I'm currently going through a lot of things in life, and would need to keep us on pause. Hopefully we should reconnect at some point in the future! I appreciate you, and hope you stay as lovely as you are".

Don't go the negative route. Don't want anyone pissed off at you for any reason.

This tactic has worked for me many times, I've been a Seeking member for 15 years and use it almost exclusively, I still hit up full time hoes but rarely now as my Seeking roster has filled out quite nicely but Seeking takes work to utilize it to its fullest so anyone using it often will have to let a girl go quite regularly and the above advise is a good way to do it in my opinion.

[HumbleHal]

Some years ago I was referred to a real estate agent who was a buffoon. I tried to work with him for a little while, but he wanted to do things his way, rather than catering to the customer. So I fired the idiot, and found another realtor. The 2nd realtor handled my closing.... So my initial inclination was to send the first realtor some screen shots showing what would have been his commission, being paid to fledgling, junior agent.

Short answer is you owe a 3% real estate commission to each or your realtors. The first real estate agent had a listing agreement with you that said, as long as the agreement was in force he gets paid if it sells even if you fire him. 6 months is the standard duration for a listing contract, if it sells during that time period he gets paid based upon the contract.

Then the second realtor gets paid because he was the "procuring factor" that got the sale to closing. Finally the buyer's agent gets 3% commission because he bought the buyer.

So you now owe 9% to the realtors instead of the standard 6%.