Gambia

[J Janni]

So, still in on and off again contact with Little Miss Perfect.

Ended up blocking her fairly shortly after my return to the UK. She asked for money within about five days. I can't reply blame her. She was blocked for about a month.

Unblocked her after a night of drinking, listening to Afrobeats and getting nostalgic. Read her the riot act over asking for money and she apologised. Still message every now and then. See her WhatsApp video status. Looking fine AF.

My intention to return to Gambia was left vague, she's never asked about it and I don't really want to. Best option at the time, but it wasn't for me.

But God, did I enjoy hanging around with her and she liked hanging around with me, just watching TV, fucking about and fucking. She was cute and silly and a laugh, pretty and that body was perfect. The sex was the best I've ever had. Mind blowing. Constantly remincise about the gasp and grin she used to have when I slid into her. Like it was the best thing in the world. The time we were watching a movie, got horny and she came up with the idea of just pulling our pants down and putting it in, not fucking till the movie was down. (We ended up having to rewind the movie, one I'd seen, she watched sit while I went to get the morning after pill.) The time I was due to see her in the evening to go to a concert, but invited herself over in the morning because of a secret reason. I said OK, I'm just having a shower, door is open. She ended up strolling in, naked 'Walla! The secret is I was horny!' and climbing into the shower with me.

Haha. I've got it bad for her. Possibly because of my inability to set up a similar arrangement out here in Bahrain. It's all been at most, four hours with a girl.

She is a fucking amazing girl though. I'm constantly on the edge of reaching out to her, seeing if she'd be with me if I booked like a 10 day package holiday to Gambia.

I like her too much to get her hopes up that it will be anything more though. But still.

Neddy, talk some sense into me.

[Neddy69]

Yeah, don't get me wrong. It was a numbers game with him.

He'd get 30 phone numbers a day, out and about.

That's way too much work. Consider the many no shows. You set up a meeting nobody shows up. Or hours late. Kenya is much easier. Many times you take the girls straight back to your crib. Waste of time IMHO.

Neddy.

[DoktorEn]

Yeah, don't get me wrong. It was a numbers game with him.

He'd get 30 phone numbers a day, out and about.

In other words, good ol' PUA tactics.

[J Janni]

Too good to be true. Don't believe all the BS. Usually the easiest part is to collect numbers. If all these numbers convert into shags Gambia would be Paradise. A conversion rate of 50% numbers taken versus actual shags is very good. That's my experience. No shows are common. I had birds in my bed sleeping and not to be touched the whole night. Also common. A fair share of one night stands I. E. Pussy samples. Unless you marry. No repeat.

Neddy.

Yeah, don't get me wrong. It was a numbers game with him.

He'd get 30 phone numbers a day, out and about.

[Neddy69]

Definitely agree with your assessment of it being better to find girls out and about. The best girls don't even have smartphones.

I was quite lucky in finding Little Miss Perfect online, but the rest of the girls I found online were dross.

An Aussie mate I made over there, more outgoing than I, absolutely cleaned up picking up non pro girls during the day. Grab the phone number, few texts and calls back and forth, invite them over, fuck them, send them away with 500/600 dalasi for 'taxi' was his MO.

If I ever go back to Gambia, I'm putting on my big boy pants and hunting the same way.

Too good to be true. Don't believe all the BS. Usually the easiest part is to collect numbers. If all these numbers convert into shags Gambia would be Paradise. A conversion rate of 50% numbers taken versus actual shags is very good. That's my experience. No shows are common. I had birds in my bed sleeping and not to be touched the whole night. Also common. A fair share of one night stands I. E. Pussy samples. Unless you marry. No repeat.

Neddy.

[J Janni]

I don't think The Gambia is ideal for online hook ups. More a place where you meet random girls in the street, waitresses, shop attendants etc. , especially in the tourist area. Having said that you have to put some effort into it. 98% of girls will expect you to approach them. If they approach you they are pro's.

Observance, dress and sexuality arent necessarily intertwined.

I personally wouldn't say that I'm 'looking for fun'. Most don't see themselves as being cheap and don't like to be treated as such, even some of the pro's. Let me put it this way. If you meet an ordinary girl in your home country and you want to sleep with her, how much success will you have if you say you are 'searching for fun'? She may be a slapper but if you make her feel like one chances are she is going to get defensive. Keep up appearances just like you would do with a woman at home.

Definitely agree with your assessment of it being better to find girls out and about. The best girls don't even have smartphones.

I was quite lucky in finding Little Miss Perfect online, but the rest of the girls I found online were dross.

An Aussie mate I made over there, more outgoing than I, absolutely cleaned up picking up non pro girls during the day. Grab the phone number, few texts and calls back and forth, invite them over, fuck them, send them away with 500/600 dalasi for 'taxi' was his MO.

If I ever go back to Gambia, I'm putting on my big boy pants and hunting the same way.

[TailPipe]

This made me smile.

As the prospect of getting into PH or Indonesia looks increasingly remote, I have been warming up a few possible in Gambia (easy to get to from where I am and relatively cheap).

In the last 3 weeks:

*One poor unfortunate unemployed lady (an "orphan" by the way) has seen her grandmother die, her grandfather taken into hospital (she needs to "sell the TV" for 3500 to "pay for medicine" and yet the guy who was going to buy it now doesn't want to) and her brother crippled with depression. She is playing a long game, as only today has she asked for medicine money. I am not hard-hearted, but really, what are the chances? So of course I said no, only cash in person and she seems OK with that. She is quite nice looking, friendly and quick to flash the boobs and bits on video call, so I'm not going to bin her off just yet. Though a face-to-face meeting doesn't seem worth it.

*Another young lady took me "into her heart" early on and walked me round the compound on video saying Hello, to her sisters and all their brats. She is very attractive so I played along for a while but when I said last week I wasn't looking for a wife just for fun she basically told me it was over. Until a couple of days ago when she started sending me revealing shots of her in swimsuit, tight top with no bra etc. Etc. She claims to be an observant Muslim, but she's the opposite of modestly dressed in the pictures!! So I have started talking to her again, you never know. !!

Not being an Africa hand, I am going into this a bit blind but it seems to be a variation of LE Carre's "Moscow Rules:"

Assume nothing.

Never go against your gut.

Everyone is potentially after your money.

Do not look back; you are never completely alone.

Go with the flow, blend in.

Happy Hunting: the.

I don't think The Gambia is ideal for online hook ups. More a place where you meet random girls in the street, waitresses, shop attendants etc. , especially in the tourist area. Having said that you have to put some effort into it. 98% of girls will expect you to approach them. If they approach you they are pro's.

Observance, dress and sexuality aren’t necessarily intertwined.

I personally wouldn't say that I'm 'looking for fun'. Most don't see themselves as being cheap and don't like to be treated as such, even some of the pro's. Let me put it this way. If you meet an ordinary girl in your home country and you want to sleep with her, how much success will you have if you say you are 'searching for fun'? She may be a slapper but if you make her feel like one chances are she is going to get defensive. Keep up appearances just like you would do with a woman at home.

[Neddy69]

This made me smile.

As the prospect of getting into PH or Indonesia looks increasingly remote, I have been warming up a few possible in Gambia (easy to get to from where I am and relatively cheap).

In the last 3 weeks:

*One poor unfortunate unemployed lady (an "orphan" by the way) has seen her grandmother die, her grandfather taken into hospital (she needs to "sell the TV" for 3500 to "pay for medicine" and yet the guy who was going to buy it now doesn't want to) and her brother crippled with depression. She is playing a long game, as only today has she asked for medicine money. I am not hard-hearted, but really, what are the chances? So of course I said no, only cash in person and she seems OK with that. She is quite nice looking, friendly and quick to flash the boobs and bits on video call, so I'm not going to bin her off just yet. Though a face-to-face meeting doesn't seem worth it.

*Another young lady took me "into her heart" early on and walked me round the compound on video saying Hello, to her sisters and all their brats. She is very attractive so I played along for a while but when I said last week I wasn't looking for a wife just for fun she basically told me it was over. Until a couple of days ago when she started sending me revealing shots of her in swimsuit, tight top with no bra etc. Etc. She claims to be an observant Muslim, but she's the opposite of modestly dressed in the pictures!! So I have started talking to her again, you never know..

Sums it up. Case in point. Guy met Nigerian chica online. They agreed to meet in Dakar. Poor girl told him to bring cash. 3000 Euros. Which he did. On Dakar airport he was met by some of her "brothers". They took his money and locked him up in some basement to squeeze out a bit more ransom. After that they tarred and feathered him they drove him back to Dakar airport, where they law caught up with them. Morale. They money disappeared of course. Never to be seen again and the bad brothers ended up in jail. True story. Never ever send money. 99% BS. And don't bring cash.

Neddy.

P.S. Read the Gambia Forum. I posted all about the Gambian marriage. LOL.

[JamesXBrown]

Although unusual this story for me epitomises the Gambian experience. The lying, the cheating, the money that always gets spent on something different then it was originally intended for and of course the revenge.

This made me smile.

As the prospect of getting into PH or Indonesia looks increasingly remote, I have been warming up a few possible in Gambia (easy to get to from where I am and relatively cheap).

In the last 3 weeks:

*One poor unfortunate unemployed lady (an "orphan" by the way) has seen her grandmother die, her grandfather taken into hospital (she needs to "sell the TV" for 3500 to "pay for medicine" and yet the guy who was going to buy it now doesn't want to) and her brother crippled with depression. She is playing a long game, as only today has she asked for medicine money. I am not hard-hearted, but really, what are the chances? So of course I said no, only cash in person and she seems OK with that. She is quite nice looking, friendly and quick to flash the boobs and bits on video call, so I'm not going to bin her off just yet. Though a face-to-face meeting doesn't seem worth it.

*Another young lady took me "into her heart" early on and walked me round the compound on video saying Hello, to her sisters and all their brats. She is very attractive so I played along for a while but when I said last week I wasn't looking for a wife just for fun she basically told me it was over. Until a couple of days ago when she started sending me revealing shots of her in swimsuit, tight top with no bra etc. Etc. She claims to be an observant Muslim, but she's the opposite of modestly dressed in the pictures!! So I have started talking to her again, you never know. !!

Not being an Africa hand, I am going into this a bit blind but it seems to be a variation of LE Carre's "Moscow Rules:"

Assume nothing.

Never go against your gut.

Everyone is potentially after your money.

Do not look back; you are never completely alone.

Go with the flow, blend in.

Happy Hunting: the.

[TailPipe]

She probably cried, because you didn't marry her. But once they are in the meat grinder, they become hard core within a year.

Spot on interpretation. I actually did meet up with her again but that was a mistake. She had become indifferent, blase. I had a look at her ID it stated hotel worker without specifying what she exactly was doing there but I understood. I got rid of her after a couple of days but she did have an amazing story to tell about the guard who felt he had been left out of the spoils. He decided to pimp out his own wife instead.

As told by my girl who was friends with the guards wife. One day a Swedish couple came into the compound and the man took a liking into the guards wife. Probably told him it was his sister. The guard who wasn't sleeping with her (apparently he had a sexual dysfunction) told his wife to have fun with the guy and get some money out of it. The Scandinavians had rented the upper apartment for themselves and the man had also rented the ground floor where he would fuck the guards wife. It was an extraordinary situation not only because he was doing the guards wife. His own wife knew about it and was supportive of it. When they left they gave her money to continue renting the apartment for another 6 months. A massive amount of money for them. Of course they had other plans for the money. His wife wanted him to go to the witch doctor of their ancestral village to get a cure for his impotency. So the guard sets of to Guinea. What does he do? Instead of going to the witch doctor he decides, without his first wife knowing it, to take a second wife and squanders all of the money. His first wife is now seeking revenge. The Scandinavian man wants to bring her to Sweden and if he does she is going to dump him.

Although unusual this story for me epitomises the Gambian experience. The lying, the cheating, the money that always gets spent on something different then it was originally intended for and of course the revenge. If a toubab finds out his wife is cheating on him or worse is actually already married to a local man it is most often the boyfriend/husband who will inform the foreigner as an act of revenge. Usually because he’s not getting any of the money (anymore).

[Jingo10]

By the way, what about happy ending massage? Is it possible in Gambia or also need to visit a lot of and try my luck?

Just at walk along the beach, wait for a young girl to offer you a massage in the huts behind the beach, you will be ok.

There was a cutie near the strip end with huts behind the beach across a stream also at the beach stalls 10 minutes walk away from the strip.

[Krinki]

By the way, what about happy ending massage? Is it possible in Gambia or also need to visit a lot of and try my luck?

[ArisCasa]

Well, I didn't want to go deeper in pay or not pay subject but. Looks like our experience is very different from each other. Believe me or not, there is free sex. I was banging many girls for free and struggling to get rid of them because next chicks was waiting, and not paying them a broken coin. Of course in many of cases I asked girls out to the restaurant first, payed for food and taxi, but that's it. I don't have any problem to pay for food, drinks or taxi, but not for sex. Girl must be horny on me, otherwise its not fun. There is no point of further and deeper discuss about that subject. Its just my preference. That strategy always worked so far in countries I have been, so why it shouldn't work in Africa?

Company I work for gives me per diem of USD $200 per night or equivalent during business travel. I can spend it without giving bills, this is apart from the hotel the company books. I can use that money for whatever I wish, but my company hates paid sex. So I eat newyork steak every night with a friend with a bottle or 2 of champagne. I never pay for sex. I think we are very similar.

[Krinki]

Well. That's down to luck. Africa doesn't work like that. You'll waste a lot of time to search.

Thanks for explanation. That's why I like Indonesia, but now it's close. Here I'll not have time for walking alone on the beach, so maybe will ask taxi driver to help me, some reports mentioned, they can be helpful.

[Neddy69]

What you wanted to say?

They have:

A) brothels.

B) prostitutes in bars / clubs as Gambian, as from neighbor countries.

So, question was not about presence or absence, but about high quality without wasting time for searching.

Well. That's down to luck. Africa doesn't work like that. You'll waste a lot of time to search. The best way is. Don't search. Let it happen. Take a walk on the beach and see what pops up. And read all the posts. It also depends what's high quality? I've shagged queens which were dead as a dodo in bed.

If you want top shelf pussy go to REOs. But that's a bar down the strip. That's where all the Lebanese hang out. But expect to shell out Top Dollar. No less than 4000 and up. In most African countries there's no ready made market for high end brothels. The reason is simple. Nobody needs that shit. There's pussy on every street corner. If you know what you're doing that is.

Neddy.