Mood / Repeat Visit Killers
Apologies is this isn't placed in a suitable forum (looked and felt his was one was closest).
Do you have certain triggers which are the deciding factor for you 'not' to return to a BG / Massage Girl?
For me,. "When you Cum?" is the one that seals their fate, along with closing the eyes (I know that more than a few Women love to go 'inside' during the experience, but other times this just seems like she's getting off but picturing somebody else doing it LOL). Not only does the first utterance brutally highlight to me the customer that she's merely servicing cock in a pit stop (which is of course the case and no illusions here when not visiting, but I don't really want to be reminded of that in such a way during the deed thank you very much). It also signals to me that she isn't enjoying it ("when will this be over"?). I rarely every get both of these, but on occasion it does happen and to me game over. Wham, Bam, thank you but you won't be getting my custom again, Darling.
Theres asking you to cum -and theres asking you to cuuuum!
[QUOTE=CoconutCream;1404618]Apologies is this isn't placed in a suitable forum (looked and felt his was one was closest).
Do you have certain triggers which are the deciding factor for you 'not' to return to a BG / Massage Girl?
For me,. "When you Cum?" is the one that seals their fate, along with closing the eyes (I know that more than a few Women love to go 'inside' during the experience, but other times this just seems like she's getting off but picturing somebody else doing it LOL). Not only does the first utterance brutally highlight to me the customer that she's merely servicing cock in a pit stop (which is of course the case and no illusions here when not visiting, but I don't really want to be reminded of that in such a way during the deed thank you very much). It also signals to me that she isn't enjoying it ("when will this be over"?). I rarely every get both of these, but on occasion it does happen and to me game over. Wham, Bam, thank you but you won't be getting my custom again, Darling.[/QUOTE]I live here (retired now) and have heard this one, and a few other direct statements too! Even in polite society, in Thailand it is not seen as rude to point out anyone is fat (poumpooy) or for that matter, tall, thin, 'handsum' (it is not always a lie!) drunk (mau) loony (ting-tong) stupid (knorr) or worse. Usually, the women will announce these assessments loudly, actually shouting across the soi, it is part of everyday banter.
So, the moral of the story is be 'direct' back, let them know what your expectations are upfront, and (after the deed, if necessary) that their 'girls aloud' schtick is best kept out of the parlour. It may not help you recover the current situation to your advantage, but if enough mongers do it, everybody wins.
A lot of mongers are also afraid to ask for what they want here, you are likely to get 'it' if you ask. I have created a small thread here with monger 'sexy-time' words in thai anyone can use, Feel free to locate it, and comment there to keep it current, and therefore useful for all.
Trust me, these phrases can, and do, get your service improved, and your prices lowered, ESPECIALLY if you learn to count very basically in Thai, you can save thousands.
Last time I went to a basic oil massage joint, I tried my rudimentary beginner Thai out as much as possible, and near the end of the JO, when i was even by my own admission a little slow to finish, she offered (I swear) a prostrate massage "you wann finger you ass?"
Well. There can be few things more sexually intense than a cute spinner beating you off while also rythmically stroking your internal pleasure center and whispering urgent little breathless moans of 'cum, baby' which amounts to the same thing the OP commented about -but for all the right reasons!
Oh, and the cost of the HJ got her down from the usual Soi 4 B1000 (just for the happy ending!) to 'Haa Loi' Baht (500 and no tip, that was the tip! Id already paid for the hour 'oil massage' upfront, remember?) This is not 'boasting' it is what anyone can do if they can be arsed to learn a little Thai, not be too stinky, don't rush into groping her during the 'legit' massage -few will obey this rule, and you will regret it. Give respect, and you'll be amply rewarded in most cases, of course, if you do come across a bad attitude, well it happens, and I'm not immune either (I'm just sharing how i get the p4p dynamic to work best for me).
Still most 'two-week millionaires' won't care, or be too lazy to even try 'bar-room' thai, but you can't say you were not a little more enlightened in the ways of the ladies of the east after this post. .
Just a quick PS: I know the OP was not asking for 'advice' but asking if there were 'NO-triggers' with certain ladies. The thing is, try to discover these negative traits BEFORE you seal the deal. "Match up in haste, regret at leisure" I have done it too... I try, if possible, to have a chit-chat out the front of house before settling on a girl. beware too much charm, normally, they are all front and no delivery... it is difficult, look for genuine friendliness... i once chose a potential freelancer just because she actually shook my hand and said 'hello xxx' when i introduced myself, and she was outstanding GFE for weeks! :)
Another time some cute little spinner dropped 'you take good care of me' into the conversation.... Nope, honey, not in this lifetime... she was talking of course, about financial care, not respect, or being respectful (to me). So you see, these are the clues... if she is in any way dismissive, or too smooth, then, quiet your cock down, and give her a miss. But, be likeable, go out of your way to charm her, never forget they are women first, and will respond as a woman does when you compliment her dress, earrings, hair (not looks, or body parts, she hears that a million times, its meaningless). Be emotionally generous and you will not need to spend as much money to get what you want, and will likely get more than the average punter in return, its just human nature... of course, always try to find and choose a giver rather than a taker, as mentioned above. happy horing!
Long term still requires I take care of her
I agree that we shouldn't generalize, but I think that short of actual marriage, Thai girls continue to expect we "take care" of them financially no matter how long it's gone on.
My regular gal who I met in an MP three years ago and to whom I return at least six times a year, including one trip overseas together, confines to expect I leave her with a couple K when we part. She has a loser son upcountry and a house and car, so our time together may be intimate but it isn't for free.
Whether she has other guys, I never ask, because she's always available and the time together always of high quality. Respect them, even love them, but continue to take care of them as well. I find it perfectly fair.
[QUOTE=Wolvenvacht;1587791]I think you are reading too many internet postings. Such generalizations are never correct. I don't deny that scams do exist (as in any country in the world) and that hookers indeed are "in it for the money" (again, as everywhere else in the world), but to paint all Thai women with that same brush is pretty rough. Either you have had yourself a bad affair in Thailand (and are thus speaking from purely anecdotal evidence) or you don't know what you are talking about.[/QUOTE]
"take care of me" - what does it mean?
I have been dating ladies I meet online and having fun. Sometimes she says she will take care of me. Occasionally, she says she hopes I will take care of her. I am talking about "regular" ladies, not hookers or massage parlour ladies; I know they are all about money (and sometimes more).
What does it mean when she says she wants to take care of me?
What does it mean when she wants me to take care of her?
I know that [U]sometimes[/U] the answers are "have sex" and "give money", respectively. But I have been told a woman will "take care of me" and it does not mean sex; it could only mean she will go eat with me and take me around, etc. And while many ladies eventually want SOME money, some do not. When money is requested, sometimes it is for support (they are struggling). Of course, some women are doing it only for money.
I know the answer is: it varies; it depends on the girl. But I would like to hear your opinions and experiences, if you care to share them.