When is a working girl not a working girl?
So I met this younger guy a few months ago on soi 6 and you know how these girls want to latch onto a younger guy for a relationship, marriage and all that. Anyway he has a unique view on the long time setup here in Thailand with pay for play. He won't 'pay the girls for sex' but at times he will 'give them 1000 baht to come by his condo after work'. Then in his mind the sex isn't pay for play since he paid ahead of time. There are few mid 30's guys roaming around Thailand so he gets lots of attention. Helps that he's on Thai Friendly. He'll even tell them 'I'll spend time with you but I won't give you money'. So he gets the girls that have sponsors, girls that just want to have sex with a younger guy at their discretion. But he draws a very 'unique' line between working girls and a relationship. That line is the thinness of a condom. You give a girl money and she has sex without a condom then he looks down on the girl for not having safe sex. But in the mean time he's seeing a girl that he paid at the beginning to get her over (or gave her the money) and she has sex with him bareback then its a different story. They are 'in a relationship' so bareback is now allowed. An interesting view I must say. He also has a unique view on a working girl being in a 'relationship' where she gets no support and works in the bars having sex with other men. That is allowed as long as a condom is in use.
Now to me money is what controls these girls. You want sex, give them money. You want a relationship, give them support to send back home. I've been in this game too long not to have realized money is the key to all things. The guy met a really good looking girl and got her to quit opening her legs to earn money. He flew back home after his visa ended after buying her a 100,000 baht motorcycle with plans on paying for her condo while he worked a few months and then coming back. He has very little savings and wants to move here permanently and get a job teaching. A relationship fraught with many pitfalls from a girl used to making tons of cash and having a guy who's running low on money. Will be interesting to see where he is in ten years and if a working girl can become a homebody.
I know that this post is a bit of a ramble. But it is that way because his arguments are so unlike what pay for play is all about. Young man's syndrome might be a good description for it. I told him he should head out to the province and find normal girls and see if his charm works on them instead of focusing on working girls.