Some hint on what soukd I pay?
Hi,
I will be in Bangkok next week.
I know it depends from many factors (age, beauty of the girl....) but can you tell which is more or less the medium rate for:
- Barfine and LT/ST rate girl from beer bar
- Barfine and LT/ST rate girl from gogo bar
- LT rate for freelance (for example from biergarten soi7 or disco)
Just to know what to expect.
on bar girl/freelancer theft: what's a john to do?
[QUOTE=Mando Dog]Brought home (ok, that was my first mistake), and woke up to her being gone with most of the money from my wallet.[/QUOTE]
Duni's correct,
It's your fault. I know it was my fault the one time it happened to me. The girl got my 2000 baht mobile phone. I considered it a small price for a big lesson and so should you.
You should study the advice given by each of the guys who replied to your post and develop your own style of theft prevention. I don't disagree with any of the advice given so far. All of the guys gave good advice, but you are still left with the problem of how to incorporate their advice into a methodology that fits your style and provides a certain degree of flexibility. The issue of flexibility is important because the circumstances are always a little different when you bring a girl to your domicile.
For instance, I live in an modest apartment that has no room safe. This makes it impossible for me to follow the "put your valuables in a room safe" technique. However, I do have a seven foot tall armoire which effectively serves the same function for me. When (if) the girl takes a shower I toss my wallet and key and mobile phone on top of the armoire. I think they are safe enough there because there aren't many Thai Girls that can elevate their hand to a seven foot height.
But what if the girl doesn't take a shower or wants to take the shower together? Many times when a girl is reluctant to get in the shower, it is because she is facing the same dilemma with her purse that you are facing with your wallet. Many times it is the girl that is the one that gets her money stolen, because there are more than a few dishonest and not so rich farangs living in Thailand. I can vouchsafe they exist in Bangkok after living here for three years.
So there you are alone with your girl and both of you are waiting for the other one to be the first one to the shower. What do you do? My technique in this instance is to toss my wallet on the TV stand and go take a shower. What did I just say? How the hell am I protecting my valuables if I simply toss them on the TV stand?
Answer: I'm not. Because what I toss on the TV stand is just a wallet with no more than three thousand baht inside along with a photocopy of my passport. I usually know the exact amount of money in my wallet because I do a quick count of it while paying for the taxi after arriving at my apartment.
All my credit cards and ATM cards are locked away in the top drawer of my armoire because I put them there before I went out hunting. My digital camera and my passport and all my other important essentials permanently reside there as well.
But posterlion! Didn't you just lie to us when you said you didn't have a room safe?
I suppose I did, but it was a small and righteous lie. Remember folks, this is Thailand, the land of many small and righteous lies. It is also the land where it is important not to cause someone to lose face and where it is equally important to consider the other persons feelings at all times (gren jai).
That is why I am happy to lose no more than three thousand baht if necessary. I did everything possible to care for the girls face and feelings and three thousand bath is a small price to pay for information concerning a girls honesty. Information you say? Yes! Exactly! I consider her theft as valuable information. Afterwards, when/if I ever see the girl again, I observe who she associates with because birds of a feather usually flock together. I know which birds fly with theft in their feathers when I know where they fly to when flocking together.
These techniques work well based on my experience. They work well because I limit my losses and credit them on my income statement to Supplier Demographics Expense. The techniques also create a debit on my balance sheet in the Goodwill From Gren Jai Account.
Actually, because I am in Thailand and the concept of gren jai is a very important concept for the Thai people, I've found that all the little gren jai's I attempt to provide are almost always noticed and are very much appreciated. In fact, after three years, I have noticed many times that my little gren jai's end up coming back to me. Many times they come back in a completely unexpected way, but every time, expected or not, I always appreciate it. It's starting to make me a true believer in the old axiom: what goes around comes around.
a good night to all and to all a good night,
poster