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[QUOTE=PedroMorales;2598428]As we get older, we have to let things go. South East Asia, sadly, seems to be one of those things as tourism there will have to wait for Gay Paree and other places to pick up first.
"Gay Paree![/QUOTE]Anyone else totally confused by this post? Like. What? Paris, France, Peaches, Mick Jagger "Gay Paree". There are some serious non-sequiturs on display here. What am I missing? Maybe its a Boomer thing.
Thai family ties, especially with Isaan girls.
[QUOTE=Sammon;2598510]In addition family means a lot in Asian culture. Very rarely one builds her own empire without helping family. Sending money home as an insurance policy is an western thinking. Girl is always welcome to come back home. Family will share what they have.
Quite often this family bond is taken advantage of. Cousins, Aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, all will ask for help when they learn the girl is doing well selling her body. Unfortunately all girls have sell by date which they do not realize till it is too late squandering all their money and becoming poor.[/QUOTE]Your reply is close to being perfectly spot on.
Two points I will add to it.
1. A Thai girl is always welcome back home if she's been a "good" Thai girl in the Isaan / Lao sense.
That doesn't mean western connotations like sex, drugs, bad behavior etc.
It means that she has "always" sent money home.
She has always looked after the family needs foremost, giving to mama / grandma what they ask for.
Isaan / Lao family units are matriarchal.
2. Not all girls squander their money, but yes, the family can be leeches on them.
Especially if they are not the favored daughter, the first born daughter, who are destined to be matriarchs one day.
The Isaan family unit is cousins, uncles, aunts, brothers, sisters, everything under the ruling matriarch.
And the matriarch can easily be a great grandma in her 70-80's when a WG starts on the game in her (late) teens.
So that means a big family, sharing the earnt income sent home.
On the flip side, when these girls, or women if it's been years, go home they aren't shunned, they are welcomed.
And when they "marry" there is no stigma, they are feted with land, house, etc, from the family unit.
The bottom line is that family is all important to an Isaan girl, unless she completely breaks away.
It is ingrained in her, a key essence in her upbringing, and rarely forgotten by them.
Hence Farangs from nuclear western style families find it difficult when Thai girls tell them this.
How can there be so many calls on support, IE accidents, sick buffalo, etc?
And Thai girls with many sponsors play on this, as being a family "good girl" is more important to them than loving a Farang.
It's also why Thai girls seek to acquire gold, it's their only sense of personal money.
As whatever is in the bank is available to send to family when asked, yet gold is for their rainy day, or dreams.
A good Thai girl, looks after mama / papa, grandma / grandpa (m / p, gm / gp).
A good Thai girl, gives m / p, gm / gp whatever money they ask for.
A good Thai girl, goes and gets a job (any job) that lets them earn the money that m / p, gm / gp ask for.
A good Thai girl, finds an income stream, or multiple, read that as Farang sponsor (s) (ATM) that gives them that money.
A good Thai girl, can have true love with a Farang if she does the above, or move easily with a Thai man if she goes home.
And beware, if the Isaan Thai girl you meet and fall for is the favored first daughter, then she has added responsibilities.
She must give up her lied and go home when her duty calls.
She is the daughter tasked with the family caring burden of grandparents, parents, children of the family.
So when the first born above her can no longer do so, it is her return home and take on the role.
Now a last point.
Don't think that all the Isaan Thai girls were shipped off to do sex work.
Far from it.
Long before Patpong, Pattaya and the Thai sex tourism existed Isaan girls went away to work.
Farms, factories, businesses, construction, shops, hotels, anywhere labor intensive unskilled work was required.
And they still do today, with many working in Taiwan, Japan, China, Europe, even the USA and other western countries.