Thai Women - Opinions & Advice

It all depends on what you are willing to let them get away with, Tansak. I had an asian GF a few years ago who sometimes had a temper. She threw her phone against a wall, and at the time, it was a nice phone. I refused to help her out with a new phone for 2 weeks, and then, I bought her a very basic second hand phone. She was not happy, but she took care of that phone for 6 months as if it were a bar of gold. I bought her a nice new phone after 6 months. She never threw anything again.

On the rare occasions I did something which did not sit well with her, (mostly minor stuff), if she pulled a hissie fit, I just didn't tolerate it. She either snapped out of it, or she could spend the evening / night outside. I locked the door, told her to come back in the morning, and that was that. Make up sex was always over the top fabulous, BTW.

They are not stupid. They will push the buttons as much as they can, and try to get away with murder. Up to you to let them, or not let them.

My 2 cents.

[QUOTE=1Ball]Make up sex was always over the top fabulous, BTW.[/QUOTE]

No kidding about the make up sex. Unfortunately I don't think this one knows the buttons yet and is trying to find out what they are and what limits they have.

[QUOTE=Tansak KTV]Is it only me that finds it amazing the type of games some of these thai girls play, much more so then Filipina's or Chinese ladies.

My current GF pushes here and there but does nothing too major until she feels she has a little too much power and a little too much liberty and goes over the top with comments and statements (not about money or such folks). And as she has pushed and pushed and I promptly lose my cool and tell her to bugger off but not in such nice terms and tell her exactly that she can back to her rice paddy etc..., and she can promptly go to sleep or let it rest and turn her back on the entire issue. However she wakes up the next day all sweet as can be as if nothing happened and she didn't do anything wrong or say anything wrong. Like they have a magic rewind and erase button to completely erase that moment out of their minds.

Now if I take a wrong step or overstep some bounds or if I am wrong... oh watch out for the fireworks and drama about how she wants to die and she's no good and I no love her etc..... The pulling out the knife and holding it to her chest screaming how I want her to die, throwing her phone at the wall just to smash it... the friggin drama (and expense) of arguing with a thai woman is just amazing...

The logic of a thai woman just seems completely alien to me, much worse then women from philippines and china. This is the third long time girl to pull such crap with me and I never got that from PI or China... am I just unlucky in picking the long term girls or are all thai girls like this.....[/QUOTE]

Nope, you pretty well summed it up.

It is somewhat difficult for a Western man to go through this because he hates confrontation and that excessive fuss a Thai lady can make if she feels mad about him. And btw mad is the actual word. Thais in general (not just women) can completely lose it at times. Thailand is a violent society, with a lot of blood and murder for no obvious reason other then naked anger.

In the interest of domestic peace though, the man has do decide where to draw the line. It is probably better to play deaf and blind to the innuendos and closed faces that come with minor tantrum, but if the lady is in the mood for a big fight, it is proper to confront her. There are two ways: either play mad yourself and show her that you are even more outraged and angry that she can ever be, or act disappointed at her, point out how much of a great person you are etc. and tell her that she is an ungrateful ***** who does not deserve to be with you and that there are millions of worthier ladies who would be more than willing to take her place.

Naturally, this is always a risky strategy, and you need to make sure she cannot physically harm you either on the spot or later on. I am serious. A really upset Thai lady can become a murderer pretty easily.

If she had a good reason to be upset about you in the first place (typically because you have been screwing around and she found out), again you have two options. Either you ditch here right away (and be careful that she does not have a knife in her hands) or you apologise abjectly and take her to the gold shop for some serious shopping before engaging into great make up sex.

Living with a Thai woman is a sort of emotional roller coaster ride. You never know when you are going to walk past that infrared device that will make the alarm bell ring and hell break loose. But I am told this could be said about any woman. At least we get great sex bundled with it.

Sorry to say it is not only Thai ladies who cannot behave normally.
I had two girlfriends in U.S. behaved the same way.
GF from hell at night and sweet as a kitten in the morning.
I think it is their hormones doing the trick on their brains.
But glad to say Majority of my GF and P4P are really cool.
We being soft hearted cannot or do not have the willingness to
boot the bad behavior girls out.
Firstly because we do not know what she will do next and secondly
the make up sex is spectacular.

[QUOTE=Seydlitz]And btw mad is the actual word. Thais in general (not just women) can completely lose it at times. Thailand is a violent society, with a lot of blood and murder for no obvious reason other then naked anger.[/QUOTE]

Absolutely true. There's a high incidence of mental illness, general emotional instability, and high levels of immaturity, not to mention shear rage, that run through the whole culture.

Also, Thais lack guts to put up with the smallest set back and fall quickly into despair and desperation at the slightest provocation. Thus, you have incidents like those often seen in the Thai media of somebody or other sitting on a roof-top ready to jump, or someone else having shot or stabbed someone in a jealous rage. The 'knife at the throat' (her throat or your throat) is a an all-to-common ploy. I have a friend who was stabbed twice by his absolutely mad GF, who then attempted to stab herself.

At the moment, we seem to be in suicide season. There have been a spate of them lately. Recently there was a well-publicized case of a girl who jumped off her balcony simply because her Thai BF had another girl. Thais seem to go off over the most insignificant things. Only yesterday, a girl jumped off the top of the science faculty building at my uni simply because her grade had dropped from an A to a B - stupid girl.

Cultural pressures and expectations and the all-to-familiar "face" play a large part in this. But, it's also to do with the Thais just not being a very tough people and just plain gutless. They can't deal with anything.

[QUOTE=Sammon]Sorry to say it is not only Thai ladies who cannot behave normally.[/QUOTE]

Yes I know women in general are nuts but Thai ladies are more "dramatic" then Filipina's, Chinese, and women from my home country...

[QUOTE=Old Thai Hand]Absolutely true. There's a high incidence of mental illness, general emotional instability, and high levels of immaturity, not to mention shear rage, that run through the whole culture.

Also, Thais lack guts to put up with the smallest set back and fall quickly into despair and desperation at the slightest provocation. Thus, you have incidents like those often seen in the Thai media of somebody or other sitting on a roof-top ready to jump, or someone else having shot or stabbed someone in a jealous rage. The 'knife at the throat' (her throat or your throat) is a an all-to-common ploy. I have a friend who was stabbed twice by his absolutely mad GF, who then attempted to stab herself.

At the moment, we seem to be in suicide season. There have been a spate of them lately. Recently there was a well-publicized case of a girl who jumped off her balcony simply because her Thai BF had another girl. Thais seem to go off over the most insignificant things. Only yesterday, a girl jumped off the top of the science faculty building at my uni simply because her grade had dropped from an A to a B - stupid girl.

Cultural pressures and expectations and the all-to-familiar "face" play a large part in this. But, it's also to do with the Thais just not being a very tough people and just plain gutless. They can't deal with anything.[/QUOTE]Japan, where I am.

OTH,

I haven't been here as long as you have and certainly haven't experience the Thai society from top to bottom because I'm stuck in the bottom! But your comments! You have something there!

LBM

[QUOTE=Tansak KTV]Yes I know women in general are nuts but Thai ladies are more "dramatic" then Filipina's, Chinese, and women from my home country...[/QUOTE]

I must be lucky because my Thai wife isn't anything at all like you describe. She is on an even keel and never gets mad or upset. In five years we have never had a fight, raised our voices or spoken a harsh word to each other.

Other than that, I keep the knives away from her and don't live anywhere near ducks (let's see if anyone on the forum knows what that means).

[QUOTE=Retired Army]Other than that, I keep the knives away from her and don't live anywhere near ducks (let's see if anyone on the forum knows what that means).[/QUOTE]

I know exactly what that is.... in my banana republic country it's pigs... but I know the duck issues in Thai...

[QUOTE=Retired Army]Other than that, I keep the knives away from her and don't live anywhere near ducks (let's see if anyone on the forum knows what that means).[/QUOTE]

And you think that's going to stop her? if she really wants to do it she will, knives or not, ducks or not.

For all we know, she could be enticing you to a nice BJ and then get a stronger bite than you would have liked (teeth are pretty sharp).

[QUOTE=NicFrenchy]And you think that's going to stop her? if she really wants to do it she will, knives or not, ducks or not.

For all we know, she could be enticing you to a nice BJ and then get a stronger bite than you would have liked (teeth are pretty sharp).[/QUOTE]

Gee you're full of good thoughts today.....

A 32 y.o. Thai woman committed suicide in BKK last night because her husband wouldn't take her out to dinner.

A nation of over-reacting nutters...pure and simple...and the women lead the way.

OTH, was the husband a local, or a foreigner?

[QUOTE=Old Thai Hand]A 32 y.o. Thai woman committed suicide in BKK last night because her husband wouldn't take her out to dinner.[/QUOTE]

Don't believe everything you see on TV. For all we know, maybe the husband got rid of her because she forgot to buy his daily bottle of Local Whisky (or shall I say Rhum).