TO: Stroker Ace 88 . . . Thank You
[QUOTE=Stroker Ace88]It never fails. Guys who sit and lurk on the board always have this idea of how there trip, and in HM's case his life in the Philippines will play out even before they have stepped on a plane and onto one of the Philippine Islands. They have every small detail worked out, they ask a thousand questions and they feel like they know it all before they arrive. But HM you are only setting yourself up to fail. The trip you plan in your head will in no way go exactly according to your pre-conceived notions, and you will feel let down and frustrated with your first trip.
You think you know what the girls are like, you think you can understand the culture, you think you have all the information about all the best places, but you think too much. Yes reading and getting good information on the places you will visit is important, but one members experiences do not translate into your own. Again YMMV from that of other members. If you think I am being harsh I am not, only a realist. I have seen this happen to a number of new members in the past few years. They get all juiced up for there time in the Philippines only to return home upset and frustrated how the dream trip they had planned did not go well.
I experienced the same type of feeling on my first visit to the Philippines. I had my trip all thought out and planned. I would meet this girl from this day to this date, then I would go here and then there. It never worked out as I had planed, and such is life in the Philippines. I thought I knew alot before my first trip and it was only a small fraction. I tell you this to try to help you not to give you a hard time.
Get yourself on a plane and go see for yourself. Experience, taste, sample. explore and in your case HUG alot. Hope your time in the Philippines will be a good one and you will find what you are looking for.[/QUOTE]To: Stroker Ace,
Thanks for telling me these things and I know that you meant it in a helpful way. Maybe you have been there, and I have not, but please let me tell you this. I have lived very close to The Phils. And I dated several of them, lived with 4 of them and married one of them.
When I stated my "Plans", I am just saying what I will do, NOT saying what the girls MUST do. If the bar girls are not at all REASONABLE, I will just go to the Provinces and find a simple girl who is very kind to me, just like my second wife was. If that only lasts 5-6 years again, then it is Okay. We will both benefit from the relationship and move on to someone else. I am not an OGRE, I have enough money, and I think that I will do okay.
This forum has been kind and helpful to me, thank you.
something completely different - maybe not appropriate
Gentlemen,
I have a philippina chat mate in Cebu, and she has a fantasy about BBC.
If any brother in Cebu feels like playing naughty games, please get in touch with me and I'll make contact with her.
Thanks in advance,
F
WestCoast is my new buddy
[QUOTE=Westcoast1]HM, I see your point. If money is not an object for you, consider also hugging me (I have a Western Union account).
Cheers[/QUOTE]Hello WestCoast,
Thanks for the kind note.
You seem like a very nice person.
Greg London . . . Mr. Personality
[QUOTE=GregLondon]Lot's of generally sensible comments.
Stroker Ace is certainly right in that it's possible to overplan things and ultimately one has to come and see what works for you. That said obtaining advice on forums like that can massively improve your experience and help you avoid common pitfalls. But HM is certainly right in that we are all different and want different things. Talking to some of the girls that i know here reveals a huge range of things that turn guys on. From a guy who just takes the girls to the movies tucks a couple of girls into his second bed and gives them a kiss on the forehead before heading to the airport (leaving them 1500P each for zero sexual activities), to guys with extremely unusual (at least for a conservative kinda guy like me) behaviour and tastes.
Personally I've spent a total of about 10 minutes in bars during the last 6 months in the Phils. Whenever I've taken a peak, the girls have seemed as bored as hell, the shows not comparable to those in say Pattaya or Latin America and the prices steep.
I think in HM's position i would be looking to become "intimate friends" with say 4 or 5 girls, given his stated size, health and age issues, probably top end 18-23 year old childless slimsters are not realistic, but there are innumerable cuties maybe on the chubby side or single mums or somewhat older girls who will be happy to hang out, cuddle , get groped etc for a reliable place to sleep/take a nap/play on the internet/get some food/ get 100/200P allowance etc. I think such an experience will be far more "real" than bar girls calculating how much they can earn with LDs vs getting bar fined with other customers etc. Or maybe go to some of the "legit" massage places here (excellent value at about 100-200P per hour), start chatting to some of the massage girls if one takes your fancy and see if she's open to a private massage back at your place after/before hours. They are typically getting just 35P for an hour massage at the massage place (plus any tip you give her) so if you offer say 200P and explain you arent going to fuck her but like to cuddle etc etc, it could work very well for both parties.
If you try for this type of set up, the key is to eliminate jealousy as far as you can, just say you dont want to settle down, just have a few GFs and that its OK if they continue to look for other long term guys whilst with you etc. you will then find girls eager to hang out at your place, especially if u are smart enough to bring a second laptop/netbook). If girl's are having to not take calls/cant chat on the net , most conceal any other dates tehy are going on etc then they probably are going to just want to stay a short time with you as maintaining secrecy is too much hassle.[/QUOTE]Greg London,
I really want to Thank You for all of the advice. I hope it is as you say, where I can find Innumerable women, who my not be a 10, but who will enjoy hanging out and cuddling with me. That would be AWESOME! As long as the girl is SOFT and KIND, I will probably be happy with her.
GOOD idea Mr. London , how about this plan ???
[QUOTE=GregLondon]Lot's of generally sensible comments.
Stroker Ace is certainly right in that it's possible to overplan things and ultimately one has to come and see what works for you. That said obtaining advice on forums like that can massively improve your experience and help you avoid common pitfalls. But HM is certainly right in that we are all different and want different things. Talking to some of the girls that i know here reveals a huge range of things that turn guys on. From a guy who just takes the girls to the movies tucks a couple of girls into his second bed and gives them a kiss on the forehead before heading to the airport (leaving them 1500P each for zero sexual activities), to guys with extremely unusual (at least for a conservative kinda guy like me) behaviour and tastes.
Personally I've spent a total of about 10 minutes in bars during the last 6 months in the Phils. Whenever I've taken a peak, the girls have seemed as bored as hell, the shows not comparable to those in say Pattaya or Latin America and the prices steep.
I think in HM's position i would be looking to become "intimate friends" with say 4 or 5 girls, given his stated size, health and age issues, probably top end 18-23 year old childless slimsters are not realistic, but there are innumerable cuties maybe on the chubby side or single mums or somewhat older girls who will be happy to hang out, cuddle , get groped etc for a reliable place to sleep/take a nap/play on the internet/get some food/ get 100/200P allowance etc. I think such an experience will be far more "real" than bar girls calculating how much they can earn with LDs vs getting bar fined with other customers etc. Or maybe go to some of the "legit" massage places here (excellent value at about 100-200P per hour), start chatting to some of the massage girls if one takes your fancy and see if she's open to a private massage back at your place after/before hours. They are typically getting just 35P for an hour massage at the massage place (plus any tip you give her) so if you offer say 200P and explain you arent going to fuck her but like to cuddle etc etc, it could work very well for both parties.
If you try for this type of set up, the key is to eliminate jealousy as far as you can, just say you dont want to settle down, just have a few GFs and that its OK if they continue to look for other long term guys whilst with you etc. you will then find girls eager to hang out at your place, especially if u are smart enough to bring a second laptop/netbook). If girl's are having to not take calls/cant chat on the net , most conceal any other dates tehy are going on etc then they probably are going to just want to stay a short time with you as maintaining secrecy is too much hassle.[/QUOTE]Hello, Greg,
You mentioned that the 18-23 slimsters are probably out of reach for me, but I am still not really sure what you meant. Did you mean that those girls would not want a relationship with me, or did you mean that those girls would not want to do a barfine with me? Because if I found a really hot "Stunner", I could maybe pay a little extra for a Barfine, just for the 10-hour fantasy-ride, but then do as you said about getting a cute little "Chubby" lady for all of my cuddling. That kind of set-up would make me happy.
Thank you friend!
Too much pre-planning is probably a bad thing...
Hug Monster, I think you're worrying--and needlessly at that--far too much. You can read various opinions about the availability of various types of women, but the fact is you won't really be able to understand it until you get here.
I live in Davao, and I'm in a committed relationship so I don't get out alone very much anymore, which is fine with me. But I do notice guys representing a very broad range of physical appearance and age, with lovely, young, slim, pinays on their arms. In this country, it's more a question of the way you treat the ladies, your "niceness" factor, and, to use an old fashioned word, your gallantry, than it is about your looks.
Of course, money helps. These ladies--be they pros or non-pros--want a better life than they've been living, but almost any foreigner can offer that, whether or not he's considered rich by the standards of his own country. I'm well into my 60's, and even 30 years ago would not likely have been considered a "hunk." Yet I'm still hit on routinely by women in their twenties, and I'm hardly in the minority.
My advice is to relax, don't obsess over pre-arranging much of anything, give yourself a few weeks to learn the country, and enjoy yourself.
