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[QUOTE=TomThumbbs;2775306]Don't fool yourselves fellow esteemed board members. While all this mia this mia that is real, it is not a Win Win for all involved.
Be careful be discreet.
Think the official Wife. Who here wants to be her. No offense.[/QUOTE]If a tree falls in the woods and there's no one around to hear it, does it make a sound? Methinks not. As long as one understands about respect, about not causing a loss of face, no harm, no foul.
[QUOTE=Goatscrot;2775277]The point is your with someone who is your companion and that you get along well with. You enjoy each other's company, travel together, grow old together, and take care of each other. Sex fades no matter who you are with, and really is nothing to base a relationship on anyway. But a true bond grows. Asians have this figured out. Sex is like riding a roller coaster. You don't want to live at the amusement park.[/QUOTE]I have now reached 60 and the drive is slowly fading, I've realized I am entering a new phase of my life whereby fucking the next SYT is not a priority. I have found someone who I know will look after to me till the day I die, who will ALWAYS be there and who accepts me for who I am. There will come a day for most men when you realize companioship is more important than sex. Sex might bring short term excitement but companionship brings contentment.
NI.
[QUOTE=CaliGuy33;2775338]There's a lot of Thailand Youtubers (Western males) that are married or have serious live in girlfriends. Watching their channels here and there I don't get the impression that their wife / GF is good with them having a gik. I just don't think most women would go for this type if arrangement.[/QUOTE]You are probably right that most women would not go for this type of arrangement. However, in Thai culture it is more commonly accepted than you might imagine, and I'm not talking about the type of guys who would be posting Youtube videos from Pattaya or Sukhumvit. Of course this arrangement is dependent upon the man having the means to fund it. As 11 BRAVO says the key is to ensure respect for all concerned, treat them well, and ensure to not cause any loss of face.
[QUOTE=SiamMan;2775304]I think GOATSCROT has already answered your question perfectly, so not much more I can add, other than to say that irrespective of the quality, or not, of the sex-life there is so much more to a close relationship established over 20 years. In most cases after 20 years together the excitement of sex inevitably fades, but that on its own is no reason to question the "point of keeping her" as you put it. So if that excitement can be had by spending time with a beautiful, young and willing woman elsewhere that need not be seen as a threat to the primary relationship.[/QUOTE]And is your wife spending time with handsome, young and willing men elsewhere?
Hi guys!
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[QUOTE=Nyezhov;2775382]Why not, its fun.
I like being pathetic.[/QUOTE]I said it's considered pathetic. I'm not saying you are pathetic, but it seems like we should all be done with this when we are 60. LOL.
At least that's what our psychiatrist would be telling us.
I had 3 co-workers that I remember ended up doing the mail order bride thing because they were tired of being alone. None were mongers. One was 5'7 350 pounds and a virgin in his 40's, one was 6'7 350 and a great guy but girls just weren't into his type. The third guy was actually dating an older Asian chick at work and she cheated on him with another guy at work. He was so fed up he ordered an Asian bride. They were just tired of being alone and weren't into the hooker lifestyle that we are. Life is a sad lonely place.
[QUOTE=Xpartan;2775404]What a fantastic report and hilarious too. Thanks![/QUOTE]Why didn't you ask her name and then verify.
[QUOTE=Mogwai;2775534]And is your wife spending time with handsome, young and willing men elsewhere?[/QUOTE]As long as it doesn't effect the relationship, I don't see a problem.
[QUOTE=NewImage;2775481]I have now reached 60 and the drive is slowly fading, I've realized I am entering a new phase of my life whereby fucking the next SYT is not a priority. I have found someone who I know will look after to me till the day I die, who will ALWAYS be there and who accepts me for who I am. There will come a day for most men when you realize companioship is more important than sex. Sex might bring short term excitement but companionship brings contentment.
NI.[/QUOTE]Agree totally.
I found that with a Thai SYT a few years ago now.
We are still together, with the companionship and the sex equally amazing.
I know I will never leave her, as the companionship is the key.
And more importantly she know, and now believes that to be true.
Best of all, I am still fucking SYT's when I want too.
And I am well past your just reached 60, well up the other end of that decade to be precise.
[QUOTE=Goatscrot;2775277]The point is your with someone who is your companion and that you get along well with. You enjoy each other's company, travel together, grow old together, and take care of each other. Sex fades no matter who you are with, and really is nothing to base a relationship on anyway. But a true bond grows. Asians have this figured out. Sex is like riding a roller coaster. You don't want to live at the amusement park.[/QUOTE]Also agree with yur view Goatscroat.
I will just add that ageism, and jobism biases should be disregarded too.
You can find that forever companion from pretty much anywhere in Thailand.
Thai's have truly figured this out and are very accepting of it.
My companion and I share a business, a shared passion of scuba diving.
A career now for her, and a twilight years second career working opportunity for me for a while.
We are already growing older (her), and younger (me) together.
Sex, and very good sex is still for now a strong enjoyable bond between us.
And will likely remain so for as long as I am able.
Many on here will now "poo poo" the next bit as it doesn't fit their agenda (biases) of Thai women.
So be it, I'm not on here to fix, fight or feud with them about their divergent to mine views.
I will just say there are good Thai women everywhere, like there are in every country.
If you seek them, you will if your are lucky, and worthy, find them.
For the record.
My companion is 40 years younger than me.
And I met her when she was just a starting out bargirl recently arrived from Isaan.
Those things do not define her.
What she has done with her life, growing with me, and yes helped by me, to transform herself do.
Today she is an accomplished professional with a career and business.
That is what defines her.
[QUOTE=Mogwai;2775534]And is your wife spending time with handsome, young and willing men elsewhere?[/QUOTE]I have known a few men with mistress and only in this situation, but I don't mean this is the only situation. The man is always a wealthy business owner. The mistress is always much younger and hotter than the wife. The mistress is always with the man in social gathering, like dinner, or in KTV mongering. The mistress is like a wingman or personal hostess so to speak. These men always praise their wife publicly and in front of the mistress. The man always has several children with the wife and the wife takes care of kids at home. Strangely, these men are being teased occasionally as afraid of their wife so there is a different dynamic going on and I can see there is a hierarchy. You can also read about children of the wives of some Asian billionaires fighting for inheritance and control in court when they died and they usually have more than 2 wives.
I have asked why they don't monger in Thailand. The reply was they already have endless options where they live, why bother, they only come to Thailand to play golf or sightseeing. When we meet for dinner, they will order one or two hostesses for me from time to time, and I can pick one to go with me afterward, all paid by them.
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[QUOTE=NewImage;2775481]I have now reached 60 and the drive is slowly fading, I've realized I am entering a new phase of my life whereby fucking the next SYT is not a priority. I have found someone who I know will look after to me till the day I die, who will ALWAYS be there and who accepts me for who I am. There will come a day for most men when you realize companioship is more important than sex. Sex might bring short term excitement but companionship brings contentment.
NI.[/QUOTE]I'm starting to feel this at 40. Mongering is slowly losing its charm for me. I still enjoy it but don't have the drive or obtain the high that I used to. I've only done ST as a monger, never LT, not even an overnight. Maybe I need to start getting into LT to obtain more satisfaction.
It's been a few years since I was able to go to Crazy House due to covid and just not being in thailand. It was my favorite place in Bangkok because of the large number of spinners and decent service. I'm wondering what it's like these days. Is it still good?
Also, I will be in town for a conference and I'm a bit concerned about running into someone in a club. I would prefer my exploits be anonymous. Do any places, other than outcall escorts, allow back door entry and picking a girl in private? I'm specifically wondering about crazy house. I'd pay extra to get the privacy and then the girl could meet me at my hotel. I'm wondering if a mamasan could set that up or if there's a way to request it.