[QUOTE=Linyjo;2317763]When I was in my 30's I had a similar experience with a girl from Costa Rica. Fell hard for her, sent her $100 every couple of months in between trips to see her. Almost through away what is now a 23+ year marriage thinking I had to follow my heart. Once it became clear the love level match exactly to the cash flow level, I learned my lesson.
Keep trying to save the friend in California, it's our duty as mongers to keep trying to make them see the light. Yes, you will probably fail and he won't get it until he sees it for himself when it is too late but it is a lesson we all must learn on our own. As humans, it is hard not to fall into the trap. A hot chica that treats you so well and gives you the best sex of your life, how could you not fall in love at some point when you are playing with a girl who looks above your pay grade. The fantasy becomes reality and that is exactly what they play to, the fantasy.
My approach these days is to play to their fantasies too. We are both using the other for what we want. She wants a boyfriend who comes around a few times a year and goes away but continues to pay the bill. I want a hot girl who acts like she is in love, because I think the sex is much better this way once the rapport is built up.
I don't send money anymore, never will ever again. I did it with the one girl and learned my lesson. I don't care that her grandmother that died twice last year needs surgery this year. I don't care if her kids need money for school or she is short of her university payment this term. I know it's all bullshit and if it is not, well I give enough to charity at home anyway. I would rather send the money to the animal shelter and save some cats and dogs.
They are just girls and I give them what they want when I am with them. They want to be loved, respected and treated like a good girl. Show them a little compassion and treat them like a girlfriend and they give back 100 X more. I just cringe when I read the reports about how the guys treat the girls sometimes. They treat them like shit and then complain about the level of service. They insinuate that mongers are making up stories when they get a girl to vacation for a week for free or when the girl comes by for the night for a booty call without expecting any more than breakfast and a good fuck. They think it's not real because they never treated a girl like a girl so they never had a girl treat them back.
Tough call with your "paisa chica", I hate when it happens. I also know the feeling you had, the disappointment that she flips on you. Been there, done that. The beauty is that the feeling does not last long because you just delete from the list and call up the next one that is waiting for you to call. It's fun to be "in love" with the girl you have sex with, as long as you remember it is just for fun and not reality. Live the dream. You do you.[/QUOTE]Totally agree, your like "my brother from another mother" as we have experienced the same things in life.
The Tall Man.
