We are debating Apples and Oranges here...
First, we DO NOT disagree with respect to having a proper strategy for mongering. Certainly, if they are competing for your attention, competing for your business, then their motivation is not an emotional psychological attachment, but a financial one. I understand your strategy with them, and agree with it completely.
Amigomio says, "Let me say that in theory USB is right, in practice I keep saying that he is totally wrong. His style of getting to girls is the opposite a monger should use looking for a short term-long term relationship, friendship, etc."
I have been with my GF now, steadily, for almost two years. I don't think I am doing anything wrong with her. And, I have several other girls that will go with me free, girls that I have known several years, a few that are relatively new, and girls that want to be there long-time. I don't frequently see them, but they are there, and I have practiced my brand of strategy on them over time.
When I have made mistakes with my GF in the past, slipping back to my old strategies in my interactions with her, it has truly jeopardized what we have together. So, I am doing everything right with her to get what I know is possible within the definition of a hybrid GFE. A hybrid GFE is not really mongering. It is having a legitimate GF. I am not mongering with my GF. That is the distinction.
I try to turn girls that have one kind of motivation, primarily financial, into girls that will yield an altogether different kind of experience, with a minimal financial motivation to their behavior. I get less diversity of action as a result, but I also get a different experience too. For that reason, I am relatively faithful to one girl at this juncture because I don't want my behavior to jeopardize what I like experiencing with her on salida, and because I have legitimately developed feelings for her as well. Were I to conduct myself differently with her, it would ruin the dynamic between us. I can not have it both ways.
I look for a girl to spend hours with me, do all kinds of activities, a girl that actually wants to be there because we are close...a real "relationship," all-be-it one that is most definitely not conventional sociologically, but one that does have a deeper meaning than what you generally find mongering.
I have found that in one girl, and I enjoy my time with her sincerely. But, at the same time, I give up the mongering kind of experience because mongering and maintaining the environment for that relationship do not mix. If I monger, it has to been done with an eye to what might decline with her were I to be caught by her mongering openly.
But, with respect to the comments about a middle aged male not being able to attract and keep a young girl half his age. It is definitely doable, and it is doable with minimal expenditures of money compared to the normal cost of mongering per se. The investment is made up front, just as in mongering normally. But, later, once the relationship is established, the cost is minimal. I have achieved it. That's why I find the comments of na-sayers to be wrong. I have personally been there and done that as a middle aged male.
Look at the girls at the Prestige with me on my last trip. They were competing for my attention. It was great for what I want from them within the club, but it will not yield for me what I truly enjoy on salida, not if I maintain that same kind of attitude with them individually. They were strictly competing from my money in the club. There is no emotional attachment. I enjoyed my time with them in the club, but I have little expectation for anything that even remotely approaches hybrid GFE like I get from my GF on salida. I am making some progress with one of them, the other I just met. We will see. I am starting out using your methods, and they work quite well for me initially. They give me exactly what I enjoy in the club, and they break the ice. But, if I employ those same methods to take the scenario further, I will not be successful. Your initial strategies work quite well. But, if you seek what I seek, you have to change over to the USB strategy at some point to bring the scenario along further. But, as we all know, you are not looking for my kind of scenario. It would be detrimental to your circumstances living in Monterrey. For me, it is an altogether different set of circumstances, and I thrive on my hybrid GFE.
I am nice to some that I work on for salida, and I am different to others of them that are strictly for fun and games, sometimes taking them on salida, sometimes having fun with them only within the club. But, the reality is, generally, I am with my GF. Frankly, she gives me so much sex and attention, that I do not really care one way or the other whether I even touch another girl. I am totally and completely satiated by her. Frankly, I believe she believes that if she wears me out, I will be a good boy. She is smart. She stays with me long time, wears me out, and we are both happy.
What I get from my GF is totally different than what I get mongering. There is a huge distinction. I am merely pointing out that we CAN employ methods that will transcend that initial financial motivation in them. It just depends what you are looking for. In my case, I am looking for a different kind of experience. I have that experience now, and I merely look for other opportunities for a future time when things may change between my GF and me.
But, of course, I also have girls that are strictly for fun. With those girls, I do not make the same kind of effort, use the same kinds of strategies, etc...With girls that are strictly for fun and games, I totally agree with you and your strategies. You don't witness me using those strategies now because I have developed a preference where those kinds of strategies do not serve my ultimate purpose, which is to maintain my best hybrid GFE of all time with a really HOT, very sexy, very loving, very attached, very sweet, totally legitimate GF. However, in saying that, I also realize that things can change. So, I am keeping my eyes open, and watching for other candidates. But, honestly, I do not have the energy to maintain more than one hybrid GFE. It takes all I have to maintain that scenario. To take on more than one would almost literally kill me, and rub me raw.
[QUOTE=Amigomio]Let me say that in theory USB is right, in practice I kee saying that he is totally wrong.
His style of getting to girls is the opposite a monger should use looking for a short term-long term relationship/friendship/etc.
I have complained many times to USB that he is TOO DAMN FRIENDLY to the girls, when you have to be TOO DAMN MEAN with the girls.
Iam extremely rough with them, incredibly rough.
The girls give me their phone numbers (I have tons of them) and of course they expect me to call them. When I don't they ask me later "why didn't you call?" and I answer "why should I... it's a waste of time"
When they ask me "where were you" I answer "at Infinito screwing other girls"...
They totally hate this...
BRB.... this post is not finished.[/QUOTE]
Clarification to Amigomio's Misleading Statements :-)))
amigomio said, "thinking that the girls are competing for his attention. they are competing, but for money."
the girls in the prestige are competing for me as a client. that, i fully acknowledge. but, i also tell you this...and mark my words, the "n" girl is a candidate for hybrid gfe. that girl has all the signs. she is marked, and she already knows it. she is fighting me, but she will eventually give in. wanna bet? and, fair is fair, you can not intervene to make my chances with her lesser if we bet here, openly in the forum. i will bet you a whole, air tight, locking seal box of cookies that she will some day be in the same category as cindy #1, angry girl, and my gf, provided i am stupid enough to risk it concerning my gf, which i am not at this juncture.
and, with respect to lowering one's guard, there should be some kind of bench mark to measure when one's guard has been lowered, and one has been vicitimized or taken advantage of, right?
i remind you that my bar tab was about 25% less than wasted's bar tab. lets see, mine was 1350 pesos for all afternoon with two girls, having a total and complete blast, being almost literally raped by them. you saw it! but, i venture to speculate, i had 75% more fun than you two guys put together. there now, that should also bring wasted out of hiding. :-)))
amigomio further postulates...
"#1 let me correct you: you've had an on and off relationship with your gf, not a steady one cause you don't live here. let me add it is a good one. yes, everything usb posts is true when she meets her. yes, they do all off work activity he mentions."
finally, you are accurate carlos. my gf and me have a really good thing going, a legitimate love affair. she understands and appreciates what we have together. it is much easier to make her understand me than to try and explain it to some guys on the board. she so easily gets it because she is a female. i understand her desires, and i deliver on them. that actually has little to do with sex, but more to do with emotion. the sexual part is her department, and she delivers. the emotional part is up to me. were it not for her, or ones like her, i would not probably return nearly as often, with the exception of visiting mis amigos of course. i do miss you guys too 'ya know.
amigomio further postulates...
"#2 your gf is far far far superior to cindy #1 which you stubbornly are trying to contact again. cindy #1 will ruin your relationship with your current gf.
let me get biblical: please don't sell your first-born for a plate of lentile."
one of cindy's first questions to me was to ask about the status of my gf. so, i agree with you completely. i must be very careful. i will not compromise my relationship with my gf, of that you can be totally certain. and, even more curious, i got the distinct feeling that cindy #1 would like to occupy the position of my gf, if not for legitimate reasons, or old times sake, then for monetary gain. but, don't worry, she could never, ever come even within a million miles of my gfe with my gf.
"let me be sincere on this. you have no lasting brand of strategy."
wouldn't you call a three year love affair with my gf lasting? wouldn't you call my angry girl asking for me by name for two years after we broke up, lasting? wouldn't you call cindy #1 going with me year after year, seeking my out, asking you directly in casino as to my whereabouts, lasting? i call it lasting. but, i agree that my fun is not nearly as diversified as what you and wasted enjoy. but, again, i don't seek your kind of fun.
"girls ask only for "the guy with the cookies"... they don't even remember your name."
i never tell them my name...remember, i don't ask for them, they seek me out. remember, if i want to make an impression, i will apply myself. if they don't know my name, it's because i couldn't care less if they do or don't know my name. i am not interested in them, period.
"angry girl used to ask for you by name ("used" as in i haven't seen her in a long time)."
yes, i am worried...i have been looking for her for the last three trips. nada.
and, one final comment...isn't this banter back and forth more fun than nothing, week after week after week after week....si?