Thai Women - Opinions & Advice

[QUOTE=Dan7373]... I've learned my lesson. And ever since then the only Thai ladies I went out with were those who worked at some establishment, such as a bar, a go-go club, or a massage parlor...

... When you meet a lady at an establishment where she works. Then you know where to go and where to complain, if the lady does something bad with you. The lady knows this too. And she has a good reason to be on her best behavior with you.[/QUOTE]

If you do what I suggested several times (for instance, here: [post]1002906[/post]), you should not have any problem either (never had a single one in more than eleven years of mongering in Thailand), even with freelancers.

My rule is simple when I'm with an FL/SW. If the drink leaves my sight, I order a new one. Not that expensive, I take my toilet breaks between drinks and I never let anyone order drinks for me. Never had anything happen to me so far. Sure there's always a first time, but it pays to make yourself a difficult target.

Maybe I'm Mr. Vanilla and just don't know it.

Sitting in the biergarten, slight commotion couple chairs down. Had overheard a young punter assessing the potential of a girl across the bar, saying that as she was not rail thin, he'd play on her insecurities during contract negotiations (which assumes an English comprehension level that may, or may not, be there). Retreated to a table where he could conduct the job interview in private. Seems that negotiations failed, as 30 minutes later, she was back at her bar seat. He had started to interview another candidate when both parties exited the area, and not in a good way (think management/union).

He was complaining to some friends about how Thai women were so bossy, controlling (huh?), and then she started going off on him, along the lines of "You think you can touch me because you such hansum man" ... Though I do think hers was partially fueled by some artificial stimulants, the way she was bouncing around earlier.

I don't know, maybe I've just led a sheltered life, but, to me, just business... If the contract negotiations fail, well, always more potential candidates around. No reason to get upset. And bossy? Maybe I've just never been able to break through their pleasing facade...

[QUOTE=Finrod]My rule is simple when I'm with an FL/SW. If the drink leaves my sight, I order a new one. Not that expensive, I take my toilet breaks between drinks and I never let anyone order drinks for me. Never had anything happen to me so far. Sure there's always a first time, but it pays to make yourself a difficult target.[/QUOTE]

Very well said! It always pays to be careful. Never give a stranger the opportunity to take advantage. But then again... she has your dick in her mouth at one point of the night so she could jolly well go for a big Bite that you might regret your whole life

[QUOTE=NicFrenchy]she has your dick in her mouth at one point of the night so she could jolly well go for a big Bite that you might regret your whole life[/QUOTE]Well, that's a thought that will keep me awake tonight... :)

Caan somebody tell me what Ham Kang means?

TIA

[QUOTE=Tro Pro]Caan somebody tell me what Ham Kang means?

TIA[/QUOTE]

Not sure with your transliteration (it's more likely "ham kaeng", I guess), but if it's what I think (หำแข็ง, in Thai script), that means "hard balls" (testicles).

[QUOTE=Finrod]My rule is simple when I'm with an FL/SW. If the drink leaves my sight, I order a new one. Not that expensive, I take my toilet breaks between drinks and I never let anyone order drinks for me. Never had anything happen to me so far. Sure there's always a first time, but it pays to make yourself a difficult target.[/QUOTE]That is true about the FL's. Had one doing tequila shots with her, back at the hotel, and I catch her taking bathroom breaks to puke them up while she was trying to get me drunk enough and passed out. Nice try on her part. Don't ever turn your back on one, no matter where you find her.

[QUOTE=Goyave]Not sure with your transliteration (it's more likely "ham kaeng", I guess), but if it's what I think (หำแข็ง, in Thai script), that means "hard balls" (testicles).[/QUOTE]I thought it meant 'Erection.' Ham = Dick and Kaeng = Hard.

Did I get it wrong again? Does 'hard balls' mean erection in ISG slang?

[QUOTE=Saint Mint]I thought it meant 'Erection.' Ham = Dick and Kaeng = Hard...[/QUOTE]

You're right on this one. I know another expression where "หํา" (ham -> dick) is used instead of "ไข่หํา" (khay ham -> testicles), but here, it's more likely "strong dick" than "hard balls", indeed. In my limited knowledge of Thai slang, "ควย" (khwuai) is more often used for speaking about the penis (cock, dick, etc.).

Not doing much of the p4p scene these days, but have a serious thai gf and been living with her for about a year. She has a large peacock tattoo on her back, and one of a chain on her belly. I read somewhere that almost all thai women who have tattoos are p4p. Is that true?

She is ultra-secretive and even has a second FB page that I am nowhere on, but I have doubts that she is a pro, just because she doesn't seem like the type. Meaning, she would be the worst hooker ever. I do suspect she is cheating on me, and I live in korea, so difficult for me to find out for sure. Any advice on how to find out about cheating Thai gfs?

[QUOTE=Martinbluther69]Not doing much of the p4p scene these days, but have a serious thai gf and been living with her for about a year. She has a large peacock tattoo on her back, and one of a chain on her belly. I read somewhere that almost all thai women who have tattoos are p4p. Is that true?

She is ultra-secretive and even has a second FB page that I am nowhere on, but I have doubts that she is a pro, just because she doesn't seem like the type. Meaning, she would be the worst hooker ever. I do suspect she is cheating on me, and I live in korea, so difficult for me to find out for sure. Any advice on how to find out about cheating Thai gfs?[/QUOTE]There seem to be a contradiction with your remarks " been living with her for about a year" "and I live in Korea" where are you living and where is she living? Use some common sense here and think how you met her and where you met her? Generally, in my opinion a person with Tattoos weren't born yesterday and have a little adverture in them. Not a P4P you would know better than anyone. But being secretive in any person any country is just basically dishonest and your a second FB account?

[QUOTE=Martinbluther69]I do suspect she is cheating on me, and I live in korea, so difficult for me to find out for sure. Any advice on how to find out about cheating Thai gfs?[/QUOTE]

Simple, I have in my limited experience here slept with many thai girls "Sponsored" by idiot farangs sending money to LOS and not even living there.

Give out her details and surely someone will be able to tell you if she is open for a relationship or not.

As for the tatoo, forget it, I have a lot of my staff who have tatoos, it is trendy and inno way means they are hookers. The person who told you that is an idiot.

[QUOTE=NicFrenchy]Simple, I have in my limited experience here slept with many thai girls "Sponsored" by idiot farangs sending money to LOS and not even living there.

Give out her details and surely someone will be able to tell you if she is open for a relationship or not.

As for the tatoo, forget it, I have a lot of my staff who have tatoos, it is trendy and inno way means they are hookers. The person who told you that is an idiot.[/QUOTE]Cool. I am keenly aware of the situation, I. E. Idiot farangs, and I appreciate your reply. Thanks. I wondered about the tattoo thing. What do you mean when you say give out her details? Email, etc? Or just find a farang friend who can contact her and see if she is on the up-and-up?

[quote=martinbluther69] I do suspect she is cheating on me, and I live in korea, so difficult for me to find out for sure. Any advice on how to find out about cheating thai gfs?[/QUOTE]I had a thai gf and also suspected she was cheating. I was away from her for a long time (about 6 months) and strongly told her. "okay. I know what you've been doing. I hired a person to watch you and I know you were in a restaurant. Then a hotel with someone. "

I was saying total bullshit! I had no idea!

She said. 'what are you talking about? " I said. "you know what I am talking about. Either tell me or we are finished! "

This was a total guess on my part but cheaper than actually hiring a detective. Well she confessed to one thing. Then another. Then I got a complete story. (or maybe I didn't but I knew she had cheated).

This may work for you or maybe it won't. I did a total bluff and it worked.

Now the other side of the story. I was away from her for 7 months. I said I would come back soon and I didn't. She probably thought I was bullshitting her. Obviously many farangs do. So she was not at total fault. She sent me postcards, emails, and letters almost daily. She shipped me candy and I didn't send her a dime except for a $50. 00 birthday gift yet she still kept in close correspondence. Many emails included pictures and special signs with my name.

So who is wrong? I pose this question for all? She had seen 2 other men over an 7 or 8 month period. I think I have to take some fault. We cannot expect these women to be loyal and wait for us. Especially if we do not help them financlailly. Which I did not! I only gave promises!

I was very pissed off at her but I also found out she did not introduce the other men to her family. She had shown me to all including her children and close friends.

So again, I pose the question. Who is wrong or is anyone wrong? Was I a dick? Yes sometimes I think so. We have to look closely at both sides and particularly the differences in cultures!

Other opinions welcome!