Seeking Arrangement- SA- in India

[Phil50]

She isn't particularly lucky. That is the allowance women of a certain caliber command and receive across Indian cities as a matter of routine.

Many ultra affluent men (very few of whom have the time for a forum such as this) place incalculable value on a woman being genuinely sophisticated, well educated and with excellent conversational (English language) skills.

Unwinding at leisure with a woman like that, and not merely boinking a dolled up 2-shots imbecilic shrew half their own age, is to them the biggest flex (and one they will generously spring for, no questions asked).

Comes down to what a man values, and what he can realistically afford.

We may not like it one bit, but despite our braggadocio and bitter rants on forums such as this one, it is very much a seller's market.

I would agree with FunforSandy. These cases are an exception.

The women you describe are exactly the kind I have platonic dates with. For 6 k.

One of them, who I met when she turned 18, could communicate better than I did. Wrote poetry and newspaper columns in 2 languages. She runs a consulting firm abroad while still in her 20's and can interact with cabinet ministers, or CEOs.
Another had a net worth higher than mine and a knowledge of western cities, art, culture, fine dining etc way higher than mine.
Both were far better looking than the average person on SA who asks 20 k.
I'm single. If I want someone who can understand me like a spouse, I have a travel partner in her 40's (in better shape than SA girls half her age) who does not even expect compensation for a platonic date. It is these kind of finds that had made SA attractive, but like I've been saying, finding such gems is rare.

In case you're wondering, I'm over 50, shorter than average, out of shape and don't throw money around. Women don't sleep with me just because they like me, or I might be able to help them in some non monetary way. Some on this forum have scored with women who have said no to me.

My current girl in her 20's runs her own startup, looks like Aishwarya Rai and comes from a similar background as I do. She takes 6k if our date is platonic.

That said, I was curious if it was a buyer's or sellers market, so my SBs shared their inbox. I also had a female profile made and ran the numbers.
The ratio of women to men has been improving in favor of men in the last 3-4 years, after you ignore the fake and inactive profiles.
That's why rates have not increased much: From 15 to 20 k over a 8 year period, which is less than inflation.

Women I know on SA, who might tick all the boxes, have got no offer for non sexual meets (even if sex is implied at a later stage) with a compensation exceeding 8 k.
This is a sample of a few hundred men over a couple of years. Of course there are exceptions, but we can't base strategy on exceptions.

[Mallu Macha]

No, it's not the rule, simply because women of that caliber (smart + pleasant + sophisticated + sexy + attractive) themselves are rare and therefore exceptional and prized (in turn, by a certain caliber of men, and not by all).

These are the men who routinely splash out 20 odd triple zeroes merely for meet & greets over dinner or drinks and take things forward (or not) thereon.

The 1% upper echelon chicas (not just well made up, but also truly well read and well spoken), hold out for these upper echelon SDs, and are savvy enough to quickly recognise and block the remainder, without as much as a backward glance.

The rest of us tend to get the dregs, as enough reports here testify.

I would sincerely love to be proven wrong, but with verifiable evidence and an actual contact, and not wishful stories of gorgeous 20 year old vixens who shagged you for free, just because they found your "maturity", "wisdom" and "experience" irresistibly alluring, and are very conveniently "no longer on Seeking" or “don't want to meet anyone new”.

OK. I didn't realise that it's common, in my mind it was an exception and not a rule. I stand corrected. And yes I totally understand that it's a seller's market and hence I said we are the pitiable lot.

In my brief period with SA I came across two such women. Who are smart, very articulate, well read and well informed and who can hold a nuanced conversation on a variety of topics. Thankfully for me they didn't ask for such allowance.

Cheers.

[WaterBoy747]

This is definitely not made up.

My long term SB here in Bangalore has met and been wooed by this or perhaps another gent with a similar modus operandi. He's not in finance, but a 50 something tech VP in a sexless marriage with self esteem issues and zero confidence around women.

He routinely pays the lady 50 k per ST rendezvous for naked conversation (she's beautiful, bright and engaging) and poetry.

And here we are quibbling ad nauseam about "spoiling the market" with our 15's and 20's.

I don't understand. Don't these women want to get fucked and enjoy sex as well? I know most of them do it ONLY for the money but I have seen plenty of women enjoy themselves being pleasured.

[FunToosh6045]

So I met one lady through seeking few months back. She is 28 and we are not into any sugar relationship but just that we meet for sex and enjoy each others company at ppm. So she told me from begining that she is looking for a 40 plus unmarried or divorced sd and reason is simple. She does not want to be labelled as home wrecker or any past baggage. She is purely into this for raising some capital in 6 or 7 months and start a cafe. So she wants a relatively older guy. She eventually met one but then he ghosted her. So she called him and did all sort of crazy things like calling and texting from other simcard and other stuff and got response from a lady that guy is hospitalised and its been 2 months.

She told me that seeking is full of useless chaps. Half of the guys are fake and then there are lot of pimps who tell them to join them to get steady clients. A few more will plan a social meeting but on the day they will cancel saying weird reasons. Some times after reaching the place and waiting long time gets response like "I was just checking if you are real so next time lets meet". Some guys catfish girls with other dudes pic.

So when a potential true sb find a genuine contact they chase and try to make that certain. Because as phil said they can gain a lot if get into a genuine sugarlife I. E in lacs or mentorship, connections.

[FunForSandy]

She isn't particularly lucky. That is the allowance women of a certain caliber command and receive across Indian cities as a matter of routine.

Many ultra affluent men (very few of whom have the time for a forum such as this) place incalculable value on a woman being genuinely sophisticated, well educated and with excellent conversational (English language) skills.

Unwinding with a woman like that, and not merely boinking a dolled up 2-shots imbecile shrew half their own age, is to them the biggest flex (and one they will generously spring for, no questions asked).

Comes down to what a man values, and what he can realistically afford.

We may not like it one bit, but despite our braggadocio and bitter rants on forums such as this one, it is very much a seller's market.

OK. I didn't realise that it's common, in my mind it was an exception and not a rule. I stand corrected. And yes I totally understand that it's a seller's market and hence I said we are the pitiable lot.

In my brief period with SA I came across two such women. Who are smart, very articulate, well read and well informed and who can hold a nuanced conversation on a variety of topics. Thankfully for me they didn't ask for such allowance.

Cheers.

[Mallu Macha]

Wow your SB is lucky 😂. Such generous allowance for just conversing.

And you are right, we are the lot to be pitied at with our 15-20 k. 🫣.

She isn't particularly lucky. That is the allowance women of a certain caliber command and receive across Indian cities as a matter of routine.

Many ultra affluent men (very few of whom have the time for a forum such as this) place incalculable value on a woman being genuinely sophisticated, well educated and with excellent conversational (English language) skills.

Unwinding at leisure with a woman like that, and not merely boinking a dolled up 2-shots imbecilic shrew half their own age, is to them the biggest flex (and one they will generously spring for, no questions asked).

Comes down to what a man values, and what he can realistically afford.

We may not like it one bit, but despite our braggadocio and bitter rants on forums such as this one, it is very much a seller's market.

[FunForSandy]

This is definitely not made up.

My long term SB here in Bangalore has met and been wooed by this or perhaps another gent with a similar modus operandi. He's not in finance, but a 50 something tech VP in a sexless marriage with self esteem issues and zero confidence around women.

He routinely pays the lady 50 k per ST rendezvous for naked conversation (she's beautiful, bright and engaging) and poetry.

And here we are quibbling ad nauseam about "spoiling the market" with our 15's and 20's.

Wow your SB is lucky 😂. Such generous allowance for just conversing.

And you are right, we are the lot to be pitied at with our 15-20 k. 🫣.

[FunForSandy]

Yup. This is pretty common. Lonliness amongst men is really an epidemic.

I would say loneliness is an epidemic across genders. The changing social and workplace structures and advent of mobile have brought it. What surprises me is that such men don't want sex when it's available.

[BeStill]

This is definitely not made up.

My long term SB here in Bangalore has met and been wooed by this or perhaps another gent with a similar modus operandi. He's not in finance, but a 50 something tech VP in a sexless marriage with self esteem issues and zero confidence around women.

He routinely pays the lady 50 k per ST rendezvous for naked conversation (she's beautiful, bright and engaging) and poetry.

And here we are quibbling ad nauseam about "spoiling the market" with our 15's and 20's.

Yup. This is pretty common. Lonliness amongst men is really an epidemic.

[ScubaDo]

Anyone been in touch with her? Used to be in Delhi, now moved to BLR.

I am blocked now so I can't see the profile but it used to have a bikini babe who I now realise is from Insta.

Sweet talker but I want to find out if she's genuine, just out of curiosity. I doubt I'll meet her as I have some doubts but wondering if I'm wrong.

[DesiGuy3]

Kolkatta is best in my opinion.

So Delhi also sucks. I thought Mumbai and Delhi would be better than Bangalore.

Any opinions about which city is best for seeking in India.

[Mallu Macha]

This is definitely not made up.

My long term SB here in Bangalore has met and been wooed by this or perhaps another gent with a similar modus operandi. He's not in finance, but a 50 something tech VP in a sexless marriage with self esteem issues and zero confidence around women.

He routinely pays the lady 50 k per ST rendezvous for naked conversation (she's beautiful, bright and engaging) and poetry.

And here we are quibbling ad nauseam about "spoiling the market" with our 15's and 20's.

After a failed Monday night, I had messaged my British MILF to come have breakfast with me.

She arrived nice and early at about 8:00 am. My flight wasn't till 6:00 pm so we took our time slow.

Ordered room service. Ran the bath and really enjoyed each other's company. We finally took a breather at about noon and were just lying in bed taking a breather when I asked her about her seeking experiences. Something I tend not to ask too much.

She was very honest and told me she had another regular SD who gave her 60 K a month to just come and hang out with him. So the guy is in his mid 30's a high flying finance wizz kid with serious social issues.

He gives her the money to just come over, lay in his arms as he reads poetry to her. That's it. I thought it was a joke initially, until she showed me their chats. He not only likes to read it to her, he also writes and shares poetry with her.

Most of her other SD experiences have been duds mainly because of the way guys behave. There are many "businessmen" and politicians. Think typical Babu types. For whom throwing 1 L on a "white" girl is no problem. She rejects them because they tend to be crass and quite vulgar. But then there are many many rich well groomed guys who are more than willing to throw 50 K+ for a meeting. A lot of them are stuck in shitty marriages and just get desperate for some good action in India.

And there lies the crux of the issue. In India, the whole scene is skewed. In other Asian, African, western countries there has been very little taboo about sex. So casual hook ups etc have been common for decades now. Indians are only just experiencing this and that is only among the younger generations. So we have a huge population of 30+ year old men who are successful and haven't experience dating or casual sex.

Another observation I had personally, was that Indian "SBs" (and I use this term loosely) tend to exaggerate their lifestyle and accomplishments. It appears to be a uniquely Indian problem. The SBs I have met in Europe, Asia and South Africa tend to be very honest about their situation.

Happy hunting everyone. It appears the India scene is going from bad to worse.

[Phil50]

Tinder and Gleeden cost less, but, if you are over 40, at best you will get a couple of contacts of WGs. You can try it out as I have, without much to lose except time.
If you are looking for a working girl, the cost per contact is best on SA.

If your mongering budget is upwards of 5 lac p.a, a month's membership on SA, with discount, costs under 2% of your annual spend. Consider it brokerage.
Assume you will lose upto 10% of your money either on outright scams, or errors of judgement (e. G. You went ahead with the date though she was not like the pic).

Even when you are not looking for WG's, you will get a min of 100 TG contacts in either Del / Mumbai / Bangalore in a month's membership. Eliminating scammers, people who ghost, unattractive
girls or GPS, there will be at least a dozen prospects, which should be enough to get by for the year. If in the process of shortlisting, you have a few pleasant meets over coffee without paying, that covers the membership fee.

If however, you are looking for what we imagine the ideal SB to be, that is increasingly rare to find, to a point where SA is becoming a waste of time.

There are just 3 cities in India where IMO, there is a good choice on SA. Delhi / NCR, Mumbai and Bangalore.

[FunForSandy]

How do you guys do it? Is wading through dozens of fake profiles / pimps / scams to find a single gem so rewarding?

There are hardly ten verified profiles on SA in Delhi and none of them are to my liking. I've started talking to some of the unverified ones and most seem to be either out for a quick scam or pimps. I might change my tone if I find the perfect SB but for now, I don't think SA is worth it.

So Delhi also sucks. I thought Mumbai and Delhi would be better than Bangalore.

Any opinions about which city is best for seeking in India.

[FunForSandy]

For starters. Its a nice distraction to have a SA membership and juggling / chatting with so many girls trying to find a nice one. I think a lot of guys take this very seriously and wind up getting stressed about it. Just enjoy it. SA is like Tom & Jerry. Both sides trying to up each other.

You are likely to blow up about a lakh the month you have a membership. If you take this much money seriously, then you are bound to get stressed out. If you can throw it and forget about it, I would sanction such a budget.

Unfortunately there is nothing better for the 40+ age group to use in India but this app. Tinder is not kind on our age group. I agree SA is not worth it these days. But not much choice there!

I had just asked Phil a couple of days back if the other dating sites would be better. I guess SA is all we have however lousy it is.