Seeking Arrangement- SA- in India

[FunForSandy]

This is definitely not made up.

My long term SB here in Bangalore has met and been wooed by this or perhaps another gent with a similar modus operandi. He's not in finance, but a 50 something tech VP in a sexless marriage with self esteem issues and zero confidence around women.

He routinely pays the lady 50 k per ST rendezvous for naked conversation (she's beautiful, bright and engaging) and poetry.

And here we are quibbling ad nauseam about "spoiling the market" with our 15's and 20's.

Wow your SB is lucky 😂. Such generous allowance for just conversing.

And you are right, we are the lot to be pitied at with our 15-20 k. 🫣.

[FunForSandy]

Yup. This is pretty common. Lonliness amongst men is really an epidemic.

I would say loneliness is an epidemic across genders. The changing social and workplace structures and advent of mobile have brought it. What surprises me is that such men don't want sex when it's available.

[BeStill]

This is definitely not made up.

My long term SB here in Bangalore has met and been wooed by this or perhaps another gent with a similar modus operandi. He's not in finance, but a 50 something tech VP in a sexless marriage with self esteem issues and zero confidence around women.

He routinely pays the lady 50 k per ST rendezvous for naked conversation (she's beautiful, bright and engaging) and poetry.

And here we are quibbling ad nauseam about "spoiling the market" with our 15's and 20's.

Yup. This is pretty common. Lonliness amongst men is really an epidemic.

[ScubaDo]

Anyone been in touch with her? Used to be in Delhi, now moved to BLR.

I am blocked now so I can't see the profile but it used to have a bikini babe who I now realise is from Insta.

Sweet talker but I want to find out if she's genuine, just out of curiosity. I doubt I'll meet her as I have some doubts but wondering if I'm wrong.

[DesiGuy3]

Kolkatta is best in my opinion.

So Delhi also sucks. I thought Mumbai and Delhi would be better than Bangalore.

Any opinions about which city is best for seeking in India.

[Mallu Macha]

This is definitely not made up.

My long term SB here in Bangalore has met and been wooed by this or perhaps another gent with a similar modus operandi. He's not in finance, but a 50 something tech VP in a sexless marriage with self esteem issues and zero confidence around women.

He routinely pays the lady 50 k per ST rendezvous for naked conversation (she's beautiful, bright and engaging) and poetry.

And here we are quibbling ad nauseam about "spoiling the market" with our 15's and 20's.

After a failed Monday night, I had messaged my British MILF to come have breakfast with me.

She arrived nice and early at about 8:00 am. My flight wasn't till 6:00 pm so we took our time slow.

Ordered room service. Ran the bath and really enjoyed each other's company. We finally took a breather at about noon and were just lying in bed taking a breather when I asked her about her seeking experiences. Something I tend not to ask too much.

She was very honest and told me she had another regular SD who gave her 60 K a month to just come and hang out with him. So the guy is in his mid 30's a high flying finance wizz kid with serious social issues.

He gives her the money to just come over, lay in his arms as he reads poetry to her. That's it. I thought it was a joke initially, until she showed me their chats. He not only likes to read it to her, he also writes and shares poetry with her.

Most of her other SD experiences have been duds mainly because of the way guys behave. There are many "businessmen" and politicians. Think typical Babu types. For whom throwing 1 L on a "white" girl is no problem. She rejects them because they tend to be crass and quite vulgar. But then there are many many rich well groomed guys who are more than willing to throw 50 K+ for a meeting. A lot of them are stuck in shitty marriages and just get desperate for some good action in India.

And there lies the crux of the issue. In India, the whole scene is skewed. In other Asian, African, western countries there has been very little taboo about sex. So casual hook ups etc have been common for decades now. Indians are only just experiencing this and that is only among the younger generations. So we have a huge population of 30+ year old men who are successful and haven't experience dating or casual sex.

Another observation I had personally, was that Indian "SBs" (and I use this term loosely) tend to exaggerate their lifestyle and accomplishments. It appears to be a uniquely Indian problem. The SBs I have met in Europe, Asia and South Africa tend to be very honest about their situation.

Happy hunting everyone. It appears the India scene is going from bad to worse.

[Phil50]

Tinder and Gleeden cost less, but, if you are over 40, at best you will get a couple of contacts of WGs. You can try it out as I have, without much to lose except time.
If you are looking for a working girl, the cost per contact is best on SA.

If your mongering budget is upwards of 5 lac p.a, a month's membership on SA, with discount, costs under 2% of your annual spend. Consider it brokerage.
Assume you will lose upto 10% of your money either on outright scams, or errors of judgement (e. G. You went ahead with the date though she was not like the pic).

Even when you are not looking for WG's, you will get a min of 100 TG contacts in either Del / Mumbai / Bangalore in a month's membership. Eliminating scammers, people who ghost, unattractive
girls or GPS, there will be at least a dozen prospects, which should be enough to get by for the year. If in the process of shortlisting, you have a few pleasant meets over coffee without paying, that covers the membership fee.

If however, you are looking for what we imagine the ideal SB to be, that is increasingly rare to find, to a point where SA is becoming a waste of time.

There are just 3 cities in India where IMO, there is a good choice on SA. Delhi / NCR, Mumbai and Bangalore.

[FunForSandy]

How do you guys do it? Is wading through dozens of fake profiles / pimps / scams to find a single gem so rewarding?

There are hardly ten verified profiles on SA in Delhi and none of them are to my liking. I've started talking to some of the unverified ones and most seem to be either out for a quick scam or pimps. I might change my tone if I find the perfect SB but for now, I don't think SA is worth it.

So Delhi also sucks. I thought Mumbai and Delhi would be better than Bangalore.

Any opinions about which city is best for seeking in India.

[FunForSandy]

For starters. Its a nice distraction to have a SA membership and juggling / chatting with so many girls trying to find a nice one. I think a lot of guys take this very seriously and wind up getting stressed about it. Just enjoy it. SA is like Tom & Jerry. Both sides trying to up each other.

You are likely to blow up about a lakh the month you have a membership. If you take this much money seriously, then you are bound to get stressed out. If you can throw it and forget about it, I would sanction such a budget.

Unfortunately there is nothing better for the 40+ age group to use in India but this app. Tinder is not kind on our age group. I agree SA is not worth it these days. But not much choice there!

I had just asked Phil a couple of days back if the other dating sites would be better. I guess SA is all we have however lousy it is.

[FunForSandy]

Without revealing any secrets, let's just say 'optimal use of technology' We need all the help we can gather to battle the scammers and pimps!

Ha ha. I also try reverse image search but it's tedious. You are far quicker. Whatever you are doing is great.

[JPoppen]

After seeing your post I messaged her again. She was the same cold, rude person. 😁.

LOL FunForSandy. I take my words back. Its not the same girl but the rudeness is same. One bro DMed to tell me that she does not do a VC. When I asked her for VC she turned into the same rude person. She definitely has something to hide. So I have dropped her.

[Christmas Tre]

How do you guys do it? Is wading through dozens of fake profiles / pimps / scams to find a single gem so rewarding?

There are hardly ten verified profiles on SA in Delhi and none of them are to my liking. I've started talking to some of the unverified ones and most seem to be either out for a quick scam or pimps. I might change my tone if I find the perfect SB but for now, I don't think SA is worth it.

For starters. Its a nice distraction to have a SA membership and juggling / chatting with so many girls trying to find a nice one. I think a lot of guys take this very seriously and wind up getting stressed about it. Just enjoy it. SA is like Tom & Jerry. Both sides trying to up each other.

You are likely to blow up about a lakh the month you have a membership. If you take this much money seriously, then you are bound to get stressed out. If you can throw it and forget about it, I would sanction such a budget.

Unfortunately there is nothing better for the 40+ age group to use in India but this app. Tinder is not kind on our age group. I agree SA is not worth it these days. But not much choice there!

[FunForSandy]

On the same old profile EnchantingGirl, it looks like there is a different girl now. And it is for good.

https://members.seeking.com/member/e...f-74ecbfc0d893

The previous girl (whose pictures are still on the profile. And remember the old pic with a girl in white bikiny in a pool?) . She used to be rude, very slow in responding and she asked me 50K. She shared her pics as well, her body same as her profile pics, and I dropped her at that time due to price.

The new girl, she is hot, tall, quicker to respond, respectful, and asks for 20 K.

I am yet to meet the new EnchantingGirl. Some Bro said he was meeting her to lets hear of anyone has any recent feedback.

Cheers!

After seeing your post I messaged her again. She was the same cold, rude person. 😁.

[BrandNewMonge]

How do you guys do it? Is wading through dozens of fake profiles / pimps / scams to find a single gem so rewarding?

There are hardly ten verified profiles on SA in Delhi and none of them are to my liking. I've started talking to some of the unverified ones and most seem to be either out for a quick scam or pimps. I might change my tone if I find the perfect SB but for now, I don't think SA is worth it.

[Christmas Tre]

You are great. You are an encyclopaedia. How do you do it?

Without revealing any secrets, let's just say 'optimal use of technology' We need all the help we can gather to battle the scammers and pimps!