Chat Rooms & Pen Pals

[Mbsl65]

She has multiple accounts and DIA and Filipinocupid.

Very internet savy and geek. She knows the major cities in Philippines very well. Instead of meeting her long legs, you may be out of few pesos.

https://www.facebook.com/langlamg.flores

[Wazoo]

Yes, but you're just a bigger scammer. Try telling the truth and treat them with dignity. Her waste!!

I've never misrepresented myself. Most of these chat room girls have been mistreated and used, and I have a lot of sympathy for them. Being truthful about one's intentions and life situation is one thing. Leaving personal details out there to be used for ill purposes is another. There are lots of crazies around.

[Slippery]

Thanks for all the good advice here. I had no idea about the access call center girls have. Also good to hear about viber. Usually I have a fake backstory I use, with a fake career, city, etc. I've used the story so long it's almost second nature and I don't get tripped up. For some reason I can't explain, I slipped to the wrong person. I told her my real line of work and she figured out my state of residence. She picked out a building in one of my profile pics and did some creative Google image searching until she found one that matched it. It was near my place of work. Using that location, she was able to match up my company with the location. After that, she was able to get a company bio, and the rest came easy after that. She makes her living on the internet, searching out hard to find products not available in the Philippines. She is very intelligent and her searching skills are uncanny. It was all a big game to her. She was so proud of herself when she told me about it. The whole thing is such a waste. She is extremely pretty and has one of the nicest sets of knockers I've seen. I actually liked the girl and would have treated her right.

Yes, but you're just a bigger scammer. Try telling the truth and treat them with dignity. Her waste!!

[BrainDrain]

I have a ticklish situation here. I met a really beautiful girl on a dating site a couple of months ago. I didn't expect her to be so intelligent and internet savvy. Using only a few tiny clues from my profile and conversation, she uncovered pretty much my whole life story. She knows my job and even got to my wife's facebook account..

That's the risk that makes this so much fun. Most filipinas seem to be married and accept so much and have their own dirty laundry.

So what dirt have you got on your Filipina?

So after all these years I now have two live Filipinas on my real FB profile. Both incredibly smart and intelligent. One girl I have a joint bank account with anyway, so she knows lots. The other girl has become slowly more integrated with my Philippines activity and contacts. They are not added as Friends, they stay strictly on Messenger only. I will just stay in contact and keep communication open. Neither of them see me as marriage potential. They live 1,000 kms apart.

My dirt includes catching one meeting another foreigner and have his profile and for the other girl I know the details of her unsuspecting partner who is financing her.

For these girls really I cannot give them any motivation to be vindictive. Having them closer has really improved my game, so much I've reduced my casual punting.

For everyone else, if you are in any way going to engage through social media you must know that it is totally going to expose you eventually. The security is crap, the granular controls are complex and a new friend today sees your history of posts. It is so easy to build up a picture of a person and their activities. Hypothetically a person might.

Map the "Last Online" times from Messenger and FB.

Make a count of "Became Friends with" and on which days they were added.

Easily peruse the "likers" and Commenters on your public FB profile pic. , then link through to those.

Look at Pages you Like, Places you Check-IN.

Can easily Add one of your friends without adding you and then get access to so much more info which Facebook have made available to "friends of friends".

Like has been said, completely separate email, accounts and facebook profile.

BD.

[Wazoo]

Can you give us a clue as to how she did this? So we can avoid the same issue.

Thanks for all the good advice here. I had no idea about the access call center girls have. Also good to hear about viber. Usually I have a fake backstory I use, with a fake career, city, etc. I've used the story so long it's almost second nature and I don't get tripped up. For some reason I can't explain, I slipped to the wrong person. I told her my real line of work and she figured out my state of residence. She picked out a building in one of my profile pics and did some creative Google image searching until she found one that matched it. It was near my place of work. Using that location, she was able to match up my company with the location. After that, she was able to get a company bio, and the rest came easy after that. She makes her living on the internet, searching out hard to find products not available in the Philippines. She is very intelligent and her searching skills are uncanny. It was all a big game to her. She was so proud of herself when she told me about it. The whole thing is such a waste. She is extremely pretty and has one of the nicest sets of knockers I've seen. I actually liked the girl and would have treated her right.

[Makeupaname]

I have a ticklish situation here. I met a really beautiful girl on a dating site a couple of months ago. I didn't expect her to be so intelligent and internet savvy. Using only a few tiny clues from my profile and conversation, she uncovered pretty much my whole life story.

Can you give us a clue as to how she did this? So we can avoid the same issue.

[Mbsl65]

Viber discloses the location of you unless you turn off the future. Other apps do too. Just be careful. Also many of the girls do work for the call centers and they do support USA based companies. If you are chatting with a girl and she is based in Cebu City area and she is a call center agent or BPO, most likely she may have access to some of your private information based on your purchases.

Delta, Amex, Chase Morgan, Charter Communications, United Health Care, SiriusXM and many others are operational in Cebu City and Manila. I am sure you maybe a customer one of several of them. So, another good idea is to stay away from the call center workers.

I have a ticklish situation here. I met a really beautiful girl on a dating site a couple of months ago. I didn't expect her to be so intelligent and internet savvy. Using only a few tiny clues from my profile and conversation, she uncovered pretty much my whole life story. She knows my job and even got to my wife's facebook account. We have chatted quite a lot and she says she is in love with me. She can be incredibly devoted and selfless in relationships. Based on accounts of her past, I know she also gets jealous and has a vindictive streak. I've thought it best to ease away from her gently. If this thing is going to blow up, there's limited fallout that can come from just chatting as opposed to actually meeting her. I also need to keep her from feeling jilted. I want to tell her that I've had to cancel my trip. She's extremely smart and perceptive, and probably will want to chat on viber during my trip time to confirm I'm not really there. I'm wondering if there's any way a chat mate can figure out your location from viber. Do you experienced members have any other advice how to handle this?

In the past I always had a credible backstory about my bio that I used for chatmates--fake job, different city, different family situation. I got a little lax this time after I got to know them better. Word to the wise to be vigilant.

[Member #4558]

Wazoo; it's easy to get to relaxed sometimes. You must in one way or another block her from your wife account. Until that's done there are nothing you can do to just fill her up with lies. After that's done you have to block her off from every other app or site you befriended her through.

I don't think viber have positioning service. I wouldn't know bcs all my life after I was amongst the first one to switch off all electrical positioning eqp. I have always been sort of a private guy atleast that's why I tell my GF.

Learning points; interacting with girls you want to play with create an all in alter ego, both through real life stories and in cyber. For cyber that means fake everything, add in a fake FB, have a hidden monger phone for playmate contacts. Don't ever mix your real life with your mongering one.

[Sam 14]

Using only a few tiny clues from my profile and conversation, she uncovered pretty much my whole life story. She knows my job and even got to my wife's facebook account... Snip.. I've thought it best to ease away from her gently.. Snip.. Do you experienced members have any other advice how to handle this?

First figure out how to get into your wife's account and block her. Then tell her goodbye, sorry, you fucked up. Then block her on all your accounts. Do it now. That's my suggestion.

[Shark5]

Means "I'm poor" too. Or chubby. Or not as pretty as my sister. They always say that, it could mean anything. Filipinas blow my mind. All these little things they do is like in their DNA. They don't have to follow anyone or copy anyone, and it don't matter if they are in General Santos or Laoag City. Ever gotten a text from a new number and it just says "Hai how are you"?

Very true and good points. As far as getting random texts, it happens all the time. When you text back most say they just want a text mate. Goes on for a while then they finally ask for a load!

[Roxxx99]

Much appreciate the responses to my earlier post. I have RTFF extensively, but you can't beat a straight answer to a straight question!

Really looking forward to my first time in Manila. Only going to be in town for 3 nights, and already have a large number of options from pina, ranging from those who want to be in love, to those who want a night in a nice hotel with some action thrown in.

And then I've got to try and fit in LAC, EDSA and P Burgos. Not enough time!

[Wazoo]

I have a ticklish situation here. I met a really beautiful girl on a dating site a couple of months ago. I didn't expect her to be so intelligent and internet savvy. Using only a few tiny clues from my profile and conversation, she uncovered pretty much my whole life story. She knows my job and even got to my wife's facebook account. We have chatted quite a lot and she says she is in love with me. She can be incredibly devoted and selfless in relationships. Based on accounts of her past, I know she also gets jealous and has a vindictive streak. I've thought it best to ease away from her gently. If this thing is going to blow up, there's limited fallout that can come from just chatting as opposed to actually meeting her. I also need to keep her from feeling jilted. I want to tell her that I've had to cancel my trip. She's extremely smart and perceptive, and probably will want to chat on viber during my trip time to confirm I'm not really there. I'm wondering if there's any way a chat mate can figure out your location from viber. Do you experienced members have any other advice how to handle this?

In the past I always had a credible backstory about my bio that I used for chatmates--fake job, different city, different family situation. I got a little lax this time after I got to know them better. Word to the wise to be vigilant.

[FreebieFan]

I believe the whole "simple" thing is kind of like humble. They are saying they are just a normal every day type person, maybe only high school educated, work an entry level job, etc.

I've done the same research as others who have spent considerable time there, and aside from the standard " normal person, not into discos, nightlife, don't smoke don't drink etc " I've also been advised that it might mean I don't wear make up (powder only lang) and would probably be uncomfortable with wearing a bikini. Flat shoes only.

Simple, clearly has a variety of meanings to different ladies and perhaps unpretentious, not showy, natural with no enhancements or added extras might capture it best.

They may be harder to convince in the short term, but once you turn one of these into a girl who is gagging for you and yours, its perhaps a far better return than the P4 P ladies, at least for those of us who enjoy the GFE.

[Sam 14]

Means "I'm poor" too. Or chubby. Or not as pretty as my sister. They always say that, it could mean anything. Filipinas blow my mind. All these little things they do is like in their DNA. They don't have to follow anyone or copy anyone, and it don't matter if they are in General Santos or Laoag City. Ever gotten a text from a new number and it just says "Hai how are you"?

[Omega 3]

I know you said "almost always" Om I but I will offer alternatives. Although it is clear that this "code" is used by transgender persons I suggest that it is used much more widely than that.

This topic came up on the board previously and I took it upon myself to ask a sample of women what they meant by it.

Every one of the 12 who responded were 100% women with kids, and the pics were obvious too.

10 of the 12 said that "accept me for what I am" means that they are a woman with kids and so they are saddled with that responsibility.

Six of them also said they used it because they saw it used by others.

One said she used it because she was single and "old" (she was 36).

I just did a very quick search on pinalove, and in 10 minutes I saw the phrase used in 5 separate profiles by women who also said they had kids, were looking for "serious" and were clearly well-domesticated in their responses.

Thank you, RK. Good observations. You have broadened my views!

OM.