Pattaya Reports

[Dg8787]

Life is not a movie. It is rather monotonous for most people. You go to work and you go home. There are no sparks flying and no fireworks popping off. This chick was standoffish from the start. Why would you expect her to change into the freak of the week? And then when she does not it is no cruise for you!

You got exactly what you signed up for. There was no I was like this but I changed into that after I got him hooked. She has been the exact same. Not everyone shows love the same way nor has sex the same way. You are looking for her to ravage you like the sex fiend she is not.

That is why there is a thing called compatibility that we should observe when getting into something serious with someone. You forced this relationship, when judging from your reports there was no compatibility in the first place. You basically had to "make her" everything. There was nothing smooth and natural about this.

Maybe quite maybe FH is the problem!

[LittleBigMan]

F. H.

Like I said I read your post and nothing you have written I haven't heard or seen first hand all the excuses are right there no matter how much you indicated or write to make it interesting it is a story that has been written many time over just a different writer and different day.

You are trying hard but the more you write the more clear what the ending will be job electronics, ten years, six month Soi 6, wasn't push into the life style, didn't act like a BG, first payment. You are on your way the most important thing is enjoy the ride the experience will stay with you for a lifetime and maybe learn some don't like Charlie Tuna go for the bait get thrown back into the ocean and take the bait again. You think she doesn't know why you came to Thailand for one thing and one thing only and no matter how close you get she will always know the reason you are here!

[Mr Enternational]

She acted very much like a traditional Thai GF, meaning no overt displays of affection in public, As I said, she asked for nothing from me and she never talked trashy or used her womanly, BG wiles. But she was not exactly a GF either. Well, during the day she was a perfect Thai GF. In bed, well, she was not any more passionate than the last time in Pattaya. I could say she was like a very shy, inexperienced lover, waiting for me to make all the moves, after which she would dutifully submit. But she would never initiate anything or even act to keep it going. I tried very hard to avoid anything to remind we had once had a professional relationship (or to show we might still be having such a relationship), which met giving her the chance to initiate things and have an equal say in what all we did.

She would cuddle up and touch a little, and wanted to sleep touching me, but if I was not pushing the foreplay, she would go to sleep. Twice I let that happen until several hours later I would wake her up! She was happily accommodating, but sex was something she could take or leave. It all left me a bit uncomfortable and unsatisfied and with the feeling she had no love or passion for me. But, I could have been asking too much too soon, or maybe she was being a GF to me but expected me to make all the moves, or she may have felt I was being too passive, or whatever.

But did she show enough feelings to warrant me taking her on that cruise we had talked about for April? If I was sure that this was all I was going to get then I should go on and cut my losses. Sure, she is fun, but I am getting old! I should perhaps be looking elsewhere, right? The lack of obvious love and passion got me down a bit, but when I thought about all that this woman had been through that year, it was unreasonable for me to expect too much from her.

But what was I looking for? I was looking for signs of potential love such that I would want to continue to see her to try to nurture those feelings. What kind of signs, though? They would be little things that one would do for one they had feelings for. Examples are how they kiss you or touch you or look at you, how often they call you or text you, the pictures they send, what they do for you, etc. We mongerors know that great sex is unrelated to love. A couple of BGs have given me "GFEs" that blew me away, but they sure didn't love me.

In all fairness, I could not have expected any more than what I got.

Life is not a movie. It is rather monotonous for most people. You go to work and you go home. There are no sparks flying and no fireworks popping off. This chick was standoffish from the start. Why would you expect her to change into the freak of the week? And then when she does not it is no cruise for you!

You got exactly what you signed up for. There was no I was like this but I changed into that after I got him hooked. She has been the exact same. Not everyone shows love the same way nor has sex the same way. You are looking for her to ravage you like the sex fiend she is not.

That is why there is a thing called compatibility that we should observe when getting into something serious with someone. You forced this relationship, when judging from your reports there was no compatibility in the first place. You basically had to "make her" everything. There was nothing smooth and natural about this.

[Horatio]

My two cents for what it's worth. I think if you want a sincere relationship you need to be honest. You lie to her it's fair she lies to you. Does she know you won't change but expect her to?

OK,

I arrived at BKK, then waited for Nam's limo driver to pick me up. "Huh? Who? What? You exclaim. "Who is Nam?" Many of you know of Nam. She hires lady drivers to drive people between the airport and Pattaya. Yeah, I left Secret and went to Pattaya for 10 days. Bet you guys didn't see that coming? Haha You say you can't take the BG out of the BG. Is it also true you can't take the mongeror out of the mongeror?

[HorseTrader]

Yeah, I left Secret and went to Pattaya for 10 days. Bet you guys didn't see that coming? Haha You say you can't take the BG out of the BG. Is it also true you can't take the mongeror out of the mongeror?

Of course we saw that coming! The only question was if you would admit it to us. We are the same as you and can't imagine traveling 24 hours to Thailand and having sex with only one girl.

[RacShack]

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[FL Hawk]

OK, I sent Secret the first of 6 installments, as I had agreed. She, in turn, was to go to Phuket with me. Did she keep her word to me? If she was an evil BG out to scam me, might she take the money and run, or try to get a second payment out of me then run?

She kept her word. We met at BKK and flew off to Phuket for about 8 days, then to Bangkok for 4 more. We had a lot of daytime fun. We did many tours and did many things and even took a cooking class. We went zip lining, canoeing and swimming. The only thing she asked me to buy was a bathing suit, and it was a cheap one, and I had offered to buy it weeks before the trip as she did not have one. Well, she had one with the name of her former bar. She acted very much like a traditional Thai GF, meaning no overt displays of affection in public, no asking for stuff and politely declining offered gifts and basically being considerate of me. She would hold hands and would sit close to me on the buses, give light kisses occasionally and smile and laugh a lot, so she did display affection. She was just as delightful as ever and reminded me why I liked her so much.

So was she acting like a GF or as a BG? Definitely not like a BG. As I said, she asked for nothing from me and she never talked trashy or used her womanly, BG wiles. But she was not exactly a GF either. Well, during the day she was a perfect Thai GF. In bed, well, she was not any more passionate than the last time in Pattaya. I could say she was like a very shy, inexperienced lover, waiting for me to make all the moves, after which she would dutifully submit. But she would never initiate anything or even act to keep it going. I tried very hard to avoid anything to remind we had once had a professional relationship (or to show we might still be having such a relationship), which met giving her the chance to initiate things and have an equal say in what all we did. She would cuddle up and touch a little, and wanted to sleep touching me, but if I was not pushing the foreplay, she would go to sleep. Twice I let that happen until several hours later I would wake her up! She was happily accommodating, but sex was something she could take or leave. It all left me a bit uncomfortable and unsatisfied and with the feeling she had no love or passion for me. But, I could have been asking too much too soon, or maybe she was being a GF to me but expected me to make all the moves, or she may have felt I was being too passive, or whatever. Pointless to speculate on why she was passive. I should have asked her.

But did she show enough feelings to warrant me taking her on that cruise we had talked about for April? If I was sure that this was all I was going to get then I should go on and cut my losses. Sure, she is fun, but I am getting old! I should perhaps be looking elsewhere, right? The lack of obvious love and passion got me down a bit, but when I thought about all that this woman had been through that year, it was unreasonable for me to expect too much from her. I mean, less than a year previous to this she had no idea that she would be become, well, a prostitute. She had a good job, had moved up the ladder a bit, and then BOOM, she had to degrade herself to bail out her mother's poor financial actions. But just imagine that you have not had a loving relationship for at least 10 years and, heck, maybe never, and now just having had to have sex with between likely 100 to 300 strange men, the vast majority you detest (and me being one of them), is it reasonable to feel for me the same way I was feeling about her? No, it isn't. It is reasonable to think that she might view sex with a bit of tension.

But what was I looking for? I was looking for signs of potential love such that I would want to continue to see her to try to nurture those feelings. What kind of signs, though? They would be little things that one would do for one they had feelings for. Examples are how they kiss you or touch you or look at you, how often they call you or text you, the pictures they send, what they do for you, etc. At least coming from a BG or ex-BG, giving out sex is not really a sign. I might, for them, simply be a profession they are still engaging in with in. Secret was not displaying that at least! We mongerors know that great sex is unrelated to love. A couple of BGs have given me "GFEs" that blew me away, but they sure didn't love me. And a few were shy, thinking by giving sex they would somehow ruin things.

What actually made me to decide I wanted to keep seeing her will sound strange, but it was because she had been taking a ton of photos and videos of me and us, many of which I had not noticed she was doing. Women generally don't take photos of guys they have no feelings for. They may take selfies or photos of the attractions to post on social media, but not so many of the men they are with if they have no feelings for him. Secret took a bunch of videos of me zip lining, of us eating, walking along the beach, etc. She took of bunch of us together as well. If she was disgusted with me, she would not want to do that! And I saw where she sent pictures of us home to her mother. This all may sounds like a little thing, but love is comprised of a lot of little things. But what daughter sends pictures to her mother (and sisters) of a man she feels disgust for?

Anyway, the trip was a basic success, advancing our relationship a little. She was never like a BG, and she was a great GF during the day though a questionable GF at night. In all fairness, I could not have expected any more than what I got. I guess she had sufficient fun to make plans to meet again in April 2020 and go on that cruise. If a trip on the Quantum of the Seas cannot bring out some love or passion, then I may finally have to end this. But that is over 4 months away from this time. What bad can possibly happen before mid-April?

So, we said our goodbyes the next morning. She got a taxi to go back to her sister's and start a serious job search, and I took a taxi to BKK. I had given her the second mortgage payment plus I gave her enough to pay for work that she may have missed while waiting for me. With a job and with loan payments to worry about, she will be fine.

I arrived at BKK, then waited for Nam's limo driver to pick me up. "Huh? Who? What? You exclaim. "Who is Nam?" Many of you know of Nam. She hires lady drivers to drive people between the airport and Pattaya. Yeah, I left Secret and went to Pattaya for 10 days. Bet you guys didn't see that coming? Haha You say you can't take the BG out of the BG. Is it also true you can't take the mongeror out of the mongeror?

[FL Hawk]

It's even worst than I thought.

She's been doing this for 10 years? That girl is wasted and you'll never satisfy her except by spending a lot of cash on her (until you run out of cash). But is it really worth it?

I think you misunderstand. Industry. Electronics industry. She worked for a major electronics manufacturer for 10 years. She was moving up the ladder. She did not go to college, but she held a job of increasing responsibility. I have repeated many times she was a bar girl for less than 6 months. It is in her social media -- she left work to the surprise of her co-workers and a few days later she was a BG. Just like that. Factory to Soi 6. I would agree that if she had been in the adult business for much longer than 6 months it could not work. Part of her being "special" is a lot of the circumstances are "special".

[FL Hawk]

This is how you help BarGirls. Give them a stake of $10,000 and teach them how to trade options. Learn what cash secured puts and covered calls are. Incorporate both into the Wheel Strategy. Income for life, at least quite awhile if done right. LOL.

I'm into my second month. Does have merit.

Haha. I have lost more in options than I will ever lose to Secret, many times over.

[FL Hawk]

I didn't read back your post but I assumed you gave her money to pay back her loan, so that's not a cheap charlie's act.

She didn't ask explicitly (maybe), but she made you fully aware of her financial struggles.

The way you write your reports, it's clear that you're very hesitant of what you should do (or what you should have done). All these questionings (I assume that you probably gave her many signs of these hesitations) are typically showing you as a big easy target in my opinion.

Signs of hesitation? No, I think I left the impression I was totally insensitive! She left hints and I did not respond. I mean, she says "I need a job" and I say "I hope you find something. " Not until faced with losing her did I finally shell out some cash. I may show hesitation here in my writing about it all and, yes, I was hesitant about what to do at the time.

I had not been giving her much of anything, thus looking like a Cheap Charlie up until the time I did give her money. You can decide, if this goes on, if I return to be a cheap Charlie or if I start throwing out the cash upon the merest hint of need from her.

[Paolo99]

As I said, I am trying to educate and show insight into one particular BG. I am still trying to show she is NOT a typical BG however.

What does she got that is so different than other BGs?

[Member #4698]

It's even worst than I thought.

She's been doing this for 10 years? That girl is wasted and you'll never satisfy her except by spending a lot of cash on her (until you run out of cash). But is it really worth it?

I think it is time for a picture of the mystery girl. "Been doing this for 10 years," crikey, this story is turning into a farce.

[Dr Brian Jones]

This is how you help BarGirls. Give them a stake of $10,000 and teach them how to trade options. Learn what cash secured puts and covered calls are. Incorporate both into the Wheel Strategy. Income for life, at least quite awhile if done right. LOL.

I'm into my second month. Does have merit.

LOL Danny,

In other ISG threads, guys are currently discussing potential relationship with " nice and financially independent girls " flirting with them for weeks, with NO video-calls and then asking them to invest in f / x accounts.

They are not 100% sure if this is true interest in them or scam. Well.

So now with your recommendation, we are going full circle haha!

[Danny Duck]

This is how you help BarGirls. Give them a stake of $10,000 and teach them how to trade options. Learn what cash secured puts and covered calls are. Incorporate both into the Wheel Strategy. Income for life, at least quite awhile if done right. LOL.

I'm into my second month. Does have merit.

[Paolo99]

Quite true. But remember, Secret is not 18 or 19. She worked in industry for 10 years. Her family did not push her to be a BG.

It's even worst than I thought.

She's been doing this for 10 years? That girl is wasted and you'll never satisfy her except by spending a lot of cash on her (until you run out of cash). But is it really worth it?