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05-09-23 00:28 #4572
Posts: 67Happy to hear a different perspective. Do you have a rule of thumb on when do you switch?
I will be there 10 days. I may end up spending a good chunk of that time with one girl, traveling with her etc, but it will be a one-and-done time relationship. I plan to be careful about not revealing my true identity, e. G. , by booking separate rooms when traveling, not checking into hotels, car rentals etc (where I have to show my ID) in front of her. But I don't understand why she would care that I am single or married, when both of us know there is no future.
Originally Posted by AmericanPi [View Original Post]
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05-09-23 00:19 #4571
Posts: 67Originally Posted by Steve9696 [View Original Post]
What else comes to your mind?
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05-08-23 17:57 #4570
Posts: 2726Narrow Lie
Originally Posted by AmericanPi [View Original Post]
Although also as MW said it's tough to obscure your identity forever with a girl you spend lots of time with. Hardest is hotel TV screen. It's going to have your real name and if you leave her alone in the room she could see it. Just an FYI for everyone — that's tough to conceal.
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05-08-23 15:29 #4569
Posts: 594Respectfully disagree with some of the other posters.
If you're getting into a relationship with a sugars, fine don't lie. They'll be around you enough and there are signs. Phone calls, name tags, hotel check in sheets, etc.
But for the short term thing you're describing, absolutely say you're single. I always do. Because the last thing you want is a girl who has personal info on you and can blackmail you. I lie about basically everything that can identify me.
Originally Posted by Intelligencium [View Original Post]
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05-07-23 03:42 #4568
Posts: 2805Originally Posted by Intelligencium [View Original Post]
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05-06-23 21:23 #4567
Posts: 67Thanks for the advice! I already lied to her in chat. She suddenly asked if I'm single and / or have kids, and I panicked and said no. I guess I'll have to figure out a way to find clean. Maybe say I lied on chat because it was hard to explain over chat, and wanted to talk on person / over call: thatthings are a bit complicated
Originally Posted by Midwestern [View Original Post]
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05-06-23 08:32 #4566
Posts: 1202Lying about being single is not a good idea
Do not lie about being single. I do not know how many times I have lied to an SB about being single, but there were two occasions where it ended horribly, to the extent that I was even scared. Both of these times, the SBs said that if I had told the truth about being married, then the relationship would have been great, but that I blew it by lying. For whatever reason, pretty much all gals hate being lied to by men, probably because we lie all the time to bed women.
And no, you cannot lie about being single forever. They will find out the truth. It is just a matter of time.
I just started a new relationship with a new SB. Long story short, I met her three years ago and got her contact. After some back and forth texting, I asked her to be my GF. She asked me what that implied. I said it would be a PPM arrangement. She told me to fuck off. I kept pursuing it, she kept balking and even deleted my contact a couple of times, but recently she finally agreed, after I reassured her that I was not a monster. The first session went well. A few days later, she asked me if I was married. I decided to try a new response. I told her it was a secret. She scoffed, but then said that it did not matter. Maybe you can try this. She probably thinks there is a 99% chance that I am married, but maybe that 1% makes a difference in her mind.
Originally Posted by Intelligencium [View Original Post]
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05-06-23 03:50 #4565
Posts: 2726Just Deal and See What Happens
Originally Posted by Midwestern [View Original Post]
Second of course is with Shayla. She totally understands the game tho. Before I got her the apartment we were def sex every time. But then once we got the apt I might see her a couple times a week and only have sex one of those times. But sometimes she might deflect sex or we were just partying with her friends. And frankly it's not worth lying to my wife for that. I kinda said that to her once and that didn't go so well. Maybe too honest. But I did come pretty straight on when she deflected sex and the few times it happened she clarified that I just need to let her know and it's ok to fuck with her friends in the living room!
I'm sure your sitch is a bit different, but I tend to go with the confront it route. Tell her sex is a super important part of your relationship and it makes you sad when you skip. And see what she says. Does she want to make you sad?
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05-06-23 03:27 #4564
Posts: 2726Not Generally a Problem
Originally Posted by Intelligencium [View Original Post]
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05-06-23 00:58 #4563
Posts: 67Relationship status
Hey guys,
I am going to in Europe (posted about it a few times) on a SA focused mongering trip. I am married, but wife won't know about this hobby.
Do you guys tell your SA potential about your relationship status in real life? I am chatting with a cute girl from SA and we have a really good chemistry. I may want to spend a lot of time with her when in Europe and may be even go on trips with her. But I haven't told her yet that I am married. My SA profile also says that I am "Single". I didn't think too much back then, mostly just assuming that SA girls wouldn't want to talk to me if I told them I am married.
So question for you folks: what would you do in this situation? Should I tell her the truth? There is a good chance that she will not be as warm towards me if she finds out that I am married. If she decides to bail, it will be a loss. But I guess I can find other girls who will be more PPM oriented. There are no dearth of girls willing to talk and meet, but she was a bit special w. Are. T. Our chemistry so far.
But if I don't tell her and then go on trips with her (or spend significant time with her), I will have to figure out how to be really discrete about my real life. E. g. If wifey calls, I will have to make up some story about who is calling me.
Anyone gone through an experience like this? What did you do? What would you do in my situation?
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05-06-23 00:29 #4562
Posts: 1202Local SBs
If any of you guys have had long-run success with a local SB (I. E. , an SB that lives in the same city as you), then I'd like to hear about it. What made it work out or is making it work out?
One of my SBs is getting annoyed at the PPM arrangment and occassionally wants to hang out with me (such as occassional lunches, going to the movies, and going out at night, all without sex) like a real GF. In the past, this might have been okay, but I am now not into this for the following reasons: (1) I am simply too busy with my professional and personal life. (2) I do not want to be seen with a GF or SB for professional and personal reasons.
I did have many local SBs that were just PPM and they did not need any other maintenance, but for them, this eventually got old and they did not like the feeling that they were pros. There must be a right balance between a real GF and PPM SB, but I am not finding it.
I would like to hear from people with actual experience only.
TIA.
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05-05-23 18:27 #4561
Posts: 2726London is Solid
Originally Posted by Clone8884 [View Original Post]
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05-05-23 14:54 #4560
Posts: 164What he said, plus
Originally Posted by Steve9696 [View Original Post]
One thing that could be considered a con depending on your comfort and skill level is language. It is very helpful to know some spanish. Not as much the case in Deutschland, you can get by rather well with english. My SB doesn't really speak english, but we get by really well with a romanian, spanish, english combination. But then again, the french SB that I met spoke english perfect with a french accent, so I guess it depends on who you come across.
Good luck and report back.
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05-05-23 08:18 #4559
Posts: 76London
Anyone have experience in London? Also, how much.
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05-04-23 23:14 #4558
Posts: 67Originally Posted by Steve9696 [View Original Post]
The cities I mentioned with high SA potential are BCN and Madrid! Which is why FKKs are a bit out of the way.
So here's my new plan:
1. Frankfurt day 1 to visit FKK Sharks.
2. Spain for next 10 days, likely equally split between BCN and Madrid. Sight-seeing, SA dating and some regular old-fashioned mongering.
3. Frankfurt last day to either revisit FKK Sharks or try Oase.