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02-09-24 13:21 #7002
Posts: 49Originally Posted by Sammon [View Original Post]
40 y ago was very common the marriages of women below 20 with men over 30 y old. I'm in that range.
Exactly. But the advices is be aware of how to find a correct housewife with the brain not too empty as treat the kids as vegetables or as sophisticated teddy beards. And what área has the strongest pretty women to do it, Davao provinces? Cities outside Dumaguete as San Carlos??
I'm young in modern times because I'm far of 40 y old. Unfortinately, in europe became common be childless until 40 y old or more.
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02-09-24 12:46 #7001
Posts: 3282Originally Posted by DCups [View Original Post]
Yes, if you are looking for a young wife irrespective of your age it is available in Philippines. There are plenty of very pretty girls from provinces who would have married me. But I told them right from the beginning that I am looking for fun only. If you are dead serious to marry you can even find virgins and take care of her. Love is not necessarily in the picture.
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02-09-24 00:16 #7000
Posts: 3079Originally Posted by Robotron [View Original Post]
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02-08-24 04:41 #6999
Posts: 72I don't think so. . .
Originally Posted by Robotron [View Original Post]
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02-07-24 20:03 #6998
Posts: 3440Originally Posted by Dg8787 [View Original Post]
Enjoy. G.
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02-07-24 18:55 #6997
Posts: 49Originally Posted by MrEnternational [View Original Post]
https://youtu.be/kvil0PiKvE8?si=qogwIKyIuKxvMvX7
That YouTube guy get what I want to have. It means it is not impossible, she is young, smart and housewife. I just ask for advices to get it.
And I have said that I don't need her cooking also all days, I can cook Sunday for many days of the week like chicken with vineyard and vegetables. I have life with a Filipina already and I bought for her the sauces she like and I just eat a few different things, and she was good and not a scammer, but she was just too lazy doing house chores (educated Filipina bachelor's degree and closer to 30 than 20).
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02-07-24 16:46 #6996
Posts: 15998Originally Posted by DonMalo [View Original Post]
Only an uneducated woman would initially go along with your plan. But you expect her to be educated enough to educate your kids well? Have you heard of the blind leading the blind? Because this will be the dumb miseducating the uneducated. And you also assume that she will not only be able to cook, but I assume cook the food that you like to your standards. I do not think anyone that has an inkling of experience with Filipino culture would set out to do what you are trying. I think most men would meet someone, hit it off with that person, and later decide they would like to marry them in particular. You are definitely better off getting a maid seeing that you already have a list of chores and payment amount for a "wife" you have yet to even meet.
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02-07-24 16:42 #6995
Posts: 3270Originally Posted by AussieGaigin [View Original Post]
1. Household.
2. Her own discretionary spending money.
3. Her Family allowance and family emergency fund. Deal with this upfront and set up for periodic review.
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02-07-24 07:17 #6994
Posts: 60Speaking of wives, does it seem like it would be easier to find a wife / loyal young woman here compared to other countries? Are they coming off as desperate and willing to move to usa and please in a real relationship?
Just wondering if that's been an experience even if its just mongering.
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02-07-24 06:30 #6993
Posts: 1665You do not need to pay her a "salary", but you should be able to work out together an "allowance" for her to buy food and household necessities, plus some spending money for herself. This is basic "Budgeting 101" which any couple should develop.
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02-06-24 07:33 #6992
Posts: 49Originally Posted by Aml3740 [View Original Post]
My idea is not get a maid, but if I work a lot from Monday to Friday, I need someone with future kids who educates them well and make the simple house chores. I even could cook many dishes in weekends to avoid her to cook all from Monday o Friday. And I'm aware as the husband of a traditional Filipina, I will spend my weekend time with her because they value a lot spend time the husband or boyfriend and I couldn't go anymore with my friends a lot of hours without her also there. My idea is make a lot of activities with her, but I want a simple and good life whitout argues, problems and things like that and due to it I want in a rational way choose a housewife with good heart to respect and work for each other.
I meet a few european women who become Muslims and married educated engineer moroccos and they marriages and families are big and with a lot of calm and peace. Whitout anxious because luxury things wishes, angry because their husbands are working a lot for the family, etc.
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02-05-24 09:21 #6991
Posts: 72Originally Posted by DonMalo [View Original Post]
I do not think a self-respecting woman living with you as a wife will want or accept a salary. That is demeaning. She is your wife, not an employee. I send my partners money monthly to cover the bills and to save a little bit, but I don't do that if I am there. Treat her like a wife. They do not expect money just for being a wife. Just treat her well and you will be okay.
If you are going to the province, be aware that some girls are really dirt poor. Especially if they live in Sitio of some far-flunged barangay. Their house may literally be a wooden shack with a dirt floor and anahau roof and no power. You can not expect to get a girl like this and her be able to clean a western home properly. There is a learning curve.
My last piece of advice is just personal. It seems you're more interested in getting a maid than a wife. In the Philippines, women tend to be more traditional and subservient to their husbands. But, even then, they have feelings and do not want to be seen as a maid or an employee. You really need to change your mindset if you want to find a good Filipina wife who loves you like she should and not as a ticket out of poverty. With what you're doing, it's likely you may attract a woman who just wants out of poverty and a future, and she may use you as a ticket to leave the country and then leave you after she is safe from deportation. You wouldn't be the first man this happened to.
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02-04-24 10:23 #6990
Posts: 49Originally Posted by Aml3740 [View Original Post]
Furthermore, mongers are more pragmatic and rude to give me better advices.
The movie locked up for abroad is not allowed in YouTube anymore. But I won't marry a woman already married.
I won't pay any euro before marriage, as much am special gift as a motorbike or a Latin language classes after months of relationship and without her asking for it. Just as a surprise.
My idea after kids is pay to her monthly a salary if she is housewife like split my salary into 40% 60%.
I prefer province women because in many provinces 10 k is more than a monthly salary, my idea is pay 10-15 k as support. 20 k is a full salary in Manila or Cebu.
I'm. Not closed to single mother but I'm young also, I'm early 30 and childless and move to western with a baby is not the most easy. Hmm, maybe a young single mother as 20 years old. But it's not my priority. I met before many single moms online and they were too lazy, it's better if I meet women there.
Are not province or mountain girls very strong who knows how to do all house chores and working hard in industry or as maids?
The point is that Paul's Asian Adventure being and engineer of 55 y old married a perfect woman 19 y old and I think I could do the same but it is not easy if I only go there one month yearly.
My ex was from city and very good hearted, she only took 50 k and 20 k pesos in dumb gifts for her family because I was a beginner, but after it no one euro to her. But she was not very good in house chores and it scared me to make more serious commitment.
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02-04-24 05:19 #6989
Posts: 30Virgins.
Originally Posted by ExpatAmerican [View Original Post]
About 2 years ago I connected with a girl who ran a "massage" service near Manila and soon she was providing me about 1 new girl a week. We became friendly, meaning when she needed money for her family I helped her out haha. At some point I asked if she could get me a virgin, and she responded "ok" immediately. Within a month I had 2 - an 18 and a 19 year old. Both girls were terrified and asked the manager to be there when I fucked them so that was also my first time meeting the manager in person (FYI, she was HOT. Like stunning. After that the manager and I fucked a few times but that's another story). I thought it would be fun to fuck a virgin but not so much. They kept pulling away, crying out in pain before I even put in the tip, could not manage even basic positions, both cried. Sometimes the fantasy is better than reality.
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02-03-24 02:48 #6988
Posts: 168Hey DonMalo,
Watch 'Locked Up Abroad' - Philippines story Prisoner Of Love I think. There is an episode of a guy who wanted to marry an innocent Pinay. Unfortunately she was already married but he did not know she was still married . This guy paid an awful price.