Seeking Arrangements

[Gandalf01]

Hi,

So I decided to write a little about my experience so far (thanks for the prompt Midwestern). This won't read like the standard reports though and only has a little sex (so far). I'm a very introverted, kinda shy guy in my early 40's. Women can often like me when we converse properly but my shyness has often stopped me meeting or approaching them in the very first place and so I've gone years without relationships here and intimacy is usually restricted to P4P on holiday in Asia. I've gone on tinder or other dating apps in the UK a couple of times in the past and always struck out completely. Thanks to COVID and no holidays for a while before that, let's just say it had been a while.

Anyway, I read about SA on a bbc online story in December and decided on a whim to sign up. I decided that I'd have a budget of around 1000 a month to play with and instead of ppm arrangements I was looking for more of a GFE arrangement and an emotional connection. I figure that if someone is making a big difference to my life then I should do the same for them and I'd be happy with paying rent and bills for the right person. I decided to take my time with it and had no idea what to expect.

I signed up as a premium member with private photos only. I live in a city of around 400 k people with a university and to give a little context I just looked and 40+ women within 20 miles have logged in within the last three hours on a Sunday night. There are hundreds more a little further afield and I'm only a few hours from London too.

The first few weeks were overwhelming. I got a LOT of messages from what sounded like genuine, friendly people. 50/50 local people vs university students from all over the UK. I had lots of stilted conversations until I had one message from someone simply asking me to take her for dinner. She's 21, an English lit student with bright pink hair and looks absolutely stunning. I never get to meet or chat with these types of people! Anyway, we met for a meal and it was awesome. She was educated, funny, open and really engaging company over dinner and further drinks. I don't think we're a match for anything more but we've met for dinner a few more times since. She's asked for nothing since we've met and seems to just genuinely enjoy going out for conversation and exploring different restaurants. In return (and for little cost to be honest) I get regular dinners with a beautiful, genuine woman who really seems to enjoy talking to me. I'm not used to this kind of thing.

This is taking me a while to type out so I'll do part 2 tomorrow. This is when I finally get laid.

[NeilGeorge]

I have told many old and married doods to shave their cock, because pros, mistresses, GFs, SBs, like a shaved cock.

I texted exclusive SB#2 that I had shaved my balls for her. She replied, why did you do that? I texted "So then you could lick my balls!" She replied, sadly, "Why would I want to do that! They are close to your butthole!

Then she came over for her weekly session and said, "Your balls are going to be itching now when the hair grows back in a few days!" I told her they will just need someone to scratch them!

She does not know I will probably be with exclusive SBs #4 and #3 later this week, it is their turns, and they can scratch my itch. LOL.

Going to let the hair grow out.

[J Janni]

You're unlikely to score with anyone for 100 GBP. If you are charming you would be lucky to get the girls to agree 200 ppm in london which is where most of the action is. Usual asking is anywhere between 250-400.

I swear we've had this conversation before. Or one very similar.

I am not in a London. I have been on seeking before. And I have scored for 100 ppm.

Cheers for the advice. Even though you gave it without reading a single thing I have ever written in this thread.

[DramaFree11]

Looking for some advice. I've been on SA in England for a couple of months now, taking it relatively slowly with local girls but had some excellent experiences already. I'd never considered any online or foreign arrangement until I had a message from a 20 year old spinner in eastern Europe. She is incredible.

It could be months (if ever) until I could meet her but I really want to keep her attention until then and certainly willing to invest depending on the arrangement. Does anyone have any experiences with online arrangements? How much support would be expected for this kind of 'relationship' and what would you realistically do?

Run for the hills. Save your your money. Focus your searches close to were you live.

[Midwestern]

I've been on SA in England for a couple of months now, taking it relatively slowly with local girls but had some excellent experiences already.

You've had some excellent experiences already on SA. Do tell! Don't leave out any details. TIA.

[NeilGeorge]

Does anyone have any experiences with online arrangements? How much support would be expected for this kind of 'relationship' and what would you realistically do?

My experience with online arrangements is to delete and block. They only want you to stupidly send them money and they will sell you some photos, which you can get for free on any porno website. Or they want you to subscribe to their onlyfans website, while you play with yourself. An arrangement is a two way street. Not them making money and you jacking off with your dick.

[NeilGeorge]

I have told many old and married doods to shave their cock, because pros, mistresses, GFs, SBs, like a shaved cock.

NO thanks for this advice. Next time I took a shower I experienced razor burn. My balls and dick were hurting from all the nicks!

Hair is there for a reason, dude! It lets your dick slide in to home plate without the friction. And if you shave you are not experiencing God's creation to the fullest. Sex is supposed to be for your pleasure, not for hers. Otherwise you could just lick her all day.

[Gandalf01]

Looking for some advice. I've been on SA in England for a couple of months now, taking it relatively slowly with local girls but had some excellent experiences already. I'd never considered any online or foreign arrangement until I had a message from a 20 year old spinner in eastern Europe. She is incredible.

It could be months (if ever) until I could meet her but I really want to keep her attention until then and certainly willing to invest depending on the arrangement. Does anyone have any experiences with online arrangements? How much support would be expected for this kind of 'relationship' and what would you realistically do?

[Midwestern]

I always tell the woman I am looking for an "exclusive arrangement. " Then they think they are the only one. All 5 of them. And they are more likely to go bareback if they think they are the only one.

Hahaha, me too! I was with a 29 year old SB when I was 48. She asked me if the age difference bothered me. The hilarious thing was that I was "dating" (barebacking) 4 SBs at the same time, and the 29 year old was the oldest one.

[The Cane]

For me, it was only 50% about ego. The other 50% was because I was barebacking her, and given that she let me bareback her so readily, I assumed that she would let any SD bareback her, and so I did not want to be barebacking someone that was barebacking a bunch of other guys too. If she were having covered sex with a bunch of other people, then I would not care that much probably.

And damned if you don't! This is so typical of a monger LOL! The platinum standard is bareback sex. But then as soon as you get it, you worry that if she's barebacking you, then she's barebacking everybody else. So you don't want it anymore! Hahaha! I don't know. It kind of reminds me of that joke about not wanting to join any club that would have you as a member LOL! I'm just glad that I lucked into a girl who's "fixed" for one thing. And, I know she hasn't been on the site since she met me. Not unless she created another account. Which I seriously doubt.

[Wanaf]

Convince that you are feeling itchy and ask your mrs to help with the razor.

Epic advice and detailed instructions! But there's an elephant in the room. How to explain your sudden desire in having a bald eagle to the missus? I have told many old and married doods to shave their cock, because pros, mistresses, GFs, SBs, like a shaved cock. But they always respond, "but my wife will think it is weird that my cock is suddenly clean shaven. ".

[The Cane]

I always tell the woman I am looking for an "exclusive arrangement. " Then they think they are the only one. All 5 of them. And they are more likely to go bareback if they think they are the only one.

Ha! Funny! Now this made me laugh out loud. "All 5 of them" LOLOLOLOL!

[NeilGeorge]

I used to value exclusive arrangements a lot

I always tell the woman I am looking for an "exclusive arrangement. " Then they think they are the only one. All 5 of them. And they are more likely to go bareback if they think they are the only one.

[Midwestern]

Epic advice and detailed instructions! But there's an elephant in the room. How to explain your sudden desire in having a bald eagle to the missus? I have told many old and married doods to shave their cock, because pros, mistresses, GFs, SBs, like a shaved cock. But they always respond, "but my wife will think it is weird that my cock is suddenly clean shaven. ".

First things first. Anyone who says it doesn't matter has clearly never done it. It matters A LOT to the girls and honestly it improves the feel of BLS by about 2 X. Win win. But I thought it might help to share some about the mechanics and tips from the school of hard knocks (been doing about six months)

Do not skimp on razor and do not attempt with a mens double blade. Get a Venus five blade with the built in lube strips. Do not ignore this part. It is probably the single most important part.

Final tip. The way I typically initiate is during BJ. I gently slip it out of her mouth and pull it up against my tummy and say "can you do down here" indicating my balls area. And down they go!

Have fun!

[DrainMaker]

Unless you are paying enough to cover all her expenses, I expect them to see others on the side. It's about sex and not ego.

We have all been there.

If you hit off with a SB, the excitment and the attraction blurs a few fundamental things, namely its a transactional relationship with consideration involved.

No matter how good it is, everyone is partial with the truth. I am pretty sure, if as a SD I found another 10/10 with whom I clicked, I'd wouln't pass the opportunity. Works.

Both ways.

And yes we all stalk in our own ways.