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[HorseTrader]

I find Thai ladies typically look to go with men say 10 years older than they would say in the West. For example a 40 year old will look for a man who is 60 no problem.

That 20 year age differential for a Thai woman and a western man seems about right for traditional dating. But for P4P, there is no recommendation. For example, I've had 3 TF sessions in the last week where she is more than 50 years younger than me. When someone is as old and disgusting as me, money talks and bullshit walks.

Historically I've favored women in their early to mid-30's or even to early 40's. But during my current trip I haven't found any ladies that old who satisfy my eyeballs and preliminary tactile exams, so, I've been with them between 18 and 28. When in doubt, check her ID.

[PgReal]

In the past, I have reported that it seemed that most of the ladies on TF in the Chiang Mai area are looking for a long-term or serious relationship. And they can be easily and quite offended, even if they have not stated that in their profile and are asked about meeting for something more than just coffee. All true, in past years and even this year. But there is more to the story.

Being older, I typically relate better to older ladies. So in my TF profile I stated my preference for ladies over 40, and I set my search criteria for ladies over 40.

I changed the target in my profile to 32 and now search for ladies 29 and above. What a difference. There is no shortage of freelancers between 27 and 35 showing interest. In my 13 winters in Chiang Mai, I have never been with a lady under about 36 or 37. While my body still works, I'm going to go with it. Maybe these younger ladies will be fun, too.

I find Thai ladies typically look to go with men say 10 years older than they would say in the West. For example a 40 year old will look for a man who is 60 no problem.

[I Love Boobs]

Signed up to TF in anticipation of a trip in a few weeks. TF app keeps not sending my chats (or at least doesn't show them in my chat histories) and popping up an ad telling me that I can't message again for another 24 hours (with a count down). Anyone else experience this? Am I in jail for some reason I can't see, or do I need to pay to actually message girls on the app?

I've been unable to send any message via ThaiFriendly free account since August 2025.

The timer reverts to 59:59 and keeps resetting.

Anybody has a fix for this issue?

I've emailed their technical support multiple times but received no replies.

[BeachDrone]

In the past, I have reported that it seemed that most of the ladies on TF in the Chiang Mai area are looking for a long-term or serious relationship. And they can be easily and quite offended, even if they have not stated that in their profile and are asked about meeting for something more than just coffee. All true, in past years and even this year. But there is more to the story.

Being older, I typically relate better to older ladies. So in my TF profile I stated my preference for ladies over 40, and I set my search criteria for ladies over 40.

I changed the target in my profile to 32 and now search for ladies 29 and above. What a difference. There is no shortage of freelancers between 27 and 35 showing interest. In my 13 winters in Chiang Mai, I have never been with a lady under about 36 or 37. While my body still works, I'm going to go with it. Maybe these younger ladies will be fun, too.

[Plant Smoke]

I was using "favorites" to stash girls to get them out of my "mail outbox" . I would delete them in "mail outbox" and transfer them to favorites. Just now she failed to register in favorites!

I need these god-damn lists to work! Now I think favorites maxes outy at two pages! Bullshit! Terrible software!

[PgReal]

Except in unusual situations, I insist on Line for Thai ladies because it is essentially anonymous until we are ready to give out our true identities. With Line, we can easily block them and also change our QR codes so it isn't possible for them to message us ever again.

A few days ago I was contacted by a pretty Isaan lady and we had nice text chat on TF when she suggested video chat on WhatsApp. I countered with Line, but she objected because Line has too many scammers. I refused WhatsApp because it linked to my true phone number in USA. She countered with Facebook messenger video chat, which I objected because that is my true identity plus my friends and family. That's when I realized that she was a potential scammer.

I know some people poo poo my concern regarding not giving up my USA phone number, but I won't often do that. About a year ago I was using WhatsApp to chat with a lady when I decided to ghost her and block her on WhatsApp. A couple days later my USA cell rings from Thailand, it was this lady asking me for money for surgery to transition her son to ladyboy.

I wouldn't poopoo your concerns at all, indeed I go a step further, I have a totally separate sim, number, apple ID, what's app, Line etc that I keep just for mongering trips. It's 20 bucks a month so not crippling at all.

But the point I'd make is, I think by far the biggest security risk for your "details" to be compromised is when you connect to public wifi, in cafes, public transport even hotels etc. After staying in a city for a few days even mainly on "public" networks I always start getting more spam and random messages / calls like you describe.

I've had my credit card compromised several times in the last few years after visiting Cities in the States and in particular the UK (London is particularly bad for it).

The best solution is to have your own private local Sim with unlimited data and stick to it.

[HorseTrader]

Few years back I could only see LINE everywhere, I instlled only for Thailand. But in my last trip in August, everyone is using whatsapp, I didn't even open Line.

Except in unusual situations, I insist on Line for Thai ladies because it is essentially anonymous until we are ready to give out our true identities. With Line, we can easily block them and also change our QR codes so it isn't possible for them to message us ever again.

A few days ago I was contacted by a pretty Isaan lady and we had nice text chat on TF when she suggested video chat on WhatsApp. I countered with Line, but she objected because Line has too many scammers. I refused WhatsApp because it linked to my true phone number in USA. She countered with Facebook messenger video chat, which I objected because that is my true identity plus my friends and family. That's when I realized that she was a potential scammer.

I know some people poo poo my concern regarding not giving up my USA phone number, but I won't often do that. About a year ago I was using WhatsApp to chat with a lady when I decided to ghost her and block her on WhatsApp. A couple days later my USA cell rings from Thailand, it was this lady asking me for money for surgery to transition her son to ladyboy.

[Hitman9836]

It feels like LINE is destroying their own business. How well is WhatsApp working at the moment? I. e. How many girls have it and use it frequently?

Few years back I could only see LINE everywhere, I instlled only for Thailand. But in my last trip in August, everyone is using whatsapp, I didn't even open Line.

[PgReal]

Been following posts, esp. SubCmdr (thank you).

Been here 3 weeks, but only started with TF last few days. I'm in my early 40's, not in bad shape (no gut) etc, and been playing with different profile text. Initially I tried to woo with nice guy etc, but was attracting the long are / ship ones.

In the end reduced to something that would indicate my intentions. Have only managed to get one on WA that I liked and in negotiation stage at moment but no meet. I'm no idiot but I'm starting to think BKK is not great for TF. The girls seem v busy as when I send msg it takes an age to reply, even with premium and selecting 'put my replies at the top'. OR maybe I'm being too fussy looking for the 7-8/10's.

If I have no more real success and I've given it many hours, I'll have to get over to Sukhumvit somewhere.

1st time in Thailand and BKK, so I realize there's a learning curve.

All I want is the same as every other guy here I would guess. A pretty face under 30 yr old under 45 kg and pure filth in bed. Not much.

I'm only here for another 5-6 days and I'm fast running out of options. My office and accommodation is quite beyond the left side of river, so maybe that won't help. I set the net to 15 km though which covers quite an area.

Anyone want to help a brother at 10 pm on a Friday night?

As mentioned in various posts over the last page or two, there has been some moderation by TF in the last year, so the FL's are as blatently obvious as maybe before. You need to be more forward that's all. Not in your profile, but just message the girls you like, say you are only in town for a short time, you are looking for a quick hook up in your hotel and you'd pay (just say taxi's etc initially) but they'll take the hint. You'll find the responses will start flooding in.

BKK is not a problem, but if you are staying on the outskirts, to make it clear you will pay and cover all travelling expenses etc.

I presume you have put a photo on your profile? The second I take mine down, I stop getting 'visits'.

[Mogwai]

All I want is the same as every other guy here I would guess. A pretty face under 30 yr old under 45 kg and pure filth in bed. Not much.

There are many girls with a pretty face and under 30 yo, but not that many who are also under 45 kg and pure filth in bed. So maybe you are indeed too fussy.
Under 45 kg is rather skinny for the average Thai girl around 155 - 160 cm tall.

[Mr Enternational]

Been here 3 weeks, but only started with TF last few days. I'm in my early 40's, not in bad shape (no gut) etc, and been playing with different profile text. Initially I tried to woo with nice guy etc, but was attracting the long are / ship ones.

In the end reduced to something that would indicate my intentions. Have only managed to get one on WA that I liked and in negotiation stage at moment but no meet. I'm no idiot but I'm starting to think BKK is not great for TF.

1. It has been said many times in here that Bangkok is not the place for Thai Friendly. You will be a hog in slop with it in Pattaya.

2. Nobody reads what you write, so you are wasting your time trying to be clever.

[DavidStow]

Been following posts, esp. SubCmdr (thank you).

Been here 3 weeks, but only started with TF last few days. I'm in my early 40's, not in bad shape (no gut) etc, and been playing with different profile text. Initially I tried to woo with nice guy etc, but was attracting the long are / ship ones.

In the end reduced to something that would indicate my intentions. Have only managed to get one on WA that I liked and in negotiation stage at moment but no meet. I'm no idiot but I'm starting to think BKK is not great for TF. The girls seem v busy as when I send msg it takes an age to reply, even with premium and selecting 'put my replies at the top'. OR maybe I'm being too fussy looking for the 7-8/10's.

If I have no more real success and I've given it many hours, I'll have to get over to Sukhumvit somewhere.

1st time in Thailand and BKK, so I realize there's a learning curve.

All I want is the same as every other guy here I would guess. A pretty face under 30 yr old under 45 kg and pure filth in bed. Not much.

I'm only here for another 5-6 days and I'm fast running out of options. My office and accommodation is quite beyond the left side of river, so maybe that won't help. I set the net to 15 km though which covers quite an area.

Anyone want to help a brother at 10 pm on a Friday night?

[SubCmdr]

but we were talking about opening lines for a message.

Never had a problem! Of course that does not mean that I never will.

Exactly why you need an opening line that is overtly sexual is a mystery to me. Maybe individuals are uncreative or have low vocabularies. There is an accepted lingo. Learn it and use it. I only get explicit off of Thai Friendly when I am in direct personal communication.

[PgReal]

In addition, also don't mention in your profile text or headline that you're looking for freelancers, fun only, ST, short time, LT, long time, or similar phrases.

My opening line in Pattaya is usually something like 'Are you looking for a customer?' Because 99% of the female TF members there are P4 P..

The thing as well is, if they moderate your profile, they don't inform you, I only discovered it after I didn't receive any 'visits' or 'likes' for about 8 hours. I thought that's funny and just checked my Sub was active etc and by chance saw my profile was just listed 'moderated'. As soon as I changed it being a bit more cleaver with my turn of phrase, all was OK.

So, just a tip, to check your profile every now and then to make sure you are 'active' and not censored.

[Mogwai]

It does not matter anyway, because nobody reads that stuff. Over the years, chicks have asked me thousands of times on dating sites where I live, where I am from or how old I am. And those are the main things a profile consists of. No need to worry about opening lines or any other lines. Just put a picture up and start contacting folks.

You are talking about profiles, but we were talking about opening lines for a message.