Sexual Wellness and other Sex related discussions

[BKKguru]

Dear friends,

I am 40+ now. Till a few years back I never bothered about libido / erection / protection / contraception etc. Everything was smooth. But, since last few years things have changed. Now libido is much less, erections weaker and so need to worry about erections and protection. I checked with dr. Google and it said that it is andropause! This is a difficult and new situation which reduces desire and makes it difficult to enjoy.
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2. edonD is tadalafil 10 MG and dapoxetine 30 MG. For erections and preventing premature ejaculation. I never needed all these pills but, now I guess, I will need it. 40+ andropaused guys with practical experience please reply with specific inputs.
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My PM is active. I expect proper guidance from experienced users. No general info which is available on google. If you PM and also leave your contacts there. We may talk.

Thanking everyone.
Your bro.

Bro,
You have a lot of questions. Since you "expect proper guidance from experienced users", I suggest:

Consult a Doctor regarding the medication edonD. The best way to find a Doctor is to ask another Doctor.
Do your homework and read the Doctor reviews online.

The information shared on this forum is based on individual experience. This may or may not apply to you since each human body is different.
Your body may not react the same way as my body when taking the same medication. One size does NOT fit all for Allopathic or Ayurvedic medicine.

Best wishes,
~BKKguru.

[Naked Desires3]

Dear friends,

I am 40+ now. Till a few years back I never bothered about libido / erection / protection / contraception etc. Everything was smooth. But, since last few years things have changed. Now libido is much less, erections weaker and so need to worry about erections and protection. I checked with dr. Google and it said that it is andropause! This is a difficult and new situation which reduces desire and makes it difficult to enjoy.

I request experienced 40+ guys who are in andropause phase to empathize with me and please reply with specific inputs. No general gyan (preaching) of the kind that is already available on google from those who cannot understand my predicament.

1. any strategy to strongly boost libido? Without steroidal testosterone drugs. Ayurvedic herbs and exercise is no longer effective as before. Don't want to use ayurvedic formulas with mercury. Erection pills give erection but not libido. If any formula or strategy has strongly worked for someone please let me know. PM is active.

2. edonD is tadalafil 10 MG and dapoxetine 30 MG. For erections and preventing premature ejaculation. I never needed all these pills but, now I guess, I will need it. 40+ andropaused guys with practical experience please reply with specific inputs.

## how long before intercourse should edonD tab be taken? The general advice says 1-3 hours before. What is best from practical experience? At this age I prefer very long foreplay to heat things up. If so should edonD be taken in middle of foreplay? Does the time gap between edonD tab intake and intercourse factor-in a long foreplay?

## should edonD be taken before or after food? How long after? Any hypoglycemic sinking feeling? How to minimize side effects? Will taking after food make things more comfortable with no side effects? How long after? If taken several hours after dinner will it create more side effects?

## should 1 full tab be taken or is half tab good enough?

## how long does the effect last? Hours? Days?

## is one tab good enough for 2 shots? Does it delay ejaculation significantly?

## what to do if there is a headache, restlessness and insomnia immediately after taking 1 tab? How to handle the situation on the spot?

## is there a visible erection next morning too? I read that there is erection only if there are sexual thoughts but, if there is a residual erection next day it may be embarrassing to go out in public. Would like to know about user experiences.

## can it be taken daily? Is it safe to do so? Or should it be taken alternate days? Does the effect of 1 tab continue next night too?

## any withdrawal effects? Can it be taken occasionally only if required?

3. due to weaker erections condoms are no longer useful. Moreover, condoms are causing premature ejaculation. So, what is the option for protection?

## how about female condoms? Preferable or will make matters worse? I wanted to use female condoms because, it is erection independent but, I suspect it to be clumsy and not enjoyable. Anyone with experience with female condoms? Nitrile or latex? Which brand?

Or is it better to use male condom? (but in that case I will need to take edonD first and then use the condom).

4. earlier, I never worried about contraception (with long term partners) because condom works best for protection as well as contraception. But, now with weaker erections I need to worry about contraception too. I do not prefer the oral pills due to side effects. So, is the calendar method (rhythm method) the only option for me (apart from struggling with male / female condoms along with edonD)?

5. "Yes WB Organic Natural Water Based Personal Lubricant" is the only water based organic lubricant that I know. Any other or better option for water based lubricant that is safe for oral sex activity too?

6. vaginal odour: well, this is a tough situation! How do you guys handle it and what is the best way to make the area tasty and sweet smelling for deep licking? My last GF had this issue and it was a big turn off!

## Now, I am wondering whether a proper shower along with V-WASH can help. Can any experienced user pitch in with detailed inputs please? Any better option than v-wash?

## Should it be used on the inner vaginal lips (labia minora) as well as outside (labia majora) and the entire pubes, thigh creases up to the anal region?

## How long to keep it? Any other tips?

## Will it completely remove the odour from inside? But, how? V-wash is not supposed to be pushed inside the vagina and so, how will the odours stop?

## Gynecologists say that vagina is a self-cleansing organ and putting all these washes inside disturbs the natural balance of flora-fauna inside the vagina and makes the female prone to infection. I care for my partners and there is selfish interest too! If she gets infected or smell awful it won't be nice to me! So, what should be done? Should v-wash be used or not? And the most important question: what should be the frequency of v-wash use? Daily or alternate day or several times a week? (how many days a week?) how to handle the vaginal odours on days no v-wash is used?

7. please suggest the best way to shop for condoms etc online. I am looking for a portal that is truly discreet. A really discreet portal will do discreet packing + not mention "condom" in the shipment contents declaration on the label + not mention the suggestive name of the portal as the sender. Please help.

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## please recommend an ayurvedic doctor who offers customized ayurvedic formula (without toxic herbs or heavy metals) for andropaused patients and is able to restore the libido. Better if he is available on practo for online consultation.

## please recommend a sexologist (allopathic) who is a real expert and is able to answer questions at the level I have asked here. Better if he is available on practo for online consultation.

My PM is active. I expect proper guidance from experienced users. No general info which is available on google. If you PM and also leave your contacts there. We may talk.

Thanking everyone.

Your bro.

[VikingLord1]

I will list out my process which I have created over the past year.

1. Carry a small sized Listerine bottle and rinse mouth along with the therapist (Thais are usually much more hygienic and carry their own mouthwash which they use to rinse mouth before and after the deed, I learnt it from them).

2. Take a shower with the therapist prior to the deed or at least wipe them with a wet towel. Many non-Thai therapists are lazy and do not clean themselves after the deed, so if she had a client before you she might be dirty.

3. Post deed, use some antifungal soap to wash yourself. I usually keep one in my bag and use it in the spa shower if I am not planning on returning home immediately. Some tried and tested soaps:

Abzorb.

Soapex.

Both are available on 1 MG.

4. I usually prefer not to use the towels in the spa and instead ask for a fresh disposable paper sheet (the ones that are used on the bed).

5. Take daily supplements of zinc, vitamins d, c and b complex etc.

I feel hygiene is important especially if you have a wife or a GF, even if you are single you would want to maintain your health.

Please share your inputs and experiences on this.

[Naked Desires3]

I am 40 and I use the blue pill regularly, when I mean regularly I usually mean when I am with a girl, I usually book the girl for the night, then pop a pill and bone the whole night, no side effects so far.

Erection pills give only erections. Not libido.

Any suggestion (except the testosterone steroids) to strongly raise libido?

For 40+ guys shilajit / ayurvedicv herbs / exercise does not work as before.

No theoretical reply please. 40+ guys with practical experience may please write here and also PM. Would like to talk with a 40+ guy who has a successful experience with erection enhancer pill + libido enhancer. Please leave your contacts.

[BigRed20]

Hello friends,

My age is 40 and married also. I explore mongering whenever my family goes out for long vacation. Though I find attractive girls though SP. I'm not able to fully enjoy with them. My body temperature rises up with anxiety and come very soon just after 10 strokes or in 1 or 2 min. I feel very bad about it. Any suggestions please.

Hey Bro,

Avoid porn and Masturbation. These two factors contribute in cumming soon.

Be Safe.

Red.

[Lamboos]

The transmission of illness though contact is vary based on the nature of the microbes you came into contact. It elaborate s STD STI VD contact infectious and contagious that is airborne.

All these illness caused by virus bacteria and fungus.

In general most of viral STDs spreads in contact through body fluids including breast milk. Most of body fluids like saliva. Nose mucus. Genital discharges contain rich in dead aforesaid microbes as well as less amount of live microbes.

The theory of 'when ulcer only transmission' is not true. Because most time at least one open cut they have in their mouth or genital due various reasons.

Technically there are two separate classes of infection. One is HIVs and rest all another class. Why HIV is more lethal but spreads slowly, because it infects only extreme condition and after the infection it won't spreads immediately to next partner. Based individual immunity it takes weeks to years to gets its potency to appear in body fluids and spread to other partner. So before appearing into body fluids it damages the entire immune system so that people lose stamina so naturally lose sexual activeness so that hiv spreads low rates but direct contact with open wound or breast fluids is exceptional and it infects even during incubation period.

The another class of infections spreads quickly through body fluids skin contact etc etc these are all mostly curable but spreads partner to partner without any symptoms. People who may say or think they to not have any symptoms may sometimes act as carrier and communicate the infection s to others. On the otherside wgs and s pa g irls working overtime to meet the current demand and no time for personal hygiene.

As per the datas protected sex with out orals it's 99% safe from hiv and 90% safe from other communicable infections.

The common known communicable STIs syphilis gonorrhoea chyamydia mycobacterium warts herps hpvs etc. Most of them have medicine as well as vaccine. The one more deadly uncommon is hepatitis it's spreads through ST and only visible when your liver completely worn out.

Mongers go for regular checkups and vaccination program as per doctor s instructions to save the joy of life. Unfortunately some of infections spreads not only to sexual partners it spreads to family members too. So always go for protected enjoyment.

Based on your post oral contact 2-3 mints are way high to transmission. However unlikely you won't get the infection all the time due to various factors like cleaness of mouth / microbial load / pH of your mouth / your immunity etc.

So try always protected happyness. Incase you damn sure of infection then go for PEP treatment. If you have only doubt then consult doc and test after the window period like 7 to 21 days.

Fun fact is vagina and mouth are similar organs which having self cleaning mechanism as we as expel dead and unwanded debris LOL.

Finally if you have time watch the movie Dallas buyers club and Bohemian Rhapsody. Just to relax.

Personally. Do you go for a fck without a condm your own? Tht to wg?

Some of the information provided by you is not accurate bro. HIV does NOT wait till it destroys one's immunity before it can be transmitted. HIV has 3-4 stages of evolution and generally an infected person has the highest viral load in the body during the first two stages. If one does not take treatment or ART, then the final stage is the dreaded AIDS condition. It is in this stage, that your body is completely destroyed and your immune system is compromised. It is not true that only when a person's immunity is completely destroyed that they will be able to transmit. Highest risk of transmission is at initial stages when mostly there are not even any symptoms. And all infections other than HIV are not curable. Most of the bacterial infections like gonorrhea, syphilis, etc are curable by antibiotics especially if you catch them early. The viral infections like HPV, herpes & HIV are for life. Once you acquire them, it is for life. You can treat the symptoms, but you will not be cured of the virus. Some vaccines are available though for things like HPV. Unfortunately because of widespread misuse of antibiotics, some infections like gonorrhea have developed into new strains like super gonorrhea which don't respond to regular antibiotics. And regarding ulcers, it is true that ulcers are not a prerequisite for transmission of herpes, but there is higher risk of transmission if there are visible symptoms like lesions, ulcers or sores.

https://hivinfo.nih.gov/understanding-hiv/fact-sheets/stages-hiv-infection

[MyPrivateLife]

Bro great info but I really doubt it spreads through breast milk. In that case I have seen lot of mongers asking for lactating lady so everyone / whoever sucks boobs need to visit doc, isn't it? Any doc here please clarify.

The transmission of illness though contact is vary based on the nature of the microbes you came into contact. It elaborate s STD STI VD contact infectious and contagious that is airborne.

All these illness caused by virus bacteria and fungus.

In general most of viral STDs spreads in contact through body fluids including breast milk. Most of body fluids like saliva. Nose mucus. Genital discharges contain rich in dead aforesaid microbes as well as less amount of live microbes.

The theory of 'when ulcer only transmission' is not true. Because most time at least one open cut they have in their mouth or genital due various reasons.

Technically there are two separate classes of infection. One is HIVs and rest all another class. Why HIV is more lethal but spreads slowly, because it infects only extreme condition and after the infection it won't spreads immediately to next partner. Based individual immunity it takes weeks to years to gets its potency to appear in body fluids and spread to other partner. So before appearing into body fluids it damages the entire immune system so that people lose stamina so naturally lose sexual activeness so that hiv spreads low rates but direct contact with open wound or breast fluids is exceptional and it infects even during incubation period.

The another class of infections spreads quickly through body fluids skin contact etc etc these are all mostly curable but spreads partner to partner without any symptoms. People who may say or think they to not have any symptoms may sometimes act as carrier and communicate the infection s to others. On the otherside wgs and s pa g irls working overtime to meet the current demand and no time for personal hygiene.

As per the datas protected sex with out orals it's 99% safe from hiv and 90% safe from other communicable infections.

[Niksad008]

Brothers,

I am nearing 43 and facing difficulties maitaining a hard-on although get aroused and penetrating, but mid-way loose my erection and unable to complete the act. I have identified the problem and it has to do with my job (stressful), lifestyle (moderate drinking and smoking) and to add that I am sedentary physical activities wise. While I am working on these aspects by improvising the same and avoiding any sort of porn or masturbation, but would require feedback from anyone who is using any sort of herbal, ayuvedic, homoepathic help for having a hard-on and strong libido.

Have tried the blue and other magic pills, which work great but do not want to use them regularly due to the various side-effects reported..

I am 40 and I use the blue pill regularly, when I mean regularly I usually mean when I am with a girl, I usually book the girl for the night, then pop a pill and bone the whole night, no side effects so far.

[Jas2469]

Brothers,

I am nearing 43 and facing difficulties maitaining a hard-on although get aroused and penetrating, but mid-way loose my erection and unable to complete the act. I have identified the problem and it has to do with my job (stressful), lifestyle (moderate drinking and smoking) and to add that I am sedentary physical activities wise. While I am working on these aspects by improvising the same and avoiding any sort of porn or masturbation, but would require feedback from anyone who is using any sort of herbal, ayuvedic, homoepathic help for having a hard-on and strong libido.

Have tried the blue and other magic pills, which work great but do not want to use them regularly due to the various side-effects reported.

Jas.

[AeonRider]

The transmission of illness though contact is vary based on the nature of the microbes you came into contact. It elaborate s STD STI VD contact infectious and contagious that is airborne.

All these illness caused by virus bacteria and fungus.

In general most of viral STDs spreads in contact through body fluids including breast milk. Most of body fluids like saliva. Nose mucus. Genital discharges contain rich in dead aforesaid microbes as well as less amount of live microbes.

The theory of 'when ulcer only transmission' is not true. Because most time at least one open cut they have in their mouth or genital due various reasons.

Technically there are two separate classes of infection. One is HIVs and rest all another class. Why HIV is more lethal but spreads slowly, because it infects only extreme condition and after the infection it won't spreads immediately to next partner. Based individual immunity it takes weeks to years to gets its potency to appear in body fluids and spread to other partner. So before appearing into body fluids it damages the entire immune system so that people lose stamina so naturally lose sexual activeness so that hiv spreads low rates but direct contact with open wound or breast fluids is exceptional and it infects even during incubation period.

The another class of infections spreads quickly through body fluids skin contact etc etc these are all mostly curable but spreads partner to partner without any symptoms. People who may say or think they to not have any symptoms may sometimes act as carrier and communicate the infection s to others. On the otherside wgs and s pa g irls working overtime to meet the current demand and no time for personal hygiene.

As per the datas protected sex with out orals it's 99% safe from hiv and 90% safe from other communicable infections.

The common known communicable STIs syphilis gonorrhoea chyamydia mycobacterium warts herps hpvs etc. Most of them have medicine as well as vaccine. The one more deadly uncommon is hepatitis it's spreads through ST and only visible when your liver completely worn out.

Mongers go for regular checkups and vaccination program as per doctor s instructions to save the joy of life. Unfortunately some of infections spreads not only to sexual partners it spreads to family members too. So always go for protected enjoyment.

Based on your post oral contact 2-3 mints are way high to transmission. However unlikely you won't get the infection all the time due to various factors like cleaness of mouth / microbial load / pH of your mouth / your immunity etc.

So try always protected happyness. Incase you damn sure of infection then go for PEP treatment. If you have only doubt then consult doc and test after the window period like 7 to 21 days.

Fun fact is vagina and mouth are similar organs which having self cleaning mechanism as we as expel dead and unwanded debris LOL.

Finally if you have time watch the movie Dallas buyers club and Bohemian Rhapsody. Just to relax.

Personally. Do you go for a fck without a condm your own? Tht to wg?

Guys since my last monger (Lalitha) I have been thinking too much about this STD after someone posted about it, please help me solve this question.

1 - I got my first bbj from her, is there any risk from getting STD from BBJ?(barely 2-3min)

2 - she bought a condom, which was almost twice my size of Johnny, when I doing I saw it was bigger, this happens with bigger condom (full condom open) or she did something to that condom? (because I don't remember if she open new but the rapper was there).

3 - she asked my to put without condom but I didn't do it. (because of this I'm asking 2nd question I have been thinking why she asked me to put without condom).

[OldMongerer]

Guys since my last monger (Lalitha) I have been thinking too much about this STD after someone posted about it, please help me solve this question.

1 - I got my first bbj from her, is there any risk from getting STD from BBJ?(barely 2-3min)

2 - she bought a condom, which was almost twice my size of Johnny, when I doing I saw it was bigger, this happens with bigger condom (full condom open) or she did something to that condom? (because I don't remember if she open new but the rapper was there).

3 - she asked my to put without condom but I didn't do it. (because of this I'm asking 2nd question I have been thinking why she asked me to put without condom).

Don't worry. But do get tested so that you can take it off your mind. In future, always carry your own condom for the peace of your mind. It's safer that way.

[Expired]

Guys since my last monger (Lalitha) I have been thinking too much about this STD after someone posted about it, please help me solve this question.

1 - I got my first bbj from her, is there any risk from getting STD from BBJ?(barely 2-3min)

2 - she bought a condom, which was almost twice my size of Johnny, when I doing I saw it was bigger, this happens with bigger condom (full condom open) or she did something to that condom? (because I don't remember if she open new but the rapper was there).

3 - she asked my to put without condom but I didn't do it. (because of this I'm asking 2nd question I have been thinking why she asked me to put without condom).

[Michelle01]

Hello friends,

My age is 40 and married also. I explore mongering whenever my family goes out for long vacation. Though I find attractive girls though SP. I'm not able to fully enjoy with them. My body temperature rises up with anxiety and come very soon just after 10 strokes or in 1 or 2 min. I feel very bad about it. Any suggestions please.

Do you have high blood pressure? It's good to know it and control it.

But if it's just a high temperature because of high levels of anxiety, I recommend that you try not to think about whether you'll be able to do it with the girl or not, foreplay is the best option to help you relax and enjoy the moment without worrying so much in your mind, remember that anxiety totally paralyses us sometimes.

Don't give up so fast, if you notice anxiety coming on then try to change positions or play a little, don't let anxiety dominate you.

[Member #4727]

You should relax a bit, because if you don't have symptoms, yet it's because you didn't catch any STIs.

The articles you've read are right in that you can catch an STI through unprotected oral sex, some diseases of this kind show symptoms over the following days, but others don't, but having regular check-ups is enough to detect any diseases.

Thanks Michelle, I did a test it's negative. Now stopped all sexual activities.

[Michelle01]

Friends,

I am very much afraid after receiving oral sex from a sex worker. I read a lot of articles online. Every article says there are 100 percentage possibilities for catching STD form unprotected blow job. It's been a month and what should I do now. Please help me on this friends.

You should relax a bit, because if you don't have symptoms, yet it's because you didn't catch any STIs.

The articles you've read are right in that you can catch an STI through unprotected oral sex, some diseases of this kind show symptoms over the following days, but others don't, but having regular check-ups is enough to detect any diseases.